Oprah and Barbara Walters are not the only people who can get the juicy details out of folks, ya’ll. Just ask Chad Johnson. The…hmm…let’s call him a former reality star and football star (I don’t want to say former to the latter and assume it’s a wrap for him because he IS talented), appeared on ESPN’s First Take with sports journalist and sports analyst Skip Bayless and Stephen A. Smith. While his appearance was supposed to mainly be about football, they did bombard him with a bevvy of questions about Evelyn, his domestic abuse past, and what he thought about the fact that instead of really going somewhere to heal, Evelyn went to everyone from Iyanla Vanzant and the folks at Nightline to People magazine to talk about their infamous fight, and the past violence she dealt with when it came to being with Chad.
In a very well-spoken manner (hey, you never know what you’re going to get with these professional football players), Johnson admitted his wrongdoing for the umpteenth time during a tense interview with the men (the woman there wasn’t really introduced). When asked what went down on that fateful night of August 11, Johnson kept it really real:
“What happened was a mistake…a mistake that I’ve continuously apologized for to the people I’ve hurt, including my wife. I’ve stated that numerous times, I know you’ve heard it. I think me continuing to say sorry drowns it out. I’ve accepted responsibility for my actions, especially with her…The domestic dispute, for one, was all my fault because I’m was living life the way it shouldn’t be lived, which is why I lost everything I did. Because that man upstairs said, let me bring you back a little bit, because you’re living too wild. So, it is what it is. I made the bed, I’m laying in it. I paid the price for what I did wrong.”
As the interview became more and more tense, he was asked if he definitely did cheat and he confidently said, “Yes, that’s where everything stemmed from. Remember??” And when asked what his stance is on domestic violence, something he’s had issues with in the past before the alleged headbutting incident, he says that of course, it’s wrong, but it is something he’s dealing with. “My stance is, it’s wrong. It’s common sense. but I’ve made mistakes. Don’t crucify me because we all sin differently.”
The deepest thing Johnson had to say that surprised me was his response to the fact that many, including Stephen A. Smith, think Lozada ran to the media too fast and tried to get notoriety off of the incident. As Smith says, “She’s on TV just as much as we are, lamenting the state of affairs.” Instead of saying, “Uh, hell yes she milked that cow for all it was worth!” Johnson said that he’s lived so much of his life in the public, it’s only fair for her to share the story and let it play out in the public too:
“Think about my life in general? What have I ever done in private? Think about it? Nothing. Not my marriage, not the way I play the game, not the way I live my life. So when things go sour it should be the same way. It should be out there in the public eye. I am no saint. I am no angel. I never proclaimed to be. I was squeaky clean for a long time, which is why i was able to get away with some of the stuff I’ve done. Finally, I have to humble myself. I’m not complaining, I’m not fussing about being cut. I’m going to play again, I would think and I would hope so. If I don’t, I’m okay with walking away.”
You’re okay with walking away from the game of football?
“I don’t have a choice. What am I going to do? Fuss? Knock down the doors? Beg??? Chile please…”
To sum up this sensitive part of the interview, Johnson was given props for admitting his faults and problems, but he was also asked what he’s really trying to do NOW and in the future to be a better person. His answer? He’s taking the classes needed to keep his hands to himself.
“The only thing I can do is get help for the problem that I have. And right now that is domestic violence classes. Anything any further than that, I’m not sure. But right now the course says you have a 26-week program you need to get through before you do anything else with your life.”
I can respect that Chad is being so open and honest about his part in the demise of their relationship and the fact that he does have a problem with domestic violence. But after watching this very awkward interview (especially with that “Chile please” moment) and knowing his history with being in the spotlight, I think he needs to focus on football and healing himself in private. Check out the interview below and let us know what you think.
What do you think about his responses?