Rude Much? 9 Celebritiy Wives (Past And Present) Who Receive Unnecessary Shade For Their Looks

December 7, 2012  |  
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I am sick and tired of the amount of shade given to current and former wives of certain celebrity men. Somehow, I’ve grown accustomed to hearing harsh comments and questions about why certain men decided to be with certain women. While I know some of us believe every woman is beautiful in their own way, there are others that do not subscribe to this notion. I used to think trashing others was a female thing. But now, more and more men are jumping on the cattiness bandwagon too. I really wish more of us would make use of the old adage “if you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say anything at all.” But since we don’t live in a perfect world and people will continue to vocalize their opinions, however hurtful or unnecessary they may be, let’s take a look at a few wives of celebrities who have been on the receiving end of some unnecessary criticism for their looks.


Pauletta Washington

One of the hottest hunks in Hollywood is not an eligible bachelor. Sad face. His wife Pauletta has a beautiful smile, exudes confidence, and is strikingly gorgeous. Some people don’t share my opinions of her good looks which made them more inclined to question their relationship early on or ask why she doesn’t dress or look a certain way, just because she isn’t their standard of what’s considered attractive. I have often been baffled at how quickly some of us rejoice at seeing celebrity men with “sistas” but then we dog their women out when they don’t look exotic enough for our liking. In any case, the picture perfect family isn’t deterred by the unwarranted, negative feedback as they just celebrated 29 years of marriage in June.


Jennifer Garner

I’m assuming the basis for the amount of shade Ben Affleck’s wife has received is due to people comparing her looks to his ex-fiancé, Jennifer Lopez. Both are beautiful women but since his wife isn’t as popular as J-Lo and may not have an extensive fan base, she is often labeled as a downgrade. I’m sure they could care less about the haters since they welcomed their third bundle of joy into their seemingly happy household.


Jennifer Aniston

America’s favorite “Girl next door” has received her fair share of criticism also. Her looks have been compared to his current fiancé Angelina Jolie on the regular because the assumption (which seems true), is that he left Jenn for Angie, and to some, Jennifer doesn’t measure up. I don’t care how beautiful Angelina is on the outside, the amount of hurt and pain she caused Jennifer by being a willing participant in the demise of Brad and Jennifer’s marriage is not attractive at all. So I will be Team Jennifer any day considering she’s pretty, classy, doesn’t throw digs at people, and is about to get a second chance at marriage. BOOM!

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Tameka “Tiny” Cottle

I love Tiny. I love her cute Southern accent, the way she carries herself, and the way she seems like a “ride or die” chick. What I don’t love is how some people love to go in on her looks. There is a part of me that assumes most of her haters are just jealous that she pulled such a fine man. T.I. adores his wife and does not take kindly to anyone insulting her. In fact, he is willing to defend his family at all costs considering not too long ago, he threatened a few people on Instagram who had written negative things about his wife. Nevertheless, the jealousy of Tiny’s haters will continue to grow since their show, T.I. & Tiny: The Family Hustle, which features their beautiful family, is making strides in its second season.


Tameka Raymond

Tameka’s name has been in the news so much lately that peoples’ opinions of her looks may have taken a backseat to all of the other troubles she’s been involved in. When she first emerged as Usher’s wife, some people couldn’t understand what the superstar saw in the older celebrity stylist. Again, many people compared her looks to those of his ex-girlfriend, Chilli, and to some people Tameka was not the best candidate for his love. Tameka was bothered by her critics so much so, that she wrote a piece for the Huffington Post outlining the demeaning characteristics people had given her. However, Tameka’s beauty captured handsome, high-profile men in the past and I’m sure it will continue to attract her some of the same types of men in the future.


Sarah Jane Fenton

Sarah has been unable to escape the tongue-lashing some people given her, especially during her pregnancy. The majority of the meanest comments stemmed from people who don’t understand what the fine actor sees in her. I see a beautiful former actress playing dual roles as both doting mother and wife to her hubby of 17 years. I’m thinking Clive sees the same thing, so whatever to the haters.


Torrei Hart

Torrei is another ex-wife who is unable to escape comparisons. Many people think Kevin’s current flame is an upgrade so what does that say about his ex-wife? When I heard so many people go in on her, I just had to see what she looked like. Imagine my surprise to find out that she was cute, naturally cute at that. I’m starting to think some of her criticism is related to her unsavory comments, which were actually jokes, about the comedian. They say behind every joke lies a bit of truth so I’m sure his stans were not pleased with her remarks. But luckily the two do what they need to, to get along and work together for the sake of their little ones. But seriously though, she’s gorgeous!


Camilla, the Duchess of Cornwall

Not only was Prince Charles stepping out on his gorgeous wife Diana with Camilla, he had the nerve to marry her years later. I can understand the shade she receives about her messy marriage to Prince Charles, but attacking her looks is still unacceptable. We’ll never know if she would have received so much negativity if she wasn’t a mistress, even though there is a part of me that thinks a few people would have still went in on her looks (because that’s just what some people like to do). His family accepts her so maybe one day the general public will too.


Michelle Obama

I would love to think critical comments about the First Lady’s looks only stem from right-wing haters who can’t stand to see a black President and black First Lady, but some of them have come from our own people! When she first debuted when the President was running for senate in Illinois, some had less than respectful comments to share about her hair, her makeup and more. And after years of being in the White House, some people still love to say negative and even hateful things. In a world where African Americans have overcome great strides and have finally made achievements we may not have ever thought was possible, there are still weak-minded people out there that let us know we still have a long way to go. Not only is Michelle Obama beautiful, she is intelligent, a sharp dresser, Ivy-League educated, and nabbed the President.

Are there any other wives of celebrities that people seem to love to hate on?

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  • You keep using the word ‘shade. I do not think it means what you think it means.

  • Udont Knowme

    LL Cool J’s wife Simone should’ve been on this list. I think she’s pretty but I know a lot of ppl have said L can do better….

  • DeDe

    Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. Although to me the bad looking one here is Jay Z when you compare him to Beyoncé. Also, Kevin Hart and his ex-wife, she is cute. Michelle and Obama neither are very attractive people. There are many bi-racial people that are beautiful or very handsome, our president is not one of them. His sister is very attractive, I have seen pictures of her. Vanessa Williams and Mariah Carey are bi-racial they are beautiful.

  • Pamela Jones-Meadows

    Exactly what does one have to do these days to be considered beautiful, get fake boobs and booties…just saying. Peace and Blessings.

  • JaneJane

    Plastic surgery makes some people look strange, which is why the dislike for Tiny. But, Usher’s ex, gets negative attention because of how his mother and fans felt when they started plus the fact that she is older with so many children (before his two). It didn’t get better when they were married because of her insecurity and surgeries; which brings me to the first point: plastic surgery makes some people look strange!

  • Angel

    No woman can steal or take a man from another woman unless he is waiting to be stolen.

  • Lateshia

    I have to agree with this list all the women are pretty and to comment on Usher and Tameka, Tameka is a pretty lady and of course Usher is a handsome man and free to date and marry whoever he chooses. I just knew something wasn’t right with that relationship like it wasn’t going to last. I was right. Ben and J-Lo….at first I was like “awww they broke up” now I’m like it was for the best and Ben picked a great person Jennifer Gardner is a beautiful woman and I like how she isn’t walking around in heels all day like J-Lo. What is wrong with Pauletta? She is a beautiful woman and Tiny also I’m a huge fan of Xscape and I think Tiny is a pretty lady I’m glad her and T.I. are still holding on. This whole subject taught me not to be shallow and focus on looks because you might lose a good thing.

  • scandalous7

    The black community (especially black women) are constantly throwing shade at one another. It is extremely sad. I have been guilty of it also. We need to change and start respecting each other because that is one of the main things hindering our community from moving forward. So much hate among us.

  • stat

    I have never seen anyone say a single bad thing about michelle obama. This writer is the first. This list is bullshit. The best thing to do is ignore this type of foolishness, not highlight it by compiling a list.

  • BAP

    yall wrong for using the BEST PHOTO of tiny ever in this article to fight the truth,but she loves her some tip and he loves him some tiny so let it be…

  • Emotional immaturity is the black community’s most destructive attribute. Too many of us (just read some of the posts on this site) have the maturity of high-school kids with the intellect to match.

    We need to get out in the world more (seriously, travel farther than to your family reunion, see the world) and expand our minds past the gossip, fashion and celebrity obsession.

    • scandalous7

      will you fund this “expansion”?

  • Krystena Castro

    You are missing a whole bunch of others whose wives get the worse of it (i.e. Hugh Jackman, Actor Jesse Williams from Grey’s Anatomy, etc) Love it love.

  • mac

    The Michelle Obama shade from black women especially pisses me off. We have a BLACK WOMAN as our FLOTUS. Do we even understand the magnitude of that?

    Nah, we’re just worried about the fact that she doesn’t look like Beyonce.

    I tell ya, I can’t with my own people.

    • scandalous7

      i cant either

  • SheSpeaks

    People just shallow and hateful…. I know with black woman if you brown or dark its a problem. The media has people so brainwashed they think just because you brown or dark skin you don’t deserve a husband just a baby and problems you know we suppose to be the bitter ex girlfriend, babymomma’s or angry single girl in a lot of the videos and movies subliminal messages, so when people see us outside that role they get a little pissy and hateful. I guess this can also go for regular looking woman as well the media has everyone believing in this airbrush beauty so when artist go for something else people get all butthurt why ???? because its easier to work on your outer than your inner a lot of these shallow azz woman don’t have nothing to offer…. if some of these men smarten up and look for substance instead of outer most of these lazy azz woman would not have nothing to offer. They just wanna look pretty on they arm and some of these niggaz letting them. it takes more than looking pretty to hold a family together and being a loyal backbone for your man. Add Savannah and Derrick Rose lady to the list I notice people hate on them for no reason they never ask well i wonder how she treats him they automatically get salty and tear down their appearance.

    • Mike

      I love everything you just said Chad and Evelyn Lozada come to mind. Wanted a trophy and got a ghetto hot mess. LOL

  • JustSayin

    U wasn’t with him when he was cruising in the bucket! lmao. — Denzel and Barack ain’t worried about you… If anything they glad they chose their wives. If they messed with some of ya’ll Denzel would be working at the boys & girls club and Obama would have went to Heald College instead of Harvard. Don’t worry about why these celebrities keep their wives… If anything you should be worried if you are doing the right things to maintain a husband. People have the tendency on putting energy into unnecessary places and wonder why they are always ending up behind.

  • I have respect for all these couples with the exception of Prince Charles and Camilla. Call me what you want, but that was just messy what they both did to Diana! Damn them!

  • I really don’t like how people throw around the word “hater.” To “hate” on someone you have to envy them and the things that they have. That’s presumptuous because we assume that the things these people have are nice. I talk about how Tiny looks all the time and don’t feel bad about it or consider myself a hater. When these individuals sought fame they signed themselves up to be judged, talked about, ect. That comes with the job. Don’t like it; get another one.

  • Okay. I get some of the shade people through at Angie and I despise cheaters. HOWEVER people need to have an attitude with my boo Brad. He is the cheater, he owed his love and loyalty to Jen and broke her heart. Angie didn’t marry Jen. That really bugs me when the men in these situations get a pass.

    • VVV

      He didnt get a pass by me. I have never watched a Brad or Angiee movie since. I dont click on articles with them- nothing. Its obvioulsy not going to hurt them or their lifestyle but my money is mine and I put it where my mouth and values are.

  • Who got something bad to say about Michelle? She is the best looking first lady this country has had since Jackie O. As for Prince Charles….who ever is talking about Camilla must ain’t looked at Charles….those 2 look like they belong together. Tiny was cute til she messed with her face. Pauletta is beautiful…..I think her and Denzel look alike! Just my 2 cents anyway

  • Negress

    The higher his profile the finer she has to be. If she is obviously out of his league looks wise she’s branded a gold digger. If we can’t see “it,” we wander.

    • Negress


  • IllyPhilly

    Angie was supposedly a freakier freak in the sheets than Aniston and I’ve heard FLOTUS get a lot of harsh criticism for her appearance and sadly most of it is from women who look like her.

  • KJ

    I still don’t get TI’s attraction to miss Piggy. He must have grew up wanting to be Kermit and finally got his wish when he married this ghetto TRASH!

    • Yes Tiny is the only one I thought should be on that list truly. And her voice . . .

    • rzakia

      Oh wow, you’re calling this woman “trash”? What has she personally done to you or your child???

  • Rico

    Some of the most physically attractive women can have digustingly ugly personalties. Beauty is overrated. Be with who and whatever makes you happy.

  • Reese

    I do not criticize somebody’s partners based on looks. Looks fade but character never changes. I don’t think most of the women on the list are ugly by any stretch of the imagination. A lot of people that hate on these women wish their were in their position.

  • ANTMilf

    It’s not about looks, it’s about character of a person. My best friend and her husband have been together for 10 years and married for 7 and they have a 6 year old daughter together. For all her life, she’s been called ugly, dark skinned, fat and been told no man wants her. Still to this day people ask her husband why did he married her? What was he thinking marrying her where there were more beautiful women out here? He told them, “she’s supportive, caring, classy, uneducated and looks don’t mean sh&t to him, she has a great heart, respects people, cooks great meals and a great mother to our daughter, that’s all a man wants”.

    • Reese

      Did you mean educated or uneducated? I agree with everything you said though. Sounds like her husband is a good man, your BF is lucky.

      • ANTMilf

        It’s a typo, I was talking to one of my students when I was typing telling her how uneducated she was acting.

  • Cleo

    I also think Jennifer Aniston is sooo overhyped, I always felt she was plain and mannish looking… but I also don’t see the hype over Angelina either.

  • Cleo

    I like tameka (ushers’s ex) I never saw a problem with her, but then again I never got the hype surrounding usher

  • pretty1908

    I look these women and i couldn’t find one unattractive one. These men stuck by and married those women for their character not their looks. Angelina is not prettier than Jennifer ….that 12 yrs olds body and her wild past with billy bob thorton makes her uneasy to me. Jennifer Garner is a true girl next door…funny, smart, and easygoing. Paula and Denzel are my true hope for black love…simpletons say Jay Z/ Beyonce, Will/ Jada, but i have always admired the washington’s relationship because they have been together longer than i have been living.

    • Cleo

      Lol exactly I use to love will and jada but they are weird as heck, that Scientology mess completely screwed them over, and I’ll pass on jay and bey any day.

    • ANTMilf

      Don’t forget that Angie tongue kissed her brother 12 years ago, GROSS!

      • pretty1908

        ugh that too…..she has a weird relartionship with her mother and father…hollyweird is not an upgrade

  • GirlSixx

    The only one I threw shade was tameka raymond… I am sorry but I still to this day couldn’t see it, I think she swindled Usher into marrying her.
    I understand what TI sees in Tiny after watching a few episodes of their show.. she is HIS BACKBONE FOR LIFE!!!! I always thought Denzel wife was a beautiful woman. And why in the hell is Jennifer Aniston on this list??!!! She is gorgeous, I have never heard anyone refer to her as unattractive.

    • realadulttalk

      I agree…Tameka’s ugliness is an internal thing. She just happens to not be winning any beauty contests in the process. She could look like Beyonce and she’d still be an ugly person.
      Tiny is someone I now think is beautiful–I just love her personality and how she runs her family and marriage. I also see why Tip loves the heck outta her–she’s a really good woman.

  • box

    Sad thing is most of this is from women.

  • rzakia

    Regarding Tiny, when she was in Xscape I thought she was pretty. I didn’t think she started looking strange until she did something to her mouth and her behind. I’m not trying to hate because I think she is a awesome mother and wife (I absolutely love The Family Hustle), but whatever she did to her butt and lips were so uncalled for.

    • Fiedah

      That’s true. She looks kind of weird now. Before I didn’t think she was pretty, but now she looks odd.

    • Fiedah

      That’s true. She looks kind of weird now. Before I didn’t think she was pretty, but now she looks odd.

    • and she needs to stop trying to look ‘young’ but I like tiny.

  • Say What?

    I think a lot of people hate on Denzel’s wife because they want to be Denzel’s wife. Also not to hate on him, but he was never my cup of tea. He’s very well spoken, but he’s a better match for my mother than me.

    • realadulttalk

      Mine either–I never “got” the Denzel appeal.

      • Miss K

        Also, Barack nabbed Michelle…not the other way around! 🙂

        • pretty1908

          Exactly anyone who has read and is familiar with their love story can tell you that

        • realadulttalk

          I’ve never heard the Michelle shade–those 2 appear so in love to me that I would never have thought anyone would throw shade. I love seeing couples in love–warms my heart.

      • chanela

        i feel the same way about idris elba. i dont get it! he looks creepy to me!

    • you are reading my mind. i was talking to a friend of mine about Denzel in that movie “Safe House”. she looked at me crazy when I told her, aside from the fact that he is married, i would never find someone so much older than me that appealing. he’s old enough to be my dad! and Pauletta is gorgeous…don’t understand some peoples minds at all!

  • Lola

    May I impose upon you to please do a list of “Celebrity husbands/boyfriends” who also get shade for their looks with, Jay-Z at the top of the list.

    Thank you in advance.

    • TheBiznez

      Can’t tell if you being sarcastic or for real but either way LMAO!!!

      • Lola

        SMH No words. LOL

    • Pamela Jones-Meadows

      I agree with you Lola! Personally speaking, I do not find anything wrong with Jay-Z looks…he has full lips and I like it!

  • KO

    Clearly JLo wasn’t making Ben happy if he called off the wedding a couple of weeks before it was set to happen. Jennifer Garner is not only a beautiful woman but a much better actress than JLo. Obviously Ben made the right choice if they just had their third baby while JLo is getting another divorce n walking around with her kids big brother.

    • olivia

      Also, Ben described the “Beniffer” phase as one of the lowest points in his career.

      He clearly was not as much into JLo as she was into him. Jennifer Lopez was crazy to think that he was actually gonna marry her.

      • GirlSixx

        I remember she had him dressing like K-Fed,,, (kevin federline) *lmaooo* she was doing the MOST she was trying to change who she was to keep him , ole girl was taking etiquette classes… *WTH?? Ben Affleck is a Bean Town Boy (Boston) he knew damn well he wasn’t trying to take Jlo home to meet his momma. Him and J Gardner is a perfect match for each other, they both are lowkey

        • realadulttalk

          Lmao–you are so right! He was just thrilled to be with the Latina with the big booty–she was a fantasy not a future wife.

          • GirlSixx


        • Lola

          Right, you are! I still remember how uncomfortable Ben Affleck looked in the “Jenni from the block” video. He was definitely not receptive of all the trash JLO was pushing his way.

    • wright

      LOL!!!! I totally agree.

    • Lola

      Very true! I don’t know how people can say that Jennifer Garner is a downgrade from J “I’ve been around the block” LO – what planet are they living on?!? JLO embodies everything that is trashy and tacky; she simply does not measure up when it comes to Jennifer Garner.

    • htpnksuga

      Jennifer garner is the polar opposite of jlo. I used to idolize jlo when i was a child. But could care less about her now. Jen G is stunning to me look at pics of her at the premiere of her movie “the odd life of timothy green. ” She talented I remember watching her audition for the movie Electra with ben affleck. Girl can act! Plus unlike Jlo she seem very gronded and focuses more on her kids and husband than fame. plus her and her hsband are still affectionate towards each other. I do think jlo wishes she was with ben “the one that got away” and ben was going thru a bad boy phrase. things worked out for him..jlo still figuring things out

      • Negress

        At the Elektra premier Bennifer red carpet pose is in front of a pic of him and Jennifer Garner.

      • i agree. J Lo should concentrate less on sexiness and more as “i’m a good mom”. when you have kids, all the bs is over.

    • i never thought those two had much in common. i knew that marriage was not gonna happen. while J Lo and Jennifer are both gorgeous women, they are just two different personalities. and Jennifer and Ben fit better together.

  • All beautiful women.