But He Say She Just A Friend…Signs You’re Really A Surrogate Girlfriend

December 4, 2012 ‐ By Julia Austin
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It’s great to have a close male friend with whom there is no sexual attraction—a guy that can give you insight into the mind of men, help you fend off creeps at bars, and lift that giant couch of yours when it’s time to move. But the line between being a guy’s close girl friend and being his surrogate girlfriend is a thin one, and if you cross it, your friendship can get messy. If a guy sees you as a surrogate girlfriend he might resent when you date other men, and even give up on finding himself a real girlfriend. Why should he? He already gets basically everything he would in a girlfriend from you. And as for the other stuff, well, there’s the Internet for that. Here are signs you’ve become a surrogate girlfriend.

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  • angchronicles

    What if you’re a so called girlfriend and he doesn’t call when something exciting or bad happens, doesn’t send you groupons or invite you on travel dates, and when he wants to be alone, he means it…although you’re 3000 miles apart and only see each other every four or so months. Hmm, according to this article, I’d rather be a surrogate girlfriend. Sooner or later somethings gotta give. Of course in this case, the surrogate should let it be known…She’s not into him/her. We shouldn’t lead people on, it’s hurtful.

  • Nope

    1. Make sure it’s not just all in your head
    2. Women attract women, so you could very well just be a place holder or bait
    3. Women in these situations don’t come up empty handed. They’re still getting attention.

  • Quinn

    Sounds like my gay roommate…Lol

  • ctelle

    Okay I will admit I have been a few surrogates girlfriends then…. oh well

  • Say What?

    Not clicking through all that, I just assume he sleeps with you, has you do the girlfriend duties (i.e. cook, occasionally do his laundry, etc) but he never introduces you as his girlfriend, takes you out, etc. Sounds like BS and if you got scammed then wake up and don’t let it happen again.

    • Nah, she wasn’t talking about being the doormat booty call. This one is he is your platonic “friend” but treats you like someone he wants more with but for whatever reason he hasn’t manned up to ask you to be his lady.

      • Say What?

        Somebody needs to read it and tell me cause I need to know what it says!

  • Kellz

    I so wanted to read this but not for 15 clicks… Waiting for someone to sum it up

    • Basically, they’re saying he treats you like a girlfriend. Or someone he hopes will be his girlfriend one day.

      • Sheena

        Julia strikes again smh

      • L-Boogie

        Why be secret squirrel with it? Sometimes that can drive someone crazy.