With the recent disclosures from General David Petraeus — who resigned as head of the CIA after admitting to an extramarital affair with his biographer — stacked on top of all the other recent political figures who have cheated on their spouses, I’m asking the question, “What are men looking for when they cheat?”
Statistics indicate that cheating is much more common than we might like to believe for both men and women. Janis Abrahms Spring, author of “After the Affair,” says that infidelity now affects one out of every 2.7 couples. Then there’s the dating site for married people looking to have affairs, AshleyMadison.com, which boasts of having almost 17 million anonymous members. It’s clear that something is missing in many marriages these days.
Based on my own life and the conversations I’ve had with other men including my male coaching clients, I’ve assembled the top five things men are looking for when they decide to enter into an extramarital affair — unconsciouslyin many cases. It’s really not just about the sex!
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