Dos And Don’ts To Think About Before You Decide To Relax Your Hair Again

November 29, 2012 ‐ By Tuere Randall


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Are you natural and considering going back to relaxed hair? If you’re like me, then you’ve probably been thinking about it quite a bit. It’s been five years since I went natural for the second time around, making it, in total, 10 years of my adult life that I have been wearing chemically untreated hair. And once again, at the five-year mark, I am not-so-quietly yearning for the freedom and ease of relaxed hair. On the other hand, I love the versatility of being able to “switch it up” with my hair and wear it kinky one day and straight the next. However, truth be told, I don’t have the luxury of wearing my hair straight as often as I would like because it takes so much time to get it from its natural state to the sleek, face-framing waves that I find to be so personally flattering.

So as I weigh the options, I started to make a list of things to consider for anyone who is natural and thinking about relaxing their hair again:

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  • thatonegirl

    I’ve been natural for 3 years and I’ve been wanting to relax my hair for a year but I know if I do my hair won’t be nearly as healthy but I won’t be able to do the styles that I like with natural hair. UGHH!!!!!! I’m so frustrated!!!!!! Anyone have any suggestions?

    • momo

      get a weave

  • I’ve been natural (or should I say unrelaxed) for five years. I debate whether to go back to the creamy crack all the time. I’m a big fan of big hair and love rocking my full curly fro, but sometimes I want a different more sleek look and pine for the ease of relaxed straight hair. When those feelings take hold I usually get a full head weave sewn in and rock that for a couple of months. Then back to naptural I go.

  • rentho

    I havent relaxed yet but i’m seriously thinking about it. i went to a professional “natural hairstylist” to get my hair straightened for my birthday, i am now about 90% heat damaged. I dont want to big chop again, i don’t know what to do at this pointe(protein treatments didnt work) 🙁

    • kierah

      I wouldn’t get it relaxed while it is still heat damaged. You might need to keep up the protein treatments for a while and use protective styles.

  • guest

    I have done the natural and relaxer on and off for years! People say I do not know what I want, but they do not understand that I like change! Embrace your hair at whatever texture you choose!

  • GeniOus

    This is super helpful. I have been natural for 7 years now and the transitioning journey boosted my self image and self esteem in ways that I cannot describe however, this article is very telling. Black women who have gone natural attribute a certain level of PRIDE to BEING natural. While that is all good and helpful to the transitioning journey … once you’ve worn your hair natural for a while … sometimes it could get a bit redundant. Don’t get me wrong, I love my hair but sometimes I have the natural blues.

  • kierah

    It’s only a big deal if you make it one. My good friend was relaxed, then natural, then relaxed, and now natural again. It’s hair. It grows either way if you take care of it.

  • IllyPhilly

    Why do I know women who think natural is everything else, but weave? Seriously they will perm and dye their hair away, but weave is the only thing that’s considered unnatural. I couldn’t wait for this topic to come up again to say that.

    • Exactly, just get a nice weave done as you ponder.

    • SheBe

      *hangs head in shame* I thought that for a while at first. I did. I didnt understand because I have very long (hits the top of my butt long) hair and its relaxed. Where I live there are few black women that wear their own hair. I was confused. I assumed that natural meant “yours”; Like you grew it from your scalp. People would always ask “Is that your real hair?”. So when the term natural was tossed around I thought thats what it meant. I know, gone and say it…”poor lil tink tink *smh*” LOL

      • IllyPhilly

        LMAO. It’s alright.

    • Amelle

      Well perming it is still your hair that you grew from your head thats why, hair extensions dont come from you. Thats why perming is considered “natural”, in the sense that the hair is yours unlike weave.