I’m a card-carrying cougar. I have been a consistent member of the “Cougar Club” since my husband passed away. For the past 4 ½ years, I’ve been dating a man 15 years my junior. In addition to my personal experience, I host an Internet talk show called LoveEncore. It’s about dating, sex and relationships the second time around. I’ve interviewed guests and experts about the subject of older women dating younger men, and noticed that these episodes received more views than any other by a landslide. I’ve received a plethora of questions and comments from all parts of the world on this hot topic. I’d like to de-bunk cougar myths and give the facts as to what dating a younger man is really like.
The “Urban Dictionary” states: “Cougars are gaining in popularity—particularly the true hotties—as young men find not only a sexual high, but many times a chick with her Isht together.” I think of a cougar as a confident, independent, young-spirited woman who happens to prefer the company of younger men.
Myth #1: A cougar is the hunter who preys on the innocent younger man.
Fact: Who hunts whom? Some guys are naturally drawn to older women like any other physical “type,” such as preferring blondes to brunettes. I’ve discovered that somewhere along the way those attracted to cougars have had a prior positive experience with one. A cougar exudes self-confidence, which makes her a highly desirable conquest to a younger man. Often it’s the younger man who approaches the older woman in hopes of a purely sexual no-strings-attached relationship. Contrary to popular belief, the older woman isn’t the predator—in fact, it’s the quite opposite.
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