‘It’s Just Another Sad Love Song’…Breakup Tracks To Cry, Scream, And Think To

November 30, 2012  |  
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When you’re going through a breakup, sometimes you want to cry, sometimes you want to scream, and sometimes you want to break things or drive past your ex’s house, and there’s only one thing that makes any of those things feel a little less crazy: a complimentary song. These are our top picks for best post-breakup songs.


“Fighter” by Christina Aguilera

We love this song because it emphasizes all the good things that come from the entire relationship and breakup experience and reminds you that every breakup makes you more prepared to find a better one.


“Not Gon’ Cry” by Mary J. Blige

Mary’s sweet, strong voice is always welcome during hard times. Don’t act like you never threw on the black shades and scarf and had a cry to this.




“No Scrubs” by TLC

We’re all about a song that makes you stop and wonder, in the middle of feeling sorry for and down on yourself, “Wait a minute—was he even that great? I could have way higher standards…”


“Breakdown” by Mariah Carey

When you need to have that “looking at old photos and going through old memorabilia afternoon,” this is song is the one to put on.




“Caught Out There” by Kelis

There’s nothing like a good jog to some angry girl music after a breakup. This is the song to do it to. Ahhhhhhhh!



“Ain’t It Funny” by Jennifer Lopez

Sorry ladies but Jennifer is right: no matter how madly in love you are with a guy, if he does and says things that are so clearly not acceptable you cannot ignore that fact. Consider it a favor when a man shows his true colors, no matter how much you idealized him.


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“Unbreak My Heart” by Toni Braxton

We have a lot of empowering, get-over-it music on here, but there will be days you just need to cry and let yourself be weak for a minute. This song is for those days.




“Cry Me a River” by Justin Timberlake

There will be men that tell you they’ll die without you, that they’ve never met anyone else like you and blah blah blah. But like Justin reminds us, people put themselves in any position they find themselves in. If somebody’s hurting after you leave them, they did it to themselves.



“One Last Cry” by Brian McKnight

If you can watch the music video for this one, too, somehow seeing a lovely Brian McKnight clenching his chest in pain makes it all better.

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“Irreplaceable” by Beyonce

There really are sooo many fish in the sea. It’s a good thought to practice thinking when half of your brain is trying to rationalize getting back into a dysfunctional relationship.



“Since U Been Gone” by Kelly Clarkson

We just get a rush from yelling along to this song in the car. Breathe baby breathe!


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“Brokenhearted” by Brandy

There’s something about a little old school (probably high school) music when you’re down. The songs that mended your teenage heart are still somehow relevant when you get older and experience real love.



“I Can’t Make You Love Me” by Tank

For those breakups you didn’t see coming, for those guys that left you at the peak of your feelings for them–you’ll need this song. The title says it all.


“Doin’Just Fine” by Boyz II Men

Sometimes we forget to acknowledge how far we’ve come from those days of laying in bed devastated. This song helps you give yourself some credit.

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  • Veratta Pegram-Floyd

    How I have told someone I wanted to break up with them: I played “Her December” by Van Hunt. He got the point.

  • Marie

    Green Eyes – Erykah Badu

  • All I Could Do Was Cry- Etta James

  • Death By Chocolate- SIA is one of the best songs to cry to.

  • Deedee

    Mary j blige “missing u” and babyface “the loneliness” will make u wanna jump outta window

  • Ambitous12

    y’all forgot about Water runs dry by Boys 2 men

    my bed- dru hillenough of no love- keyshia cole

  • Keyshia Cole’s “Gotta Get My Heart Back”, though upbeat, is another good one. Aalyah’s “Heartbroken” & “Never Comin’ Back”, Sunshine Anderson’s “Heard It All Before”… IDK… I like to be happy during tough times, so I need something I can groove too, versus curled up crying!!

  • Guysssss…. I don’t feel like clicking so here’s my list lol

    It Hurts Like Hell A. Franklin

    Why does it Hurt So Bad W. Houston

    Fairytale T. Braxton

    Anytime B. Mcknight

    Wait for Love L. Vandross

    Resentment Beyonce

    Lesson Learned A. Keys

    Someone LIke You Adele

    You’re right…I could go on forever…that’s enough!

  • BEE

    I Can’t Make You Love & I’m Doing Just Fine .. always do the trick! Of course, Mary J’s “Not Gon Cry”, too! Especially when she goes, “.. I know there are not guarantees (guarantees), in love you take your chances ..” – that always just triggers an emotion. You could just feel her hurt. Oh yea, I USED TO LOVE HIM by Lauryn Hill & Mary J. Amazingly beautiful song.

  • Felicia

    Vivian Green- Emotional Rollercoaster

  • FromUR2UB

    (Shaking fists) Damn, damn, damn those 15 clicks! Not doing it.
    Anyway, ‘What Do the Lonely Do at Christmas’ by The Emotions is probably not on the list. But, I recommend fnding something else to do than cry to this song on Christmas.

  • Hm.

    Ex-factor by Lauryn Hill isn’t up here!!!!!? YA’LL KNOW YA’LL WRONG!!!

  • Lola

    Wrong Side of a Love Song – Melanie Fiona

    Y’all will thank me later!

    • BAPS

      smh Melanie has been thru some things…glad she shared thru her music because I thought I was the only one lol

  • easybreezysag

    I have a song for every occasion. Since we are talking about break ups, it depends on how you actually break up. Some of my favs…Amy Winehouse-Back to Black and Tears Dry on My Own, India Arie-These Eyes, Alanis Morrisette- You Oughta Know, Jill Scott- My Love. This list can go on.

    • UnrequitedLove

      Yes You Oughta Know is one of my favs.Jagged Little Pill was the ish

  • Cleo

    Let it flow-Toni Braxton
    Rolling in the deep-Adele
    Me myself and I-Beyonce

  • toya

    Love Should’ve Brought U Home DEFINITELY needed to be up here!

    • Cleo

      My other song!! Toni killed that song and unbreak my heart

    • I was just getting ready to come down here and post that! They should’ve put that one or Another Sad Love Song!!

  • Daliboom

    You forgot Justin Timberlake’s “never again & still on my brain”, “let it flow” by toni braxton, “my name is not susan” by whitney, “i’m going down” by mary j blige, “emotional rollercoster” by vivian green. Yall need to redo this list.

  • dalia

    you forgot “my name is not Susan” by Whitney, “never again and still on my brain” by Justin Timberlake, “i going down” by mary, “let it flow” by toni braxton, and “emotional rollercoster” by vivian green. You need to redo this list.

  • Robyn

    Aretha Franklin’s Ain’t no way, Toni Braxton- 7 whole days,

  • Cleo

    I will always love and why does it hurt so bad. By ms. Whitney Houston

  • Lo

    Y’all have Jennifer Lopez on here but no songs from the Waiting to Exhale soundtrack? Who made this list?

    • actually Mary J’s Not Gon Cry is from Waiting to Exhale

    • I’m co-signing the the entire Waiting to Exhale soundtrack and hell movie! Glad I didn’t click and see J-Lo on here 🙁

  • 1eclecticchick

    The new Alicia Keys ‘A Brand New Me’ is the truth!

  • UnrequitedLove

    Amy Winehouse-My Tears Dry On Their Own

    • Cleo

      Omg!!! I love that song so much, but it actually puts me in a happy mood lol

      • UnrequitedLove

        Yes its more of a cheerful breakup song

    • easybreezysag

      Yes- I replayed that over and over with a break up!!

  • wveronica7

    Aretha Franklin’s Hurts Like Hell! How could you guys leave that off?

  • thegoodluckpig

    on another note: cadillac tah and ja rule? the early 00’s were a crazy time

  • What about Fairy Tales by Anita Baker? Take a Bow- Rihanna? Come on!

  • littleoleme

    Ummm… Eric Benet’s “Sometimes I Cry” and Madonna’s “Take a Bow”

    • littleoleme

      Sinead “Nothing Compares 2 U” and Amy Winehouse “Back 2 Black”

    • littleoleme

      Beyonce “I Miss You”

  • UnrequitedLove

    Umm Your missing some songs.Changing Faces-
    GHETTOOUT Toni Braxton-Just Be A Man About It Debrah Cox ft.R.L.-We Cant Be Friends R.Kelly Ft.Sparkle-Be Careful Faith Evans ft MJB- Love Don’t Live Here Anymore……..man my broken hearted playlist can go on forever

    • BAPS

      I like “Impossible” by Keyshia Cole… I played that to death.