Patrice: When does a man KNOW you are “the one”?
DY: I know Steve Harvey’s homespun saccharinness catches quite a bit a flack from people like me, and I’ve written jokingly critical things about him in the past. But, although I haven’t read either of his books, I came across a quote from one a few months ago that I happen to strongly agree with.
To paraphrase, if a man is in love, he proclaims (isn’t afraid to let everyone know), professes (tells her), and protects (is willing to do whatever is necessary to protect and provide for her). I’d add “does whatever he can to spend time around that person” to the list, and I honestly don’t think a man is truly in love unless he’s compelled to do each of those four things.
Angela: I have a friend that says black alpha males are not genetically built to be monogamous. What are your thoughts on this matter?
DY: Yes, monogamy may be unnatural. You know what else is? Wearing clothes. And inventing the internet. And driving a car. And using a microwave to heat your food. And drinking store bought lemonade. Point? We (humans) do a ton of “unnatural” Shyte because we have the ability to reason and create — qualities separating us from the rest of the animal kingdom. Now, if a man doesn’t believe that monogamy is for him, fine. Knock yourself out. But unless he doesn’t do any other unnatural Shyte, the “monogamy is unnatural so I do it” argument is a cop out.