Ask A Very Smart Brotha: Why Do I Have To Meet His Family This Thanksgiving?

November 21, 2012 ‐ By madamenoire


Patrice: When does a man KNOW you are “the one”?

DY: I know Steve Harvey’s homespun saccharinness catches quite a bit a flack from people like me, and I’ve written jokingly critical things about him in the past. But, although I haven’t read either of his books, I came across a quote from one a few months ago that I happen to strongly agree with.

To paraphrase, if a man is in love, he proclaims (isn’t afraid to let everyone know), professes (tells her), and protects (is willing to do whatever is necessary to protect and provide for her). I’d add “does whatever he can to spend time around that person” to the list, and I honestly don’t think a man is truly in love unless he’s compelled to do each of those four things.


Angela: I have a friend that says black alpha males are not genetically built to be monogamous. What are your thoughts on this matter?

DY: Yes, monogamy may be unnatural. You know what else is? Wearing clothes. And inventing the internet. And driving a car. And using a microwave to heat your food. And drinking store bought lemonade. Point? We (humans) do a ton of “unnatural” Shyte because we have the ability to reason and create — qualities separating us from the rest of the animal kingdom. Now, if a man doesn’t believe that monogamy is for him, fine. Knock yourself out. But unless he doesn’t do any other unnatural Shyte, the “monogamy is unnatural so I do it” argument is a cop out.

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  • LaLaLaMeansILoveYou

    advice about monogamy being unnatural- best. advice. ever.

    advice about christians dating atheists- worst. advice. ever. Any Christian (any Bible reading Christian) knows better than being “unequally yoked with non-believers”. Aside from that, you will run into NUMEROUS issues down the line, from the wedding ceremony to how to raise the children. It’s a lose-lose, period. IMO.

    advice about female religious leaders finding dates- laziest. advice. ever. Of course it’s a challenge for all of us, but obviously, being in that particular position can make it extra difficult for reasons unknown to the person seeking advice or else they wouldn’t have sought advice.

    • Gigi

      Best. analysis. ever. Usually love Damon’s advice, but he really missed it on the christian dating an atheist and the female religious leader.

      • 2Shii

        I agree with u he totally dropped the ball on that one which I can understand in todays(do as thou will) society. He usually gives great advice, but seems that when it comes to God & religion he wasnt serious at all or wanted to stay on the fence.Many people see it as taboo or a touchy subject.

  • Is It 5:00 Yet?

    I was reading this on Facebook and I don’t understand why the woman doesn’t want to meet her boyfriend’s family. I mean that is a GOOD THING. Most men won’t bring a woman around his family if he didn’t see the relationship going anywhere.

    And I pray to God that she doesn’t act like a stuck up brat like Damon mentioned. I have in-laws like that right now and it makes the atmosphere very unpleasant.

    Oh and dating an Atheist is an automatic turn-off for me. Relationships are already complicated and I don’t need another complication added to it.