Ms. Solo Dolo: 5 Reasons To Be Happy You’re Single On The Holidays

November 21, 2012  |  


From YourTango

Believe it or not, couples envy single folks this time of year.

The year-end holidays are around the corner. November and December are stressful months as families prepare for feasting, exchanging presents and celebrating another year. For many singles, however, family gatherings can be painful — especially if parents, siblings or well-meaning relatives wonder why you’re not “with someone.”

But many couples or divorced singles with kids actually envy single friends who can enjoy holiday perks unavailable to committed pairs and families. As a life coach who’s been married for 30-plus years, I urge unattached readers to embrace the benefits of being solo, including some you may not yet appreciate:

1. In-Laws and friends. Singles are not required to attend boring events hosted by a spouse or lover’s family. Being with your own crazy family is challenge enough — especially when they push emotional buttons you thought you’d outgrown. You’re also not expected to spend time with your lover’s annoying friends. Instead, you can choose which of your friends to hang out with based on who cooks the best turkey or pie, stirs the best martinis, or makes you feel fabulous.

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  • Guest

    Now if Honey Boo Boo’s mom has a boyfriend, what is the real reason these ladies are single?

  • me

    i have come to a conclusion that MM is full of typical black women who are afraid to be single. you guys have at least two articles per week about the “single fear” and it shows that you want to be in relationships but wanna convince yourselves otherwise.

    • all women are this way though. Not just black women. All women need to reassure themselves when they are single. Trust me. But i did thumb you up, just wanted you to remember that.

      • bluekissess

        I’m sure all women have this problem including myself BUT @me was stating this is a website dedicated to black women. The more articles I read on this site the more sexist they become. The crazy part is that these articles are written by women.