Do All Women Really Want To Be Objectified?

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November 21, 2012 ‐ By

 

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I don’t normally pay Cameron Diaz much attention and I don’t think many other people do either, but the statements she made in a recent interview will likely have a lot of women thinking, she’s no friend of mine. During a recent chat with the U.K.’s Sunday Times, Cameron used what I hope is nothing more than a poor choice of words when she spoke to the paper about the idea of being a sex object and said:

“I think every woman does want to be objectified. There’s a little part of you at all times that hopes to be somewhat objectified, and I think it’s healthy.”

“It’s empowering,” she added. “I’m not some young girl with the photographer going, ‘Will you take your clothes off?’ I’m like [mimes stripping], ‘How does this look?'”

As a woman of 40 years, it’s easy to read through the lines of Cameron’s response and see she’s trying to prove a point that at her age she’s just happy someone is still looking at her as a sexual being (as if 40 is really old but that’s a discussion for another day). Still, the use of the term objectify makes every legitimate point the actress was trying to make null and void, like the part when she said, “I’m a woman, I know how to handle myself. I know what I feel comfortable doing, and I know my sexuality.” Being comfortable with your sexuality is not a precursor to welcoming objectification, just as those who are not fully comfortable in their sexual skin are the only ones who can fall victim to objectification. Objectification is the experience of being seen as nothing more than a sexual object and I don’t think there are many women who are seeking that goal and I certainly wouldn’t conclude that it’s healthy.

See, contrary to popular Hollywood — and street harasser — belief , all attention is not good attention and most sensible women know this. Yes, all women at some point want to be seen as attractive and sexay and want to be complimented positively as a result, and maybe even asked to show a little more skin because someone thinks what their working with is kinda nice. But what we’re talking about here is the difference between someone saying, “Hey beautiful, your legs look gorgeous in that dress you should show them off more often” and “take your clothes off and spread your legs so I can see what I really came for.” There’s a certain level of disrespect and entitlement that comes from the aggressor or objectifier in that instance that is highly undesierable by most women of any age.

I’m sure there are also some women out here thinking we need to be empowering ourselves and not basing our sexual IQ on the attention of others but I won’t get in to all of that. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with a little positive external affirmation, but again affirmation, attention, and objectification are not interchangeable. If that type of behavior puts a little more pep in Cameron’s step, more power to her, but I prefer that she not speak for all women nor give a pass to those who choose to practice this behavior which women have been fighting for centuries now to undo. And the truth is, very few women have the problem of not being objectified enough, it’s the issue of being seen as more than your T&A that’s the real struggle and I’m pretty sure working in the entertainment industry Cameron Diaz knows that full well. I don’t even understand why she let this crazy talk come out of her mouth. Just another Freudian slip caught by a reporter on top of his job I suppose.

What do you think about what Cameron said?

Brande Victorian is the deputy editor for madamenoire.com. Follow her on twitter @Be_Vic.

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  • scandalous7

    We all want to be wanted, but to be objectified ..um I think not.

  • scandalous7

    If you dont like it, then stay off the site

  • LaLaLaMeansILoveYou

    Well I was just going to say that the author of this article and the co-signers need to sit down somewhere but you just said it OH so much better. Thank you gobble :)

  • pickneychile

    I’ll give her the benefit of the doubt and assume it was a poor word choice. She’s kind of shaped like a boy though lol.

  • Alohilani

    I get objectified every time I walk out the door and I absolutely hate it. I hate being stared, leered, and honked at. Put together the fact that men like young women and that I look like a teenager despite being 26, I get objectified and harassed by the young and old.

    Cameron Diaz should try being a Black woman for a day and see if she still feels the same way.

  • IllyPhilly

    She got what she intended- somebody wrote about her today.

  • KIR12

    Can someone explain to me why Serena Williams, the best female tennis player in the world, keeps posting bikini photos?

    • Gye Nyame

      Good point. Women like attention, and the ones that claim they don’t probably don’t get any. But attention is a “good morning”, “you look beautiful in that dress”, “have a blessed day”, while men look at you with admiration. But to objectify someone is totally different, its the “damn you look good”, “can I have some of that”, etc while men look at you like a piece of meat. There’s a big difference, and I think Serena is doing herself a disservice.

  • Guest360

    I couldnt agree more with this article. If you want people to think of you as only having good T&A that is your business. More power to you. Where she went wrong is trying to put her opinion out and paint all women with the same brush. No I don’t want to be objectified so please don’t speak as if I do. You can keep that crap to yourself. Giving these fools reasons to hit on me just because they “heard” I liked to be objectified. Uh…no. Take that crap to Cameron. I’m sure she’ll love any attention she gets because she certainly isn’t getting it from any of her roles.

  • Cleo

    Maybe she likes it, but the majority of women don’t ex. The women’s movement.

  • Pivyque

    I don’t think she understands the meaning of “objectified”. Lol I don’t want to be objectified. Some women objectify themselves though (thinking of butt injections lol)…

  • ANTMilf

    First of all, I don’t like to be objectified at all. Cameron Diaz should speak for herself, not for the rest of us women!