Think you know why you are attracted to a new person? In your dating experiences, have you found yourself making online dating choices based on the pictures or the profile? Did you agree to a second date because of share values and interests, relationship goals and love of sushi? Or was it that perfect white smile that made your heart sing?
Thanks to an area in your brain, a particular region has been linked to your romantic choices. In a new study, it was found that this area makes quick decisions whether a new person is the right one or not within seconds. Apparently, this “instant attraction” mechanism leads daters to choose by their internal physical ideal of who is attractive to pursue.
Working with singles as a relationship coach, I understand how easy it is to allow a certain physical type to be the determining factor in dating, love and commitment. Unfortunately, reliance on this 15-second glance strategy leads to many unfulfilling relationships. The fear that one will have to settle for less than their ideal physical type if looks are not at the top of the “must have” list, is not the best approach to attracting the right relationship. Take a look at some of the arguments that instant attractors raise:
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