Is Denzel Washington Right to Tell His Dark Skinned Daughter to Work Harder?

November 15th, 2012 - By Charing Ball

Source: Mtv.com

In an interview with The Hollywood Reporter, Denzel Washington said that the best advice he has given to his aspiring actress daughter Olivia is, ‘You’re black, you’re a woman, and you’re dark-skinned at that. So you have to be a triple/quadruple threat…You gotta learn how to act. You gotta learn how to dance, sing, move onstage. That’s the only place, in my humble opinion, you really learn how to act.’

The Academy award winning actor went on to say, ‘Look at Viola Davis. That’s who you want to be. Forget about the little pretty girls; if you’re relying on that, when you hit 40, you’re out the door. You better have some chops.’

And somewhere across this planet, Viola Davis is like, “Gheez, thanks a lot Denzel!”  But that’s the thing about Denzel. Even if it was meant as a back-handed slam against Davis, which I doubt it was, nobody would say anything because it is Denzel we’re talking about.  He can do or say no wrong.  However was he right to tell his daughter that she would have to work harder because of the color of her skin or is he just setting her for a lifetime of victimhood?

As famous parents go, you could not be as better situated than being the child of Denzel and Paulette Washington. Award winning actor, who was recently dubbed one of People Magazine’s sexiest men alive, Denzel should have the professional pull and connections needed to get Olivia at least started in a career in Hollywood. At the very least a Dark & Lovely No Lye Relaxer commercial on BET should be in her future. Or maybe not. Maybe everything we all suspected about Hollywood’s race and gender relations is true. I mean, it is no wonder that Halle Berry, Beyoncé and Alicia Keys, three women with lighter skin and more Caucasian features, top the list of the most sought after black stars. Even darker hued stars like Kim Wayans, Regina King and even super producer It-Girl Shonda Rhimes have all commented on the scarcities of black roles given to black actresses in general.

And let’s not forgot that only in Hollywood, would it seem okay for Zoe Saldana to portray Nina Simone.  Not that Saldana is not a capable actress but Simone’s dark skin and African features were the essence of her public and personal identity. SO much so that she actually wrote songs about it. So slapping some dark foundation and a prosthetic nose on any ole’ black woman without concern of continuity to the subject matter, just screams of whitewashing.  Maybe I’m wrong. But until we see Idris Elba or Djimon Hounsou play Jesus Christ in The Temptation of Christ Part 2, I will always have my doubts.

But this is the untold truth of what it is like living under white supremacy.  And in this regard, Washington is right to prepare his children for the realities of our society.  It’s the same advice that black parents have been giving their children for hundreds of years. So you want to make partner at your prestigious law firm, be prepared to work ten times harder than your white colleagues because you are black. And you want to make a name for yourself in the business world, well be prepared to compromise on a lot of your cultural identity. Want to be the next (formerly the first) black president, be prepared to eat lots of racial Isht, while baring and grinning, in the process.

At the same time, I’m sick of living and abiding by that world. I’m tired of telling our children to submit and to accept the idea that subjugation is a permanent state, in which they are powerless to change it. I would have preferred that his public message of advice for his daughter was that she was loved and supported.  And that her talent and beauty is bigger than the status quo, therefore there is no need to continue to support in any capacity a system that devalues, ignores and misrepresents your image.

That’s what I would prefer him to say. But it is Denzel and he can do no wrong.

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  • Evonne

    Denzel was being honest and truthful with his daughter. Historically we African American/Black people have always had to be three times better than the average white person to make it through whatever it is we’re trying to accomplish. Even harder and more upsettling is it also works that way within our own culture. The darker you are the more you’re looked down upon by the lighter complexion AA/Blacks. Somewhere in this country’s evolution darker-skinned people of color have been deemed “unworthy” and have always had to work harder. Times and attitudes are changing but it doesn’t hurt to always be mindful that the odds can still be against a person of a darker complexion. I look forward to the day when color is insignificant and talent is the overall objective. Times are better than they used to be but we still have a long way to go.

  • http://www.facebook.com/helen.g.thomas1 Helen G Thomas

    It’s about being a professional. Too many folks, not just black folks, think that acting is a ‘gimme’. A true artist knows their craft, and to aspire to greatness, you must know and train your instrument to the level of its greatest potential. As an independent filmmaker, it is painful and embarrassing to see a person walk into an audition with no idea of what they are doing and with no potential to learn. Some folks should be behind the camera….or in the audience eating popcorn.
    The business is not for everyone…..

  • http://twitter.com/DestinyGodley YouTubeDestinyGodley

    so tired of people PRETENDING like “Black is Black” and shadism doesn’t exist GTFOH… Yeah… he was right and it’s TRUE… you can’t be a lil cute “actress” who bounces around and HOPEFULLY gets knocked up or wifed.. ala Lauren London or Christina Milian… Your talent MUST be Un DENIABLE… this goes double for singers… THINK about it… how many mediocre dark skin women are working N O N E NONE Not ONE!!! Now… white and lighter skinned or “racially ambiguous” Oh… WOW… where to begin….

  • http://www.facebook.com/thokozileX Thokozile Xaba

    So…Viola Davis isn’t pretty? His daughter should strive to be Viola Davis? How about her daughter strive to be who she is and tackle acting and dismantling this B.S. white supremacist garbage, Denzel’s problem is he doesn’t think that this white supremacy in Hollywood thing will ever end.I wouldn’t tell my kid that mess.

  • http://www.facebook.com/Divaland Erika Divaa Hill

    What he is telling his daughter is from experience. He knows what it is like to navigate racism in Hollywood. He knows black women in Hollywood. He has seen their struggle first hand. I don’t see a problem in giving her that advice. He also doesn’t want her to succumb to the trap of just being a vapid, celebrity kid riding on her parents coattails. He’s keeping it real. I’m not mad at Denzel. That is his daughter. We have no room/right to criticize what he says to his children.

  • BAP

    hell he’s right but she is beautiful and has his talented genes so she’ll be aiight !

  • Yah

    I’m tired of darker-skinned women allowing ANY man, including their father, to tell them that they will have a harder road than a dark-skinned man or anybody else. Quit the victim mentality! We can make it if we try and don’t base our worth on the color issues of Black men or white men. Funny that there are at least 3 dark-skinned ladies in the White House doing just fine, and i don’t hear them complaining, even with all the hate thrown their way!

  • 1Val

    Denzel needs his a** whipped for saying that foolishness out loud. My heartbreaks for his daughter to have a father teach you that you are less than because you are a dark skin black woman is insane.I shudder to imagine insecurities, low self esteem and self loathing his daughter must have from a father teaching her the dark girl complex. As a father it is Denzel’s obligation to uncnditional love and support daughter. What does his wife say when he is talking about dark skin black women? Perhaps Pauletta has low self-esteem for staying with his rakish behind all these years.

    If we juxtapose President Obama loving lavish praise of his beautiful and talented daughters who are just like their mother to Denzel Washington’s limitations, embarrassment of his daughter’s dark skin it is an ugly comment. The man has privilege, money and status to green light vehicles His daughter could write, produce, act, direct and OWN in Hollywood. Will Smith, Master P., Stan Lathan and other black fathers created vehicles for their offspring to have a start/exposure in entertainment industry. Instead of Washington telling his daughter because of mainstream’s myopic view of black beauty she needs to determine her destiny by creating HER OWN opportunities so she can alter landscape of black beauty he is telling her to jump through additional hoops because she is perceived as less than for not fitting Eurocentric paradigm of beauty. Denzel should have said I have taught my daughter she can be next Tyler Perry and own a movie studio to alter bias against black actresses to level playing field in entertainment industry. Oprah is richest celebrity and looks nothing like what others claim women should look like to be successful in entertainment industry.
    Denzel please more acting and less talking from you would be fantastic!!!

    • Nikki

      So you think he should lie to his daughter? The fact are the facts and he just wanted to make sure she understood what she was going to be up against. Not telling it how it is to your kids sets them up for failure. He didn’t tell her that she was less worthy just that there are people out there who will evaluate her on physical appearance so she had better be on her A game. Nothing wrong with that. Painting an unrealistic portrait of what that Hollywood world really is would do more harm than good. I doubt his daughter developed a complex from his words because he never said anything negative about her. He was telling her other people’s views to prepare her.

      • 1Val

        Washington doesn’t have to lie to his daughter nor does he have to teach her to EXPECT discrimination due to her skin tone. His poor daughter will think she didn’t get the acting job just like her daddy said because of her dark skin. Its self defeating attitude I object to in Washington’s comments.

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1438551270 Jessica Lucinda Williams

      wish i could give two thumbs up!

  • brooklynarcher

    I’m honestly tired of lighter-skinned people saying things like, “it’s racism in general…” and things of that nature. Point blank period, when it comes to Blacks, light-skinned always had representation. I mean my God, just turn on the t.v., flip through a magazine and you will see how you’re constantly a presence in the media. I’m just tired of people trying to make it seem that dark-skin ppl and issues of colorism are “reaching.” I’m afraid it’s not reaching and i’m afraid it’s not just racism in general. I challenge you to do a Tyra Banks move and walk around with some type of dark paint on you and I guarantee, you’ll have a completely different outlook on the world.

  • http://twitter.com/Phanie_ebene Stephanie Tamhoua

    I think Denzel did the right thing, of course we all would have preferred living in a world where we would not be jugde by our look, hair, the way we speak or our colour, but it is not how the world works today.

    I remember my dad being very strict with us about school marks, saying that to be someone out there I could not just be good, but I had to be the best because I am black, I remember thinking “it’s not fair!” But the world is not fair.

    I thank my parents for giving me the srength and courage to stand up as a dark skin african woman. As parents you sure have to protect, but protecting is not hiding from the truth, but getting the person you love ready to stand for himself.

    And I will do the same for my children, but that does not mean that I think we’re less valuable, beautiful and talented, it’s jus that we have to prove the world wrong.

  • dbatt001

    Well he was being honestly candid with her and he was speaking the truth. Im literally tired of this issue.

  • D

    She will have to work harder, people in corporate what to have the woman if not white but be almost but not quite. The lighter skinned you are the faster you will move up. The want people who look close to them.Which is hard for brown skinned Americans

  • chanela

    he also forgot to tell her that pretty much 99% of black women in hollywood had nose jobs and weigh 12lbs.

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1438551270 Jessica Lucinda Williams

      LOL! 12 lbs?? too funny!, but very true!

  • Darling

    Denzel was right telling his daughter she will have to work harder because she’s dark! It’s true. He is honest and this is a reality in Hollywood. Knowing this, she will excel without a complex. You prepare your kids for life and all its unfair complexities. That is how they not only survive, but excel. It makes them work harder for what they want.It just doesn’t apply to skin color. It applies to ANY OBSTACLES your child may have to endure in life because of other’s intolerance.

  • Candacey Doris

    He’s right. In Hollywood, let alone the rest of the world, being female, black, and dark skinned is not going to put you in a good position. You have to have the full package, or at least be able to fake it. No one is going to give her anything, even though she’s his daughter. Women all over need to hear this message and work on overcoming their problems instead of just accepting it. Acknowledge the problem and make sure it isn’t a problem for you.

  • http://www.youtube.com/user/thesapphireempress96?feature=results_main A.J.

    I don’t think that he was trying to throw shade at Viola Davis, or insult his daughter (and I’m not just taking up for him because he’s Denzel). It’s a fact that Black people have it tough in this society. It’s also a fact that darker-skinned Blacks have a lot more to struggle with, especailly darker-skinned women. That’s reality. It’s wrong, and we shouldn’t accept it, but that doesn’t change that that is the way that people view us. What he is telling his daughter is that she has to be five times as driven to compete with people who have less than half of her talent, but get all the attention. He’s just encouraging her to do her absolute best, and to not give others an excuse to count her out. If he were really setting her up for victimhood, then he would have just told her to be content with settling for less, or to not enter the acting business in the first place.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1438551270 Jessica Lucinda Williams

    I don’t know if I would tell my kids that just because they are black, their life will be harder, and they have to work twice as hard as a non black. We know the damage that does even if we don’t admit it. It has you growing up living as though your color is a burden. Then, in an effort to remind ourselves that we’re okay too, we say things like “my black is beautiful” or “black girls rock” (knowing if white girls were to say that we would be boycotting from here to D.C.). It’s like we have to constantly let everyone else know we are just as beautiful, just as smart, and work just as hard as anyone else. I was raised to believe if I worked hard enough I could achieve anything I set out to. Not once did my parents make me feel that being black was a burden. We did not focus on such things. We focused on merit. The worst statement a person could make to their child is “even though you are black, you are still as beautiful and as smart as anyone else. That has your child thinking….”even though i’m black?”….what’s wrong with black?”. Then you walk around looking for people to treat you different, because your parents said they would.

    • lol

      easy for you to say, you’re not dark.

      • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1438551270 Jessica Lucinda Williams

        i am a black woman just like any other black woman. light, dark, or medium. it’s a shame that i have to even say that!

    • 1Val

      We reared our son to have cultural awareness and race pride. It was a delicate balance of naivete and cynicism discussing race. For we want our son to become a successful black man but not a successful failure i.e. Tiger Woods(talented, rich and denies being black) or Tavis Smiley ( talented, rich but confused angry, black). My husband used to laugh at me whenever I lamented having a racially confused son. I used to rant and rave how could our son be so naive about race because we taught him better. My husband felt it was great that our son did not have my racial hangups. To him it indicated race progress had been achieved and I was over reacting to perceived bigotry.
      My son like his father got riled over “big” race offenses. For example, our son was called “n” word during high school football practice went street by assaulting offending teammate. My husband, son and black male principal all but congratulated my son for fighting teammate for calling him racial slur. I was incensed our son displayed a horrible lack of self-control by letting a bigot provoke him to violence, endangered himself and negatively impacted his future. As a mother and a woman I asked our son what would he have done if that bigot’s parents had pressed charges against him for assaulting their son, sued us for injuries and had a blemish on his academic achievements.

      All of our high falutin words of bigots insecurities not being his problem and eyes on the prize escaped my son whose primal reaction to attempted dehumanization was to fight. Needless to say our son was pleased as punch with his actions. My husband attributed it to being a gender “black man” thing I would never understand as a black woman.
      I understand as a black mother to a male child that to deny race/racism to him is parental abuse. It is dangerous in our society to have a black male child think he will NOT be treated differently because he is a black male. We all know Trayvon Martins in black culture.
      As for Washington’s shameful comments to his daughter due to her dark skin he could have tempered his comments with he’d help her get a start by financing vehicles she wrote, produce, own, act and direct because of entertainment’s myopic view of black beauty. Washington’s daughter does not have to beg producers and directors for employment starting out. Washington if he chose to do so could provide a platform for his daughter to display her talent. Just like Will Smith with Willow, Quincy Jones with Sydney and Rashida, Stan Lathan with Sanaa, Master P. with Cymphonique, etc…Therefore, Washington’s daughter’s work not her appearance would speak for itself.