You Don’t Listen! 3 Steps To Fixing Your Communication Problems

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November 13, 2012 ‐ By madamenoire
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Kent and Teresa greet each other with cold stares and only barely speak to one another lately. This communication breakdown in their marriage has been building up for a few months, and it culminated in a huge argument between them over a week ago.

Communication has always been challenging for them when difficult topics arise. Teresa tends to get angry easily. She yells while Kent withdraws into silence or becomes defensive and guarded.

Over the past few months, Teresa has made some discoveries about a few of Kent’s habits that upset her. Some of Kent’s habits conflict with Teresa’s morals. For example, he visits adult Adult Videos sites online. They argued about the pornography issue for several days before Kent agreed to stop. However, he only did that to regain some peace. He didn’t intend to keep that promise.

When Teresa found out that Kent received a work bonus several weeks ago and didn’t tell her about it, she was livid. She feels betrayed and suspicious. Kent doesn’t know exactly why he lied about the bonus. Mostly, he didn’t want Teresa to run out and spend the extra money before he had time to enjoy this personal accomplishment.

Now, Kent and Teresa are left with a hostile silence between them. Trust has been damaged and neither of them knows how to repair their relationship.

Has something happened to cause a communication breakdown in your love relationship or marriage?

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  • Nope

    Married people especially know all about this. What I’ve found helpful is that BOTH people need to read, research, go to counseling, etc. Everyone assumes they communicate well, but they probably don’t and especially not between the sexes. Men can’t expect women to communicate just like them, and women can’t expect the same either.