Do You Really Need To Beware? 7 Dating Red Flags That Don’t Have To Be Red Flags

November 19, 2012 ‐ By Julia Austin
"Bad date PF"


Once something is deemed a “red flag,” it becomes part of the Bible of love; women believe it must be considered at all times.While red flags are good to be aware of, not every person and situation is the same. There are exceptions to the rules and if you’re not open to that possibility, you might shut out a lot of good guys. These red flags don’t always have to be red flags.

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  • Go with your gut. If you THINK something is a red flag then it is for you. Go with that. Too often we reason our way out of going with our gut feeling and end up getting burned. “If only I had went with my first mind.” Yeah . . . .you’re just dating anyways so if something turns you off about him chuck up those deuces.

  • Candacey Doris

    I got to page 4. Why is this 15 pages long? Why should i have to click just to read your opinions? It’s not happening. Please, change your format.

  • pleasedobetter

    This site has really gone down in content quality. The lists used to be helpful but it’s ironic that this is a speculative list about male behavior teaching you how not to speculate about a man’s behavior. And why must it be a list? Just make it an article please. we don’t need the google images and stock photos.

  • Allie

    How many variations of this article have we seen before?

  • IllyPhilly

    Yo everyday yall flip/flop MN. Do you want me to be in love or not? LOL. I feel sorry for the people who live by stuff like this.

    • SheBe

      Don’t feel sorry for them boo!

  • Veratta Pegram-Floyd

    I’m noticing that I have spent less time reading these kinds of articles, and less time on Madame Noire in general. It is not helpful to read articles that speculate about male behavior but come from a female perspective. If you find yourself in any of these situations, the common sense thing to do would be to exercise your best judgement. Ask questions, don’t assume men have ulterior motives.

    • SheBe

      I agree. However, if a man had written this article he would’ve gotten flamed for one reason or another. They can’t win for losing. Women want to know why men are the way they are and when a man answers he is “wrong” in some way for speaking his truth/opinion.

  • Denise

    “Men are much more private than women are. They usually take longer to trust people and to let people in” These generalizations are going to turn people away from MN.

  • SheBe

    When I stopped over analyzing men and stopped dealing with all the “rules” of dating/relationships it became so much easier. Common sense is key.

    • IllyPhilly

      YES, Jeez! That sounds too much like right though.

      • SheBe


  • bigdawgman

    The last one, really? A guy being nice is a red flag? Maybe you’re thinking too hard. Stop trying to read into everything and enjoy the date! If you don’t think you’re worthy of special treatment, why would he bother giving it to you?

    • Janelle

      A guy that 2 nice is definitely a red flag! U should be very careful with guy who seem really anxious to see u!

  • Whats Normal

    Yeah….I’m not clicking through 15 pages. I’m pretty sure that this stuff can be condensed.

    • IllyPhilly

      Word Up! Yup bringing that back.