According to a recent study conducted by Georgia State University that was cited in the New York Times, “Almost 15 percent of married couples either have sex on a very limited basis or have no sex at all.” What a surprising statistic! The published study also revealed underlying reasons for the lack of sexual inactivity, including spouses becoming bored with each other, raising children or embarking on their careers. In certain cases, the respective study denoted that some married couples have decided not to have sex and to focus on other aspects of romance and intimacy, which is somewhat common. Another interesting aspect relative to the 15 percent statistic is the presence of a sexorexic spouse.
So, what exactly is a sexorexic? Similar to an anorexic who purposely starves themselves of food because of an intense fear of gaining weight, a sexorexic analogously deprives themselves of sex primarily because of a lack of self-worth. To some cynics and commentators, this purported illness is not a mental disorder and is simply a term used to denote those who make excuses for not wanting to have sex with their spouse. To some degree, I agree with these assertions. However, in lieu of engaging in the negative aspects of the debate, I would rather focus on the positive side of potentially helping those with spouses that “suffer” from sexorexia.
Here are three ways to help your sexorexic spouse overcome their emotional stronghold and to begin enjoying life and sex with enthusiasm: