Why Did He Stop Calling? Maybe Because Of One Of These Reasons

November 10, 2012 ‐ By Brooke Dean


Ever date a guy and everything is going great, and then POOF! He’s gone? He stopped calling, answering your text messages…and he even “unfriended” you on Facebook. You thought you hit it off so well, yet another one bites the dust. Right when you think you might have found The One, something changes and you’re left wondering why you’re not finding the love you feel you deserve.

Men can’t love a woman that they don’t respect, just as woman can’t love a man that she doesn’t respect either. Many things go into gaining respect, and some of these things are different for men and women. For example, a woman may not respect a man who doesn’t have a job, because the man is thought to be the provider, while a woman without a job may not be a deal breaker for a man. The best way to earn respect is to respect yourself first, but if you’re still confused as to why he has suddenly lost interest, consider these reasons why a man may have lost respect for you…and therefore his interest.

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  • So… this just means to mean that both of them are ‘ho’s’. If a guy wants to be petty and claim he doesn’t want to respect me because I slept with him, I would just *kanye shrug* and keep it moving because I obviously don’t respect you either.

  • While I agree that most men and women kill the potential in the relationship early on in the dating phase by doing stupid things like sleeping with each other too soon, let’s not mistake things here. A man that sleeps with woman on the first date is just as much a sl**t as she is.

  • The author says all that to say, he’s just not that interested. You may be a social misfit with raging halitosis and there is still a man who would love you stankin breath and all. What it boils down to is he lost interest either because he recognized before you did that you two would not work out or he has found a woman who he is highly interested in. Making self improvements should be done for the SELF and to enrich and enhance your life, not to mollify some man into being interested in you.

  • kierah

    I thought Sex & The City cleared this up years ago. Maybe he’s not that into you. End game.
    All the wondering is eliminated by this statement. Embrace it and move on!

  • Pseudonym

    This post was ridiculous. I was looking for reasons such as:

    1. He reunited with his ex-girlfriend
    2. One of the women he’s been “talking” to finally made things serious
    3. He is not interested in dating you/it was a one-nite stand
    4. He’s dating multiple women and hasn’t decided to focus on you specifically
    5. He’s a jerk
    6. You’re a jerk

    (but those last 2 should be at the bottom of the list, not the primary assumptions!)

    …but to imply that you have to be a horrible person or be making horrible decisions b/c a guy didn’t call you back…and to propose that as the ONLY reason…NONSENSE!

  • KJ23

    I don’t understand all the hate. I think the article was pretty good. It’s not saying that all women do these things, but if you do, it could be a reason why the guy isn’t hitting you back.

  • Mrs. A

    I believe the writer is speaking to women. She wants us to check ourselves. Some women need to hear these reasons. Yes, we know men can play a major part in why things go south, but we need all the scenario’s to understand relationships and their failures.

    • Cogito

      I understand that the message was directed specifically at women, but my point was that “A woman doesn’t have to necessarily do anything wrong in order for this to occur.” For example: I myself, in the past, have recused myself from the process because there was a disequilibrium in my life at that time which had nothing to do with anything she did or lacked in quality. So yes, while women should certainly self reflect and inventory what they bring to the table; things CAN fall apart through no fault on her part.

  • Cogito

    There are no universal reason for why we men do what we do; we are in fact as advertised…. individuals. And in many respects, we are no different than women in the romantic game in that we keep our options open until we are inspired to monogamously commit. And while I personally, do not endorse disconnecting without some communication, there are a plethora of reasons why a man may do so.
    We men are oftentime guilty of jumping without thinking; we respond to the visual stimulus of a woman’s beauty but oftentimes, find ourselves mismatched or overmatched once we venture beyond the exterior layer. Sometimes, we realize her expectations (material, emotional or intellectual) are beyond our ability to sustain. Some men disconnect this way because they do not know how to communicate their reasoning, or they simply want to avoid any manifest drama they believe will occur.
    When this has happen to me in reverse, I may speculate for moment as to the reasons why, but I never take it to seriously because what people do is more about them than it is about me. I simply accept that I wasn’t for her and keep it moving without being diminished in the slightest.

  • I am over this brooke character. She always has 6 reasons dear God. Who cares why he didn’t call. There are more men that I haven’t called then ones that haven’t called me. Maybe he didn’t cal bc he was looking for a booty call and u DIDN’T give it up too soon. Or he’s married or got back with his ex or whatever maybe I don’t care why he didn’t call bc he was only an option. Brooke unless you are happily married for 20 plus years with a faithful husband who is also happy I want no relationship advice.

    • Kiyoko Kayo Hisoka

      I think the article is crap, but she wasn’t giving you advice specifically.

      • Irritated


        • Kiyoko Kayo Hisoka

          SMH. You need to get a grip. You may change your name, but it doesn’t make you any less obsessed in replying to my comments with your own that aren’t even related to the article.

      • THAT’S obvious but I think rather I speak in first person or third people get my point.

        • Alohilani


  • Ms_Sunshine9898

    This article is a mess. These are clear reason why a man would stop fooling around with a woman if it’s HER fault not if there just wasn’t chemistry in the relationship or if there was something going on on a man’s part. Every time this author writes a relationship article, it’s something negative or wrong that a woman’s doing that makes or breaks or relationship, yet the man has no part in it. . .

  • I, too am disconcerted that the reason why a MAN won’t call has everything to do with what a woman does or doesn’t do. What happened to us all being responsible for our own behavior? Why is it a must that the issue is the woman. Perhaps, even if it WERE something a woman did…wouldn’t it be more of an adult thing, for a man to properly disconnect himself? Communicate to the person in question that he is no longer interested or vested? Everything is relative. He may deem her normal affection as clingy because perhaps HE is emotionally insecure and detached. We could do the blame game all day, but it will always come back around to an adult being an adult, facing the music and stating their position with respect.

    • Dee

      Bingo!!! An adult should end a relationship in a respectful manner. To just stop calling is immature and women should not blame themselves for childish male behavior.

    • lala x

      well said…,if only that could ease my broken heart

  • madonna

    Men will do anything to avoid an awkward conversation. It’s usually nothing to do with the woman they are dating- they do this to every woman they date. If they are so lacking in manners and social skills, good riddance. My husband argues that if a man really wants to be with a woman, he doesn’t care how early in the relationship they have sex- in fact, all the “rules” we’re taught as girls are irrelevant to men. If a man is attracted to you and really wants to be with you, you can break every “rule” in the book.

  • ANTMilf

    More like a man impersonating as a woman wrote this article. What about he might have a girlfriend or a wife at home, he’s only into s3x, not a relationship or he’s just a player?

    • Na Na

      Exactly! Im looking for reasons he might stop calling and all I see are reasons a woman shouldn’t be called. we’re talking about intelligent, rational women who this happens to. Not psycho ratchett baby mamas.

  • Meyaka

    So I’m the only gal in America who doesn’t base her self esteem on who she is dating and how many time he called or if he calls back or if he likes long hair and all these silly “opinions” women drive themselves crazy over? Girl….

  • bluekissess

    This is a sexist article. Why is this article displaying women as crazy, insecure drug addicts? What if the reason why he didn’t call is because he just doesn’t like you, he has other women he could be married whatever it is a women should never sit by the phone. Live your life. If he calls great if he doesn’t his loss

    • Kiyoko Kayo Hisoka

      Almost all of the articles on this topic are.