Don’t Be a Sucka! 9 Ways Women Use Men

November 13th, 2012 - By Brooke Dean

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While some men don’t want to settle down and claim a girlfriend, most men don’t need any “girl…friends” either. After all, what man wants to just “hang out” with a beautiful woman? That’s what his boys are for. It’s totally possible for men and women to be platonic friends, but that’s not normally how it starts.

The man is attracted to a woman, he asks her out, and they spend time together. But then somewhere along the line, said man falls into the dreaded “friend zone” – and he has no idea how he got there. He’s not sure if she’s playing hard to get, or if he’s been hoodwinked – and while he’s trying to figure it all out, the woman knows exactly what she’s doing. If you’re not sure if you’re being played for a fool, here are some signs that she just might be using you. (And indications you’re a low-key user.)

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  • SweetMay

    Simping ain’t easy…

  • Kaori

    Yes, I wouldn’t turn down the chance of friendship unless I knew it would not work out.

    • http://www.yourtango.com/users/cheekee-baby cheekee baby

      Not the friendship. I’m talking about keeping someone who you know wants more in the friend zone so that you could take advantage of their romantic interest in you in order to gain money, gifts, and favors. You KNOW you don’t want to be with them in that capacity and you KNOW the only reason they are agreeing to be your “friend” is to one day have a shot with you.

      • Kaori

        I guess it is just different for me because I don’t accept money, gifts, and favors from people, especially from people where my feelings are not mutual. It is only the fault of the person who chooses to stick around and let themselves be used.

        • http://www.yourtango.com/users/cheekee-baby cheekee baby

          Well then this story doesn’t apply to you at all.

          • Kaori

            I don’t use men, but I have experienced men trying to do nice things for me in order to lead to more than being friends.

            • http://www.yourtango.com/users/cheekee-baby cheekee baby

              And had you allowed them you would have been using them.

  • ChigozieNdubuisiUzoma

    thank you!!

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Anthony-Muthapukkin-Tinney/100001244269956 Anthony Muthapukkin Tinney

    Being a “gentleman” is sista-speak for “chump”.She dosen`t see b/m as humans,she see them is big dumb animals to use and abuse when he dosen`t OBEY her.(not all b/w).

  • NYC man1245

    More guys know this then women think and that’s why there are so many single men and women out there. I’m wondering why the women who commented are so salty about this article

  • ChigozieNdubuisiUzoma

    this artile is for those women who know that the so called friend is attracted to them and choose to exploit that situation

    • Jasmine

      Exactly. If you’re not one of these women, why get offended by the article? Not EVERY SINGLE ARTICLE on this site will pertain to EVERY SINGLE WOMAN out there, so only read the ones that pertain to YOU and keep it moving with the rest. Some women need to get a grip and not take everything so damn personal.

      • L-Boogie

        True. But for some women when you get accused of this and cannot vent. So…yeah.

  • kALY

    Why is it woman bashing? Sorry that every article isn’t about kissing the behind of a woman.I
    am beautiful woman and I love good man…..inter racial romance is my dream… so I
    joined —blackwhitePlanet.С0M—–it’s where to- connect with beautiful and excellent people! Any man who complains about the ‘friend zone’ must not value friendship with women and think that they are owed more than what a woman is willing to give.

  • S.W.

    Girl you done told our secrets lol! Kidding! Did you interview dudes to write this article or this is from observation of how you seen some guys get carried? Good read!

  • DUMBBEACHPLEASE

    FELLAS IF YOU LISTEN TO THESE COCKBLOCKING, BALLERBLOCKING LAMES YOU WILL END UP WITH A LOW CLASS CHIC OR EVEN WORSE ONE OF THEIR SWEATY, HAIRY, EXTRA UGLY @$$ES. STOP BALLERBLOCKING AND JUMP OFF A CLIFF!

  • DUMBBEACHPLEASE

    I SERIOUSLY DOUBT THAT A WOMAN WROTE THIS. THIS WAS WRITTEN BY A THIRSTY LOW CLASS DUDE WITH NO CLUE HOW TO TREAT WOMEN. UGH AND I CAN GUESS THE VARIETY. HA HA HA THE SAD PART IS SOME WOMEN’S STANDARDS ARE SO LOW THAT THEY AGREE WITH THE THIRSTBALLS!

    • Dee

      Every article on this site is written from a fake know it all. They swear they are dropping knowledge but they are far from it.

      • Jasmine

        It’s funny how when there are articles on this site that are about “10 ways to spot a deadbeat” or an article that puts men in a bad light, no one is saying a “fake” person wrote it. Women want all articles to paint them in a positive light when the truth is, not all humans are perfect and it’s okay to spotlight that every once in a while so that we can take a real, honest look at ourselves.

        If this article doesn’t pertain to you because you don’t use men, then keep it moving. I find it funny that all these so called independent, I never do anything wrong, perfect women read a site like this anyway. If you’re so perfect, why even bother reading sites that offer ANY information – because you should know it all already! Maybe it’s helpful to someone else, and if it’s not helpful to you, go read something else!

    • http://www.yourtango.com/users/cheekee-baby cheekee baby

      Can we agree that there are SOME women who use men? Okay great, so pointing out 9 ways that SOME women use men = thirstball? I don’t get it. Do you oppose articles warning women about SOME men who just want the cookie?

  • DUMBBEACHPLEASE

    30 AND 40 YEAR OLD MEN WHO MUST SLEEP WITH EVERY WOMAN THEY MEET. DESPERATE AND PATHETIC IS AN UNDERSTATEMENT. YOU’LL LIKELY GET TOSSED OUT ONCE SHE SLEEPS WITH YOU ANYWAY. HA HA HA

  • Nope

    Excluding #9, a lot of women get/expect all of this from men, yet cry ‘whoa is me :( ‘ when a man wants to have sex with them. Women rarely come up empty handed when interacting with men because at the least they got some attention and possibly a few meals or errands out of it, even if they’re not his woman (outside of her own head).

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Tiffanie-MadameGigglez-Thomas/665285721 Tiffanie MadameGigglez Thomas

    Why is this woman bashing article on here? This is a website that uplifts women, not beat them down for ways that we entice a man by using our femininity.

    • anony

      hello!!!! thank you!! i was thinking the same thing… its called “madamenoire”… get a clue writers!

    • R

      Why is it woman bashing? Sorry that every article isn’t about kissing the behind of a woman.

  • Miyo K.

    1. A man who can’t ‘just’ hang out with a beautiful woman obviously doesn’t see women for more than their physical appearance.

    2. Any man who complains about the ‘friend zone’ must not value friendship with women and think that they are owed more than what a woman is willing to give.

    • ChigozieNdubuisiUzoma

      thats not true lol u sure are the user type

      • Miyo K.

        It is true. You just don’t agree. And no, I am not the ‘user type’. There wasn’t even any information in my comment for you to glean anything about my personality.

        • ChigozieNdubuisiUzoma

          its all good at the end of the day a guy is only friends with a female he knows he can never date. its either she is ugly or he is just not attracted to her period

          • MIYO K.

            What kind of female?

    • Irritated

      Yeah she sounds like a gold digger Kim Kardashian bird brain.

    • L-Boogie

      You make so much sense.