Older May Be Wiser: Why Getting Married Later In Life Could Benefit You

November 7, 2012  |  
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From YourTango

There are advantages to waiting out your twenties and thirties.

Marriage is more than finding the right person. It is being the right person.” —Unknown

I used to wonder if I would ever find true love. When I was in college, I thought I’d be married by the time I was 25. When 27 rolled around, I thought I would get married in my early 30s. Then I thought I’d be married by the time I was 35 years old. In hindsight, it’s easy to see why it took so long for “the one” to find me and me to find “the one.” I wasn’t being the person I needed to be in order to have the love I desired.

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  • Cogito

    I would certainly advise men to wait until at least until their mid thirties before entering into marriage. Men need, no matter how intellectually precocious they may be, their twenties to first, get to know themselves and secondly, to better understand women. Our maturation process is slower than women because we generally don’t perform self reflection or introspection, which is necessary to know thyself, until we have suffered some traumatic set back in our lives or before time itself seasons us, whichever comes first.

    Knowledge of self enables us to discipline those impulses that can be destructive to relationships and gives us time to acquire an apppreciate for women beyond their phyiscial beauty, which of course is the foundation of a more visceral love. Lastly, he needs this time to establish himself professionally and to accrue some assets before taking on the responsibility of a family which love alone can not and will not reduce the emotional volatility and stress of financial inconsistency. .

  • Miss Anonymous

    Yes it does benefit you better because you will be more mature. I’m kind of conflicted on this though because I dont want to be a first time mother at 35+ because I married later (if at all). I see how it is for my mother with my baby sister who is in elementary and how she doesnt really get all of the things I got at that age and it makes me wonder if I will be able to handle it if I get married in 15 – 20 years.

  • some purposely wait until their older to get married because of what they watched their mothers go through with their fathers particularly when both parents are famous Ask Claire Newman she didn’t Marry until she was 35

  • JaneDoe

    For one, you know who you are. And you know what you will and won’t put up with.