Time To Grow Up: 6 Triflin College Behaviors You Should Have Left Behind

November 7, 2012  |  

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College was a such a magical time for me. From meeting people who’d had completely different life experiences than my own, to learning more about who I was as a woman, it was just as much a time of exploration as it was academic advancement. And though I wouldn’t trade my particular experience for anything, there are some college behaviors that I…and you need to be sure to leave within those campus boundaries. See what I mean.

Eating Ramen or Eating Out

Before I went to school I remember declaring that I was not going to be anybody’s broke college student. But lawd knows I was wrong. Between studying, my extracurricular activities, and maintaing a social life, there was hardly any time for a job that would pay enough for me to live the lifestyle I was accustomed to at home… you know when my parents were paying for most of my expenses. At first, I had a hard time accepting my new reality and would often splurge on fast food, restaurant food, etc… essentially food I couldn’t afford. Eventually, my bank account let me know that was no longer going to work. And I had to make adjustments. When you’re broke, you quickly learn that you can save money by eating cheap, often crappy food. For most college students, the crappy food of choice is Ramen. That’s all fine and good when you’re struggling; but now that you have a little bit of money in your pocket, you can afford to spend more than a dollar on dinner. Now, just because you can afford to eat out, like all the time, there is something to be said about learning to cook, real food for yourself. And not just to catch a man either. Whether you have a man or not, you still need food to survive, so it would behoove you to know how to cook a little something.


Procrastinating til the last minute

I’m going to be real with ya’ll and say that in college my middle name was procrastination. Honestly, it had become a game I played with myself, a game I usually won. If I crammed for a test and still managed to get an A or a B on it, I won. If I waited until the night before to write a paper I’d been assigned at the beginning of the semester and it came back to me with very little red ink on it, then I won. I won a lot in the game of procrastination. But in adulthood, when your deadlines are more likely to be attached to bills, when losing can come with no electricity or an eviction notice, the procrastination game is not one worth playing. The stakes are just too high.


Learn to say what you need/want/mean

Some people live for confrontation and foolishness. They love to give people a piece of their mind. And though I’ve never had a problem expressing myself when things get too hairy, it can be hard to assert your likes, dislikes, and morals when you’re still trying to figure them out. But now is the time to learn how to speak up, diplomatically, when you’re not happy with the way things are going down. Better to learn now than getting out in the cold, cruel world where people chew up and spit out the timid.

Don’t let dishes sit for more than 24 hours

College is a busy time, full of academic and social distractions. And when you’re busy, it’s easy to let the chores slide. While you can let your laundry pile up and neglect dusting a bit here and there, you cannot let the dishes sit there for too long. While your dirty laundry might not smell all that great, leaving your dirty dishes can cause everything from mold to insects to take over your home. It shouldn’t have happened in college, but now that you’re grown for real, it’s time to crack down.

Placing partying before your priorities

I wasn’t one of these people but I watched as quite a few of my associates got those infamous “academic probation” letters. For most of them, it wasn’t that they weren’t bright, or that college was too much of a challenge for them. It was the fact that they were too turnt up to study. If you manage to make it to graduation, don’t take that same destructive behavior into the workplace. If you love to kick it, do so in a manner that won’t affect your work performance.


If you’re living with others, learn to compromise

Just because you’ve graduated, doesn’t mean that you have to live on your own. In fact, if you can save a couple of dollars by living with a roommate, then by all means do so. But you must go into the situation knowing that trying to mesh personalities is no small feat. If you find that you and your roomie are having your differences, as you most likely will, it’s important that you at least attempt to compromise to come a solution.

What trife life behaviors should you have left in college?

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  • Miss D

    I’m just surprised to see an article all on one page.

    • nick

      you aint neva lied

    • think

      LMAO! So true (and refreshing)!

  • I enjoyed this quick little article! I think this has some good over all life tips for people IN college and who are on the brink of graduation! Nothing too crazy or out of place!

    I like this writer! This is a good age group to target for your audience !! I look forward to your future post on MN!

  • Lovelyascanbb

    Everybody is always so angry in the comments lol.

    • think

      lol right!

  • KJ23

    I needed this, because I’m 27 and I keep on trying to figure out where all my money is going and when I look at all my receipts, it’s all fast food and take out. Even though I love Ramen Noodles and will hook them up with all types of special ingredients (spinach lettuce and such) all that sodium is not healthy to be eating it on a regular basis like I am. I need to get my big girl pants on and try to make some in the kitchen, besides a mess.

    • Kellz

      I believe in you.lol

    • chanela

      right! that’s way too much damn salt to be eating at lunch AND dinner on a daily basis. this is why i think they should stop with english being taught in high school ALL 4 years as a requirement. they teach the same damn stuff every year anyway! instead they should start doing required life skills classes that teach high schoolers how to cook HEALTHY foods for themselves,do their taxes,how to manage money and how to act in a job interview…because honneyyy unfortunately some adults do NOT know how to do any of those and it’s embarassing because it’s something all adults should know, yet nobody is teaching them.

      ramen noodles aren’t the only cheap food item out there. you can easily make a great tasting tortilla wrap sandwich,pasta,salads, and potato ANYTHING (potatoes are my favorite vegetable because you can make soo much with them!). it’s a shame that people seriosly think their only option is some 2,000mg of sodium noodle packets.

      • Kiyoko Kayo Hisoka

        You think English shouldn’t be required for all four years of high school in favor of life skills classes? I disagree on eliminating English, because look how many people graduate from high school and still cannot properly form a grammatically correct sentence. I do, however, think that life skills classes should be a requirement because as a former bank teller, I could not stand to wait on adults who could not properly fill out a deposit slip or check.

        • chanela

          well people who have been in high school taking english for 4 years still can’t get the message! obviously they should take it for like 2 or 3 years and their senior year, do the life skills class. instead of teaching nouns,verbs,and adjectives every damn year the school should cram more into the first 3 years of college.

          at least at MY school we learned the same thing over and over and over from like 6th grade to 12th grade and it was irritating! can we learn something that’s actually useful instead of going over the same thing every year?

        • Ebony

          She didnt say eliminate English. She stated she thought it shouldn’t be required ALL 4 years of HS

          • Miyo K.

            “You think English shouldn’t be required for all four years of high school in favor of life skills classes?” – I understood what she said perfectly well.

  • ms. mya

    I had ramen noodles for dinner tonight and they were damn good.

  • I don’t understand how eating out is trifling???? As a working professional that’s just what I do. I like to cook, but I don’t have the time during the week to do so. I just think the first one had nothing to do with being out of college… shooo ramen noodles are a heck of a good lunch.

    • chanela

      it IS trifling. adults should know how to cook basic healthy meals for themselves. that is SAD. some adults brag about how they can’t cook and how cereal and hot pockets is the only thing they can cook and that’s not cute at all.

      salads,potato wedges,and chicken with white rice are not rocket science! do better for your health, PLEASE don’t rely on fast food places to do it for you cause they don’t give a hot hell about your health.

    • mac

      There are working professionals with children who find time to cook. Not an excuse.

  • Kiyoko Kayo Hisoka

    Eating Ramen noodles is a ‘trifling behavior’? And as far as eating out – I guess most men are being trifling since more of them rely on fast food for their breakfast, lunch, and dinner if they aren’t dating a woman.

    • Nope

      Hell most women rely on men for eating out.

      • Kiyoko Kayo Hisoka

        No, that is incorrect. Women don’t rely on men for eating out, because then that would mean that the only time women eat out is when she is with a man. Women all the time eat out with her friends, family, or even coworkers and is able to pay for her own meal. Men, on the other hand don’t get cooked meals unless he goes to a female relative’s house or has women friends who may provide him with a meal.

      • luna

        lol you’re funny

  • Geena

    I’m 32 years old and I still love my muthf*********cking ramen noodles. Mind ya bizz, author.