@Earthspirit

And your point being ? No woman intimidates me NONE except being so beautiful she makes me nervous but thats only initally before i talk to her which is normal ! Why becuase i know what i want out of life , I have big goals. I am very motivated and very creative. When a lot of guys say he is intimidated by a successfull woman and feels like she dont need him for anything is something i understand but i find it perplexing.

If the woman/man is suited for you and you have goals , i dont see how he or she can feel intimidated becuase that person who may not have had the financial equity of the other in the beginning could easily become the Primary provider of the two. And why women seem to use thier bad experiences as a sypathy call is beyond me. becuase guys arent as vocal about what they go through , a lot of sistas convfirm to me in private that we do go thru more crap than women but its taboo for them to publicly admit it. But what do i know "I am just a man"

Oh did i amention I AM BLACK lol.

Ladies your feedback is welcome knoxg1@aol.com

Slow day for AOL…..just saying.

@ judy my member name says it all i feel the same way about a woman but i would love to meet you and see if you really feel that way about a man ……..you say your looking for a good man well here i am and if you are willing to meet email me at yenom504@gmail.com

Black women damn if you do damn if you don't! If you stick with the blackman that really doesn't have that much going on for him Then it's your fault you shouldn't involve yourself with that type of male you should have known better! Then, when you are trying to get the black male that's doing something with himself or have something then your standards are too high or your being a gold digger! Black women don't you know all the other races of women can have high expectations and can demand what they want and wanting the best. Black women how dare you do the same, you should just take whatever you can get because your not worthy of having that option or wanting the best for yourselves like the of races. Also you can't do the same things that the other women do. Black men can except ton of make-up, the fake butts, breast, hair, tans, teeth, and other body parts from other races of women not to mention constantly going on and on about how good they look with it, but don't you dare do the same. It's so unexceptable for us. Basically anything a non-black female will do is acceptable, for us it's always in a negative light and that's just how it is.

Wow is all I can say.I'm a single(BY CHOICE),educated,black,beautiful mother of 1 and I agree with this article to some degree(some degree).My perception of me is mine and all may not agree but if it's one thing I know is the fail of BLACK LOVE does not rest soley or even the majority on the woman.You have all types of women,different backgrounds,motivations,needs,wants,exspectations and soforth but what you need to remember is black woman deserve as anyone else someone that loves and cherishes them just as black men need all these things.I remember two important things my pastor said about this issue 1.If each person wakes up every morning and says ,how can I please my mate today and strives for that goal we would have much happier and longer lasting relationships and marriages,but instead people are selfish and dont wanna give an much as they wanna receive.2. Because the man is supposed to be the head,the king and soforth if his marriage goes to schambles he feels its mostly his fault because he is the man he is supposed to profess protect and provide because he wants that the title and recognition right.I read Steve Harveys' book and found it somewhat informative but it also made me feel as if the black man is very needy.I felt that they needed to be treated like babies with the constant uplifting and ego boosting.Don't get me wrong ladies you are supposed to do these things.I understand fully that men need to feel needed and wanted and up lifted but hell so do we.We are supposed to be the more fragile sensitive ones but the book made men sound like they needed to be us.You have to do this for them to feel like this or do that or dont do this or that and all the while I'm thinking damn well what about us.We work ,cook,clean, sex,talk,take care of kids and all the such with very few praises and understanding on how we feel.It just does not seem that its a fair or equal playing field.Then if you are not always on point with something they have a reason to do the things they do that hurt and destroy the relationship and then be expected to forgive and forget. What is funny to me and not ha ha funny is that men, you guys are not giving us everything we want trust me when I tell you this, we just deal with and accept somethings because most good women weigh the good and bad and just compromise.Now there are those who have stank attitudes low self-esteem ect.,but let me just tell you alot of that comes from how women have been treated,used,abused,lied to and soforth by our black man so lets not act like its just because we want to be that way.No it is not right or attractive but for every cause there is an effect.What black women need to do is take some time off for themselves,get them together and realize their worth and that takes time and effort. Everyone has standards and like what they like but let us not forget men are the most visiual being(thats a proven fact).What I can say from experience is black men do prefer our natuarl beauty as oppsed to heavy face painting and wierd hair does,but they gotta let us do us just as we let them do what cool for them.Ladies my thing is always love yourself no matter who does or does not be true to you and then you can be true to someone else.If the black man does not want you I know someone else will. Don't be afraid to explore outside your race,tour mate might be there waiting.

People just need to grow up. I am a black man married to a black woman for seven years. We both shake our heads in frustration at the state of black relationships today. It doesn't have to be this way. But both sides have MAJOR issues. Both sides. My wife and I have a great relationship. Part of it comes from keeping things in perspective. We are not materialistic. We are not out to impress people with our relationship. We don't think our "education" somehow makes us "special." We put our marriage before everything else. We don't let our jobs rule us. We always respect one another. It's not that damn hard. People make it hard. Some people are too damned hard to please. Some people are damned complicated. Those kinds of people will stay complaining on message boards.