Congrats! Now Let’s Talk: 5 Things I Wish New And Soon-To-Be Moms Would Stop Doing And Sharing Online

October 31, 2012  |  

Facebook more than any other social network has become a grown up’s virtual show-and-tell with folks showcasing everything from birthdays to beatdowns and breakups, and nuptials to…well, nipples. We seem to show everything, all the time, with reckless abandon, letting anyone and everyone into our lives.

I don’t judge. If showing the world every detail of your private life is what makes you happy, by all means, share away. I do take issue with a few things however and it seems that the preggo social networkers happen to be the repeat offenders in this case. And now that everyone is getting their hands on an Instagram account to soon put the TM in TMI (Too Much Information), here’s a look at the top five things that new moms and/or moms-to-be need to QUIT doing and sharing with the world.

Stop posting half-naked pregnant pictures: Why does the world need to see you in a bra and panties with your protruding, freshly cocoa-buttered belly? Was the fully-clothed photo of you with your hands lovingly placed over your baby bump not enough? No? You had to go all Amber Rose? Not everything is for everybody. I think we all see enough of these type of images at black art festivals and don’t need you to enter the game. Keep these for your own personal photo album.
Stop showing us your “Birthin’ room” pics: Listen, the sacred and sometimes scary moment of delivering a child into this world is not meant for everyone on the Internet or in your friend cricle to see. No one wants to see your blue-green baby fresh out the pum pum all cloaked in a glistening robe of yuck. Let the little bundle of joy marinate in a bath and fresh air for a few days before you introduce us! I think we can all better appreciate the adorable kid you brought into the world when you don’t post a photo of them straight out the womb.
Don’t talk smack about your baby’s father(s): Um, he was good enough for you to lay up under, so think twice before posting that rant about how he ain’t s—. It only makes you look immature and if you do it more than once, you’ll start to look completely ratchet. Settle your private affairs, you know, privately.
Don’t talk smack about your kids! This sounds crazy, but trust, I see it almost daily. In my mind I always want to shake these individuals and remind them that, hey, YOU’RE the one raising little Ray Ray! If he’s “bad” then guess whose fault that is? Don’t worry, I’ll wait… Congratulations, you’ve just outed yourself as a subpar parent. Get your whole entire life, honey.
PLEASE STOP posting naked baby photos. Now THIS, I take SO seriously. No jokes here at all. As we’ve all come to know but many of us choose to ignore, what you put into cyberspace you can not get back, nor can you control who views it. Your babies are adorable. I get that. But they are adorable FULLY clothed. Shield your children from the perverts lurking on the Internet. Just because you’ve set your Facebook profile to “private” does not mean that what you post won’t easily be taken and seen. Cover your children and please be mindful of the kinds of photos you post of them. Internet predators can only use what we provide. Let’s be more mindful.


La Truly is a late-blooming Aries whose writing is powered by a lifetime of anecdotal proof that awkward can transform to awesome and fear can cast its crown before courage. La seeks to encourage thought, discussion and change. Her blog: and Twitter: @AshleyLaTruly. 

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  • My Business

    Um……if you don’t like it, why just not look??? I don’t understand this “I am so offended by what other people post on their pages.” There is this thing they have on facebook that lets you limit what you can see of other people’s posts. You can also click out of something or scroll past it.

  • Liish

    I believe that giving birth is an amazing thing. It is amazing to have a new entity in the world who is experiencing everything for the first time. People have the right to be as enthused about their kid as possible. As a person who has 0.00 kids I understand that some of those endless photo albums ans statuses can in fact be irksome. So what? They have a hide button for all of that. The stages of childhood are short. You have the rest of your life to have pictures taken of your ashy grown butt. I say let the moms have it. Let them enjoy it and get over it. (But them naked pregnancy pic ARE tacky alot of the time)

  • proud mama

    This is some complete bull$hit! Half the people that are agreeing with this nonsense would have no problem watching videos with scantily clad gyrating women and/or viewing racy pics of celebs on the web. GTFOOHWTBS! Some women revel in their motherhood and changing bodies and if this completely natural and beautiful process is offensive to you just look away!

    • SheBe

      Please lower your pitchfork, burp cloths, and receiving blankets. It’s ok. Wooooosah!

  • mdoubs

    “5 things I wish I NEW…”. wth happened to KNEW!? what a shame…

    • Numero Uno

      Ummm apparently YOU didn’t read the statement correctly. She used the correct spelling. Where do you see an ‘I’ in front of ‘NEW’?

    • La Truly

      Thank you for bringing the typo to my attention. Funny how those darn typos happen occasionally.

  • Miss D

    People act like having a child is so uncommon these days. Sonograms all look the same to me, so why are you posting 10 different pictures of it? When your lil one is born, you got to post he’s sleeping? Thats what babies do! Heck, yo tail needs to be trying to catch a nap while you’re on facebook documenting your kid’s every move. I think motherhood is beautiful but people put way too much of their business online.


    I sick of the sonogram pictures!!

  • Kenedy

    & how about those pictures of every single thing your baby is doing…”munchkin is chewing on a napkin…..precious is asleep…blah blah can sit up” my newsfeed is bombarded with those…smh…ok, we get it, you just had a baby…chill with that though, lol

  • ijs

    I am more so annoyed with the old women having babies and acting like everything their child do is a miracle. Write about that! ANNOYING!

  • Yes , Yes and yes especially the baby pics. It’s an online world. Your child will be faced with those pics someday probably as an embarrassed teenager. Just don’t do it! I am a mother btw so hoping no one tells me that I will understand when I have a baby!

  • That baby in that pic is ADORABLE!!

  • courts

    where is the share button!!!!!

  • Bukky

    THANK YOU! Those pregnancy photoshoots just arent cute anymore.

  • SheBe

    I agree 100%! A pet peeve of mine is when people act “more pregnant” than they are. They will be 4/5 months talking about how they wobble and their backs hurt. Child please! Every pregnancy is different but most women will tell you to have a seat. Wait til those cankles form, you can’t see your feet when you walk, your back feels like its trying to fold in half, you can’t put on socks, & you have to wobble for real because your hips are trying spread like eagle wings. And that’s at 7/8 months! Lol!

    • Reese


    • KJ23

      LOL!!!! I remember when my feet swell up and started looking like baked potatoes! I remember crying because I felt fat, but then baked potatoes made me really hungry! Oh pregnancy memories!!

    • Na Na

      I promise my homegirl started having all these symptoms at 9 weeks, Im just like honey please. You talking to someone that has been pregnant with two. Just relax, you will def get to those symptoms.

      • SheBe


  • Reese

    I definitely agree with all of these. I have friends who posted bikini pictures of their stretched out baby bellies. I can honestly say I haven’t and won’t do any of these things. I kept my pregnancy so quiet, I didn’t even mention it on social networks. But if people knew better they’d do better.