First Lady Wisdom: Michelle Obama Says You Won’t Catch Her Nagging Barack

October 8, 2012  |  

Source: ABC News

Michelle Obama, AKA President Obama’s “campaigner-in-chief,” as ABC has labeled her, is dropping a little relationship advice for women in her upcoming three-part “Nightline” special, possibly without even knowing it. Though the questions anchor Cynthia McFadden asked the FLOTUS are clearly tied to her relationship with the leader of our nation, all women could likely learn a thing or two from her take on her role in their marriage— even if your man’s job isn’t quite as important.

When Mrs. Obama was asked how much she influences policy, or at least lets her opinions be known, she said it’s a rare occasion.

“I rarely step foot in the West Wing. In fact people are shocked when they see me there,” she said. “I rarely walk in that office because the truth is he’s got so many wonderful advisers. He’s got a phenomenal cabinet. He’s got people who are in the trenches on these issues every single day and I’m kind of stepping in and out and I’ve got my own set of issues. So I don’t even have the kind of expertise and the time in to be able to provide the kind of advice and guidance that he’s already getting.”

If she’s not stepping inside of the West Wing, does that just mean the FLOTUS waits until Mr. President retires at the end of the day to pick with him and air out her grievances?  Absolutely not.

“In a job like this, the last thing the president of the United States needs when he walks in the door to come home is someone drilling him and questioning him about the decisions and choices that he’s made. There are definitely times when I may feel something, but I’ll hold back because I know he’ll either get to that on his own or it’s just not time.”

How many of us do the same? Don’t worry you don’t have to answer out loud. Sometimes us ladies have a habit of wanting to get answers and express our feelings right when we want to without any regard for the other person’s feelings or immediate needs, which is why I think what Michelle Obama said is so important. Even more powerful is the First Lady’s admission of unyielding support for her husband in his difficult position.

“In the end, Barack, our family is priority for him, and I knew that if I said no he wouldn’t do this. And then I had to think of whether I would want to be responsible for not having somebody like Barack you know, someone with his level of intellect, his honesty, his compassion, his vision. Would I want to be the one who stood in the way of this person potentially running this country? And I couldn’t do that, because then I had to think beyond myself and my family and I had to think of sort of the broader benefits that this country could gain from his leadership.”

Thank God she gave Barack the OK. The first of Michelle Obama’s three-part interview series with Cynthia McFadden airs on “Nightline” tonight at 11:35 pm. ET What do you think about her answers on staying out of the President’s way?

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  • pfeiffer87

    sidenote: love the colour of her dress


    Michelle looks like a huge nag….Obama is the one who looks like he tells her “michelle don’t worry about it”….Enough pretending like your relationship is soo perfect…cus I know fairy tales are full of chit!!

    • Yvette

      I don’t recall her saying her relationship/marriage is perfect. As a matter of fact, they have both said in many, many interviews that they work very hard at their marriage so that it will continue to work. Believe me when I say that marriage is no fairytale, but with hard work and honest communication there is such a thing as a good marriage which is what the FLOTUS and POTUS seem to have. Not all relationship are full of chit as you so eloquently put it. She was asked a question and she answered it. Point blank period.

      • Mhmmgirrrl!

        Thank you Yvette! I mean what did she expect her to say? Even if they are having issues, she’s no fool! She’s not going to use an interview on national tv to air her dirty laundry! Heck, when she made a oke about Barack having “stinky socks”, the press had a field day saying she belittles him and bs. Anyway, I believe her. It may seem hard to believe but healthy marriages do exist! (Why are ppl always so skeptical/negative? Eww.)

    • Faith

      I have to agree with Yvette below, I don’t remember Michelle ever saying anything about her marriage is being perfect. No marriage is perfect. In marriage, there is no fairytale, no perfection or it is not a cake walk, Which I think one of the reasons why some of these marriages ended up in divorces. I believe when Michelle and Obama does interviews together, I think they have said that they have time they didn’t agree on everything but they work at it together. I agree with Michelle that she should let him do his job, and only if he asks for her advice, she can give her perspective and leave it alone, not nagging him all the time. We as women do need to learn to leave some things alone, not nagging the man all the time. Men (particularly black men) don’t like all that nagging and putting the man down when he misses it or makes an honest mistake. As one man I heard saying, women have to pick the right timing. Timing is almost everything to men. You don’t argue with a man when he is trying to watch sports, you need to wait if it can wait. The key to a good marriage is trust, communication skills, always have that talk, talk to each other.

  • L-Boogie

    She is still married. Seems to work.