- Don’t Talk…Just Listen.
Ever notice that the words silent and listen have the same letters? Maybe there’s a point there. It’s kind of hard to understand where someone is coming from if you’re always popping off at the mouth ranting and raving, not giving the other person a chance to explain their point of view. Even if you don’t agree with what the other person is saying, listening lets them know that you value their opinion and that their feelings are valid, even if you disagree. This way, no one can ever say that you didn’t allow them to get their point across.
After you let him speak, tell him that you heard him…and then walk away to think about it. Decide if what you’re arguing about is worth getting upset over, and let it go. If you can’t, bring it up at another time when you both have had a chance to cool down. Words tend to get lost in a crowd of emotions and differing opinions where both feel that the loudest person wins. So don’t say anything, and let the other person have the floor. Once you give someone the courtesy of hearing them out, they should be willing to do the same in return.