If You’ve Got Nothing Nice To Say…! 5 Reasons Why Silence Is Sometimes The Best Policy

October 6th, 2012 - By Brooke Dean

 

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  1. Don’t Talk…Just Listen.

Ever notice that the words silent and listen have the same letters? Maybe there’s a point there. It’s kind of hard to understand where someone is coming from if you’re always popping off at the mouth ranting and raving, not giving the other person a chance to explain their point of view. Even if you don’t agree with what the other person is saying, listening lets them know that you value their opinion and that their feelings are valid, even if you disagree. This way, no one can ever say that you didn’t allow them to get their point across.

After you let him speak, tell him that you heard him…and then walk away to think about it. Decide if what you’re arguing about is worth getting upset over, and let it go. If you can’t, bring it up at another time when you both have had a chance to cool down. Words tend to get lost in a crowd of emotions and differing opinions where both feel that the loudest person wins. So don’t say anything, and let the other person have the floor. Once you give someone the courtesy of hearing them out, they should be willing to do the same in return.

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  • Shawty

    I gave the silent treatment to a friend of mines once, and I told him via text I would contact him when I could talk in a civil manner. When that time came, he got upset and basically took over the conversation; while I was trying to explain why I gave him the ST. By the end of the convo, he hung up on me, only to text a few mins later that he understood he was in the wrong but that I needed to communicate better, versus shutting him out. Now, he calls every once in awhile, after not hearing from me, to make sure I’m not mad at him. lol. I guess the ST worked in my favor. ha ha

  • Nope

    I greet the silence treatment with my own silence. The silence treatment doesn’t work very well if the other person refuses to even acknowledge it. But yeah women really do need to learn to filter their emotions and thoughts a lot better. Just because you feel or think something doesn’t mean you’re right, or that the other person does or should care.

  • Meyaka

    I wanna defend myself, and protest, but you’re right Brooke, I’m going to try as hard as I can to shut the heck up sometimes.

  • NicPal

    I adore the silent treatment it has helped me many of day from sitting in a jail cell next to Charlie Manson and his crew. Truth!

    • L-Boogie

      You are so funny.

      • NicPal

        :)