Real Talk: Are You Too Crazy To Have A Relationship Right Now?

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October 12, 2012 ‐ By Julia Austin
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Does every ex of yours avoid you like the plague? Do most of your breakups end with yelling, things breaking, and a borderline war? Are you incapable of an amicable split? If so, you might have some issues to work out before luring another victim into your web.

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  • young afrique

    I guess I’m beyond crazy according to this article….Lol…frankly I think you have to be crazy to be in relationships or else you are going o walked all over!

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  • young afrique

    maybe after a year!

  • young afrique

    yep

  • young afrique

    This one not soo much..

  • young afrique

    I attest to this HERE!

  • Torontochick

    All of these clicks is going to make me change to Clutchmag!

  • phnx

    most of the time i just breeze by this kinda stuff on bossip, but I’m glad I stopped by this time, seeing these things in writing, have made it clear that some of these apply to me and my current relationship, I just wanna thank you guys for posting this, it may very well help me keep my relationship together….

  • treypeezy

    crazy is as crazy does.-TP of SISB

  • UnsungHipHop.Com

    This is funny….

  • http://www.yourtango.com/users/cheekee-baby cheekee baby

    I don’t know. I don’t call everyone I’m friendly with my friend. So to me if a man says he has a female friend, I assume this is someone he spends time with regularly, talks to frequently, and shares his hopes, wishes and dreams with. Anything less than that means they are an acquaintance. I personally believe a straight man does not befriend a straight woman with the intentions of being her perfectly platonic friend. Therefore, he got put into the friend zone by her and he’s still holding on because he’s still attracted to, interested in, or in love with her.

    But maybe I have the definition of friend wrong.

    • young afrique

      good insight…cheers to being crazy! yea most guys that I call friends every once in awhile would attempt to get fresh ,innuendo statements ..even when they know you are in a relationship..kai!

  • SFDotNet

    You gotta be crazy to be in a relationship. That’s the only way it’s going to work.

    SF

  • L-Boogie

    Stay single. Cuts all the drama down.

    • L-Boogie

      I apologize for the double comment. It keeps making appear like I have not commented.

  • York

    The only one I don’t agree with is the last one. Change is therapeutic and sometimes a different thought process is exactly what you need to move on. IMO it’s unhealthy when you start changing things you had no problem with from the start.

  • diggy.p

    I will be honest. My breakups have never ended well. But I usually keep in contact with them and remain friends with them after some time has passed. We obviously split with good reason. Most of my ex boyfriends have cheated on me. But I don’t hold grudges. I let them see that I am perfectly fine, have moved on and am doing quite well.

    • http://www.yourtango.com/users/cheekee-baby cheekee baby

      That’s sad. You choose the same man over and over. Why you would want to keep in contact with someone who is a liar and cheater is puzzling. But good for you.

      • young afrique

        now that’s not very smart of you…how is she suppose to know the guy she meets is going to be a liar and a cheat.And why cant she remain in contact with someone they had an intimate relationship with if they was a potential to be friends if they couldn’t be lovers.Maybe that person had some good qualities as a friend…just means don’t hold out expectations in the friendship just because you had a previous relationship. I’m still OK with all my exes,though they cheated and vice versa ,things were done that was unnecessary. I’ve been on the same cell phone plan with my ex from 2 years ago till now…And my current bf knows..we just discuss regular stuff and just go about our daily lives ..touching bases and staying respectful of each other.:-)

        • http://www.yourtango.com/users/cheekee-baby cheekee baby

          I don’t befriend backstabbers and liars. If someone I called friend was to betray me I would ex them out of my life with a quickness. A cheater is both a liar AND backstabber. That automatically disqualifies them from having any sort of place in my life going forward.

          As far as the cellphone with the ex thing . . . ~shrug~ seems unnecessary and leaves room for some unnecessary drama down the road. But whatever floats your boat. Doesn’t seem “very smart of you”

          • young afrique

            my reference to the cell phone was to show that its possible to remain casual and amicable despite though situations. I’m sure everyone is capable of being a backstabber or a cheat at any given time.We cant just rule people out completely because of unfavorable characteristics.

            • http://www.yourtango.com/users/cheekee-baby cheekee baby

              Everyone is capable of murder doesn’t mean everyone is a murderer. That’s the distinction. You trusted someone. They willfully sh*tted (excuse my French) on your trust and lied and deceived you. IMHO that disqualifies them from being in my trusted friend circle. Being “amicable” and “casual” has nothing to do with being friends. I’m “amicable” and “casual” with just about everyone that makes my acquaintance that does not mean they are my friend. Not hating the air your ex breathes doesn’t mean you are buddy-buddy with them.

              • young afrique

                we can agree to disagree…

                • young afrique

                  not everyone can be a good boyfriend but everyone is capable of being good in general if given the benefit of a doubt…

                  • http://www.yourtango.com/users/cheekee-baby cheekee baby

                    I give people the benefit of the doubt the first go around until they prove they are unworthy of that benefit. Again we can be cool but you for dang sure ain’t gonna be in the inner circle of trust again. But you run your life on your terms and deal with who you want to.

  • TRUTH IS

    Nope, doesn’t apply to me. No man has any power over me to drive me to therapy. Keep it moving!!

    • RJA

      That’s good for u, you’re very fortunate

    • L-Boogie

      Stay single.

    • young afrique

      don’t lie to yourself…lol