Torn In Between The Two – Do I Really Want To Be With You? Go With Your Head…Or Your Heart

October 7th, 2012 - By Brooke Dean

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  1. Be Honest

If you’re currently in a relationship, but have developed serious feelings for someone else, it’s important to be honest and tell your partner how you’re feeling. If you’ve cheated on your man already, it may be too late to salvage your relationship. But if you haven’t crossed that line yet, now is the time to re-evaluate the current state of your relationship and try to figure out what allowed you to fall for someone else in the first place. Have a serious talk about what is working, what isn’t working, how you both truly feel about each other and where you see the relationship going. Get it all out in the open. You both may gain some clarity as it pertains to the direction of your relationship and if it’s worth continuing. If it’s worth it, you may discover that the second person was simply someone you were looking to fill a void in your current relationship. But if you both don’t see the relationship going anywhere, now you can end it before things get too hectic and you wind up doing something you’ll regret – and you can pursue a relationship with the second person…guilt free.

If you are NOT in a committed relationship, be upfront by saying that you’re not ready for an exclusive relationship right now. But if both are demanding a commitment, and a commitment is what you ultimately want, you may need to act quickly. Just don’t make any grand declarations of love for either man until you sort it out.

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  • http://www.yourtango.com/users/cheekee-baby cheekee baby

    This must be geared towards really young women. I can see if you are a young woman dating two men at the same time. But building relationships to the point where you are trying to decide if one of them truly loves you. That’s childish game playing and you ought to walk away from both of them and do some growing up before wasting anyone else’s time and energy;

  • Miss Anonymous

    I would go with my head because going with my heart will gloss over many of his terrible flaws. Flaws as in “oh he forgot about my bday its okay”, “he cheated on me but Im his main so its okay”, “he never has money to go on dates and I always have to pay even though he spends $200 on his own shirts and jordans but its okay”. Your head can often see the red flags pop up but your heart feels that he will change overtime with the love of you being his good woman.

  • JaneDoe

    Thats a tough one.. The heart can leave you in bad situations. While the head can leave you in a unhappy/ loveless relationship or even alone. Sometimes…

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