Is He Who He Says He Is? 6 Ways To Research Your Man

September 28th, 2012 - By Renay Alize

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Today was “Girl’s Day” at work. As you already know, when a group of women get together, and there are no men around, the conversation is bound to turn toward shady dudes. Shady dudes we’ve known personally, shade dudes our friends have been involved with, all the shady dudes we’ve ever heard about. The conversation about these unscrupulous men was compounded by the fact that there was a 20 year old man on Maury lying to a woman, saying he was 27. That’s not so bad but the two had been dating for three years. So, needless to say when she first met him, he was 17 and she was probably, unknowingly breaking the law. This crazy story had a couple of my coworkers sharing even crazier stories about men who ended up being complete con artists. When you start dating, you never know who you’re dealing with initially. So, what precautions should you take to make sure you don’t end up bitter and bamboozled? We also discussed a couple of protective measures in the office. Some of them are a bit much for my taste but to each her own. Check out these techniques and let us know what’s acceptable, what you’ve done and what is taking it too far.

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  • L-Boogie

    Always trust your intuition. It makes it better to be careful/paranoid than to be trusting.

  • IllyPhilly

    Damn not only do we live in an age where you can’t trust a big butt and smile, now you can’t even get a real name, job, or birthday outta somebody.

  • JustSayin

    I think this is going a little too far. When someone “researches” someone it may step over that thin line of trusting and being suspicious. This article is along the lines of if he is lying about his career. All things come out in the wash. The moment that you decide to “research” him then you might as well run a background check. If your intuition is saying is a little odd you might want to think about why. Is it your good sense or your trust issues?

  • RealTalk

    ‘In an episode of TLC’s “Who Did I Marry?” It came on Discovery Channel, not TLC, don’t y’all fact check?? These articles are constantly misspelled and give misinformation. That’s a big deterrent.

    • Purplekisses

      Ooo Real Talk. Did that keep you from understanding the larger point of the article?

    • RJA

      actually it’s called “Who the Bleep Did I Marry” and it comes on ID….since we’re being technical

      • MQ

        It was “Who on earth did I marry?” lol

        • Miss K

          Aw hell…lol

  • mameshe

    You left out checking the sex offenders registry online.

  • Mia

    Girl bye. I’m not researching anyone. I think that’s for paranoid women and women too weak to move on once the mask has been lifted. Whats done in the dark will come to the light.

    • Pivyque

      Yeah, I kind of agree with you, but if you have kids then I think it is important to research who you are dealing with. I saw some lady (maybe on Dr. Phil) that had 3 daughters. The guy she married would drug her to make her sleep and he would rape the girls. This went on for years until they finally stopped being afraid of him and his threats and told their mother. Although some people won’t be in the registry because they haven’t been caught, it’s better to be safe than sorry. I’d hate to have to kill a man when I could have possibly avoided it by doing a little research.

  • Please Stop Making Us Click

    Madame Noire, why do you make us click from page to page so much? Many times that deters me from reading your articles.

  • L-Boogie

    Stay single.