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On Sunday’s premiere of La La and Carmelo Anthony’s new reality show “La La’s Full Court Wedding,” singer Tyrese asked La La an interesting question. “Why aren’t you hanging out with married women?” He noted that she had perfected the role of fiancée (after almost six years it seemed like she was going to hold down the “Forever My Fiancée” title), but now she has to perfect her role as a wife.

I agree that it’s good to have friends who do things you aspire to do or who have a positive influence on you, but I’ve never taken into account relationship status when deciding whether someone will be an inner circle friend.  As a matter of fact, most of my friends here in New York are not married.  It’s not something I planned, but it is what it is. I don’t think the nakedness of a person’s ring finger is as important as attitude. If my single friends were floosies who encouraged me to cheat on my husband, then yeah, we should not hang out. Same thing if my friend was a married woman with loosey goosey tendencies though. It’s nice to have a marriage role model in your group of friends, but if you don’t, I think an acquaintance or family member will do.

Those of you who are married, did you start hanging out with married friends more than single friends once you jumped the broom?

Single ladies, do you feel like your married friends kinda brushed you off once they got hitched?

Also, in general, do you go out looking for particular types of friends? Most of us look for specific traits/stats when we are searching for a romantic partner (employed, attractive, college educated, etc) and we go to places where we think those kinds of men hang. But do you do something similar when looking for new friends?  Do you have a checklist of sorts for who can be a friend to you?

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