My Man Won’t Go Downtown!

September 20th, 2010 - By SisterToldja

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I got two very interesting questions from readers regarding cunnilingus. Here’s the first one. Peep my response and weigh in via the comments!
Dear Toldja,

I have a great boyfriend. We’ve been together about six months and we’ve got a good thing going. Just one problem: he doesn’t perform oral sex. He says he just never has really done it and doesn’t like it, it makes him feel weird, etc. I go down on him…like, I go DOWN (That stuff you wrote about in your blow job posts? Yeah, I do that.) He doesn’t make me feel like I have to, but when I tell him that I think it’s unfair that I do and he doesn’t, he’ll say “Well, you LIKE doing it.”

I don’t feel completely satisfied by our sexual relationship. The intercourse and foreplay are cool…but I’m breaking my neck to give the perfect blow job and I can’t get a little tongue action in response? I don’t know what to do.

L.R.

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  • naimah

    I would stop going down on him and if he ask why just say ''you don't do it to me so why should I do it to you…..just a thought

  • Delta Diva

    I would have to agree with woman above…it it's not due to some sort of trauma in his life…he better get over it….Or he simply doesnt feel you are worthy of pleasing at this point.

  • Woman

    Some times it may not be a matter of abuse or anything like that. Certain men usually have an issue about doing that for personal, religious or sometimes egotistical reasons but Ive talked to some men that had the same problem as your man but one of them said something that seemed to be the general consensus:" If your man doesnt love-like pure, unadulterated love- he's never going to go down on you."somehow this kind of put all the missing puzzle pieces together, He might not be that committed to feel the need to satisfy you that way. I think if he really felt some kinda way for you, you wouldnt be asking. Just my opinion