It’s bad enough that as women, many of us have to deal with cattiness, jealousy and envy amongst both friends and foes alike as soon as we step out the door each day; but resentment within your own bedroom can be extremely cancerous to an otherwise solid relationship. I remember a serious relationship I had with a guy who would fight me over the mirror. And don’t let us go out and a stranger, man or woman, compliment my hair or outfit, suddenly I was bombarded with sarcastic comments like, “Oh, so what you think you’re the ish now?” Instead of being proud of having me on his arm, he was offended that he wasn’t the main feature in the random flattery. It was almost as if it could never be just about me.
It’s natural to feel a little slighted when it seems as if life goes so well for others, while you’re always dealt a bad hand. It can even be hard to be happy for others when you’re unfulfilled with yourself, especially when that success is close enough for you to sleep next to. But a relationship is about supporting the person you care for, and in many ways being a part of their happiness should make you feel the same way by default. Mismanaged jealously and competitiveness can cause cracks that can eventually make a relationship crumble.
If your guy regularly displays the following signs, he may be too busy attending his own pity party to celebrate your success:
