Fellas, Don’t Do It: 14 Things You’ll Regret Doing With Your Partner

September 27, 2012  |  
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When you’re in love with someone you think they’d be a joy to have around for anything! You get in over your head and make commitments to the person you can never take back. Or you share things with them you realize were better left unsaid. Learn from many that have traveled down the wrong path before, and don’t do this.

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Going with her to the gynecologist

For whatever reason—comfort, a desire to have you understand the female anatomy better—some women like to drag their man to the gyno. It may seem harmless at first, and you don’t want to be mean by saying no, so you tag along. But know this: if you’re in the room, and your girlfriend is complaining of any symptoms or issues down there, the doctor will turn to you as another source of information. Hey—you’re in there more than he is. And after discussing your woman’s va jay jay in medical terms, it will never look or feel the same to you again.

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Getting her into video games

You know she’ll love your games if you could just get her to play them one time. But that’s the problem: she probably will love them and become just as addicted to them as you are. And then, you can never just play the thing alone again. And you’ll experience what it was like to be on her end sometimes, when you want to do something else and she just wants to play the game. You may also become competitive with each other, and that tension can carry on away from the gaming consoles. I get it: you want to share with her something that you love. Pick something else.

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Taking her to guys night

She tells you she’ll be cool. She tells you, “But your friends love me!” She says she’ll act like one of the boys, or that you’ll hardly even notice she’s there. It doesn’t matter how much your boys love your girl: the instant a girl walks into a room of all men, a shield goes up. Men have deeply ingrained little filters around women. And even if those filters are slight, there is a cloud over the night that doesn’t let them act quite as they would if a woman weren’t there. Don’t do that to your boys. What’s worse is maybe their filters won’t kick in. And then your girl will be mortified at what she hears and sees.

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Going to girls night

Don’t crash your girl’s night. A man tends to take up the attention in the room because men just have more assertive presences, so you’ll immediately steal the spotlight from your girl. She also won’t feel free to dish everything to her friends that she would of if you hadn’t been there. I know they’re just sipping wine in your living room so you think, why can’t you join them? But, get out of there. Let your girlfriend be the star for the night.

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Sexual acts you both were uncertain about

If there is any sexual act, from toys to threesomes, that both you and your partner felt uneasy about doing, don’t do it. If you don’t go into those kinds of things with complete certitude, there’s usually a feeling of regret afterwards.

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Everybody is friends with your ex

So you are still friends with an ex that you know is a great girl and you think your girlfriend would like. I promise you: you’re better off living with the awkwardness of your new girl getting a little annoyed when you go off to hang with your ex, than you are with the chaos that comes from introducing your new girl and your ex. Either the two will hate each other, and then you’ve got a big problem on your hands. Or, they’ll love each other and spend all their time together and talk about everything. And then you’ve got an even bigger problem on your hands.

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Analyzing other females

Don’t let a woman trick you into the, “Do you think she’s pretty” conversation. Whether it’s about a woman you both actually know or an actress, don’t do it. Women believe they are the authority on other women, so whatever your opinion is, she’ll most likely tell you you’re wrong. And your girl will pay close attention to how you analyze other women and immediately relate it to herself. You could have issues of insecurity or jealousy rise up.

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Matching tattoos

You want to prove to the world you’ll be together forever? Get married. Definitely get married before you’d get matching tattoos! No matter how in love you are, just try to imagine what life would be like without that woman, and with that tattoo. Even the less than 1% chance of that happening should be enough reason not to do it.

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Nude beach

You think it will be fun! You’re excited to show off your hot girlfriend’s body to other envying dudes. But that will be the last thing on anybody’s mind once you get there. Your girlfriend will immediately be comparing herself to other women, and she’ll notice if your eyes linger for even a second too long on someone. Which, of course they’ll do! It’s a nude beach!

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Sharing a pet

Unless you’re married, if you’re going to get a pet designate an owner. Of course you and your partner will help each other out with the pet, but it should be agreed upon who is primarily responsible for the pet to avoid any fights over taking care of it, paying for medical bills etc. and to avoid major heartbreak over custody if you and your partner broke up.

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Starting a company together

This can either make or break a relationship. Your partner may love who you are as a boyfriend, friend, son and citizen of the world. But she may hate who you are as a businessman. We’re all somebody else when it comes to business and sometimes your partner is better off being shielded from that face. This could bring you two closer because you’ll deeply understand the stresses and concerns of the other person. But, before doing something so large as starting a business together try to build up to it by working together in smaller capacities to see how you get along.

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Arguing in front of your friends

I don’t care who started it: you end it. You’ll both feel humiliated afterwards if you engaged in a full on couples dispute in front of your friends. Not only will you feel bad about putting them through that, but you’ll also inevitably begin to wonder who “won” the fight in the eyes of your friends. Who do they think is the better partner, now that they’ve seen the two of you battle? Subconsciously, you’ll be battling to be the better partner in front of friends from there on out.

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Sharing past sex stories

You have a funny sex story from one of your exes or a one-night stand that you know will make your partner laugh. But guess what: no matter how funny your story, all your partner will be thinking about is the image of you with somebody else. If you get really unlucky, she’ll feel the need (to be fair, or to torture you in return) to share one of her past sex stories. And then neither of you will be laughing, and probably not having sex that night.

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Planning a big trip too soon

A long and/or expensive trip really shouldn’t be planned until you’ve been with someone for half a year. And that’s 6 peaceful months. If you’ve been fighting the whole time, it doesn’t count. Two months in you’re still too infatuated to have actually noticed the person’s flaws. Four months might feel like a long time but the pressures of life haven’t started to set in yet. You probably still have the energy to be going to each other’s places late at night, just to get a few hours together. You’re probably still shacking up a lot for the weekend, not seeing other friends or family. So you don’t know how your actual lives will affect the relationship. At 6 months, the person is probably substantially incorporated into your life, and the excitement has calmed down enough for you to more honestly evaluate the person.

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  • pheeze

    Stopped reading at “would of.” If you’re paid to write for a living, learn to spell. Typos are one thing, but just about every article I’ve read on this site has been undermined by childishly bad grammar. You have one job; try to do it as if you care.

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  • mad

    “A man tends to take up the attention in the room because men just have more assertive presences, so you’ll immediately steal the spotlight from your girl”…..is this a joke? PLEASE EXPLAIN YOURSELF because this kind of ignorance does not belong in the 21st century.

  • What’s wrong with a girl being into video games? I’ve been a gamer practically all my life, I love playing them with my bf, no one’s ever complained about it, nothing wrong with a friendly competition anyways, that is, if you’re playing versus and not co-op. I’m sorry, but if a man got mad at me for being stuck on games when he does the same thing, that’s called a hypocrite. And if a little versus game of soul caliber can cause problems and tension in other areas of the relationship, well then you have some deeper issues. Of course, that part kinda insinuates that females are never into games unless a man introduces them.

  • Fladabosco

    What kind of nutcase woman would invite her man to go to the gynecologist? What kind of nutcase man would go?

  • Kacti

    As long as both partners are completely sure it’s what they want.. it can be very fun! My husband and I have threesomes, always with girls.. and I have to say 9 times out of 10 I enjoy it even more than he does 🙂

    • Tammi Lee

      U can smell that GAY B—- a mile away!

  • CC

    I only clicked once but I can already speculate that this article is either for couples that are young specifically immature or the relationship is not serious. Other than that, this article is not valid to mature grown folks in a mature relationship. And yes team nymphis, don’t do it once if you’re not willing to keep doing it. Period.

  • Dani

    This is the most ignorant, uneducated amalgamation of words I’ve ever had the displeasure of reading. “Don’t do things with your significant other because then you won’t be able to do them alone.” Are you serious? Ar you trying to ruin African-American relationships?

    Garbage, but on track with most of the other “articles” here. Hip hip hooray for “Pay for Clicks” writing. I refuse to call it journalism because it’s not. It’s simply creative writing with poor quality and content.

  • J

    This is complete nonsense, believe it or not some women actually liked video games before they started dating. Me and my boyfriend play video games all the time. He made a list of the top 10 things he loves about me and this was number 6. Sometimes I play a game with out him, or vise versa. It is all about understand eachother, and sharing what we love.

  • J

    This is complete nonsense, believe it or not some women actually liked video games before they started dating. Me and my boyfriend play video games all the time. He made a list of the top 10 things he loves about me and this was number 6. Sometimes I play a game with out him, or vise versa. It is all about understand eachother, and sharing what we love.

  • Angi

    Good advice

  • Trent

    Good article with good advice.

  • morph2020

    Only if one of you is an idiot.

  • CountryGirl

    This is true if youre not inlove and youre just a preppy snobby fake couple.. 🙂

  • Sara Gregory

    What a stupid misogynistic article. I can’t believe a woman wrote this. I think there is hat at Mc Donald’s with your name on it. Your greatest contribution to journalism may be providing a good batch of fries to a hungry writer of real articles and news.

  • Loren

    This is the worst article ever. Other than some common sense things 3/4’s of it is bs.

  • sorry

    how about using the phrase “would of”? (“Going to girls’ night”)

  • Female Gamer

    Video games, seriously? Very rarely has playing video games with my friends ever led to issues, no matter how competitive it gets. Never has it been any different with any of my boyfriends.

    • Dani

      I can’t plus 1 this comment enough. As a female gamer with my own podcast, community ect, reading this part of the article made me throw up in my mouth a little.

  • seancsdy

    What a dumb article . What girl is ok with their man hanging with his ex, especially if shes not allowed to meet her, yet so insecure that she cant handle his opinion on an actress on tv? Makes no sense! Their just letting anyone write this garbage.

  • 11 Years So Far

    I have done 12 of 14 with my wife. We have never had an Ex-spouse, and I’ve
    never had a tattoo and don’t want one either. All those other things have kept
    our 11 years of marriage interesting, as have our two kids. Here’s the thing,
    be honest with your mate, and expect them to be honest. If the honesty is not
    returned, and you are truly honest, then move on. So much of this non-sense is
    about keeping secrets. And what is the point of that if you have chosen a life
    mate? Good, bad, ugly, human, all of us.

    • LoneStarNot

      …to the gynecologist? No, thanks. Ms.Austin got that one right.

  • uggh

    these stories are a complete pain in the a$$ to read.

  • Spica

    What the hell kinda article is this. Me and my live-in boyfriend loves playing videogames and it only brings us closer together since we have a common hobby. There’s so many dumb things in this article I don’t even know what to say :/

    • Mandy

      I agree entirely! I met my husband at my work: I manage a GameStop and he was a very persistent customer, lol, and we love gaming together. I think the guy that wrote this has been around too many insecure women…

      • Mandy

        Wait, nevermind. I didn’t realize a chick wrote this. Totally makes sense now, unfortunately…

  • PrimaFaciaTruth

    YOu forgot the most important thing…It’s also about enjoying each other,….naked. Duh.

  • PrimaFaciaTruth

    And showing that you trust him to bring that passion back to YOU. If you’ve got to worry about losing your man at a strip club, you’ve got a lot bigger problems in the relationship already.

    • Well, if it’s all about honesty, don’t you think a man will hate the fact that by going to a male strip club, the woman is looking at other males besides her boyfriend’s body, that she finds enticing? YES, he would. Works the other way around too.
      And you’re admitting the “enticing” part by saying “….you trust him to bring that passion back to YOU”.
      These are just gender stereotypes being reinforced. Remember this really crucial quote; “Truth will set you free. But first it will piss you off”, esp since you seem so set on passing it (your nick).

      • OracleAtDelphi

        Stereotypes sometimes (such as in this case, exist for good reason. Remember that really crucial truth too while you’re busy preaching.

  • peglegthebrave

    “…men just have more assertive presences”? This is so incredibly sexist. Based on an idea of how men and women interact and not how it actually is.

  • I hope you didn’t get paid to write this drivel. It’s both psychologically AND grammatical crap on several levels.

  • dratman

    This is complete crap. Simply wrong. Ordinarily, go with her if you feel comfortable, otherwise wait for her in the waiting room or in the car. But during pregnancy try to do whatever she needs you to do.

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  • KcWhy

    Horrible grammar.. “would of” seriously?

    • PrimaFaciaTruth

      Horrible manners…correcting “would of” in a comments section? Seriously?

      • morph2020

        Horrible manners…correcting somebody for correcting a stupid error.

        • PrimaFaciaTruth

          Sorry if my subtle illustration of KcWhy’s jackassery made you feel left out, jackass.

          • SailorVapor

            Yet you’re the only who feels the need to curse. Just thought I’d bring the fuel. Have at it.

          • Dani

            Creating an unnecessary internet argument on a trashy tabloid website. You go girl! Show the world how classy and intelligent you are! How dare someone expect decent grammar on a ~news site~. Clearly they are just bougie.

          • CC

            That is pretty appalling to make grammatical errors in an article that is supposed to be educational even if it is a trivial subject. As for you, what if morph thought you were of the “jackassery”??? You found fault in the same way someone else did. ijs……

  • We literally became competitive and would argue all the time!! I
    remember playing a video game with him and I won and I repeatedly kept
    on winning! I bragged about it and told him how he was gonna let a girl
    beat him in an x box game, he got so frustrated with me that he threw
    the x box controller at me!! I was in shocked! I
    am beautiful woman and I love good man…..inter racial romance is my dream… so I
    joined —blackwhitePlanet.С0M—–it’s where to- connect with
    beautiful and excellent people! He became very insecure
    even asked me to stop playing video games with him!! I was hurt!! we
    stayed together for another 3 months but things were different!!!

  • fabe

    Going to the strip club. I think some women try too hard to be the
    “cool, secure girlfriend” when they tag along there w/ their guy. I am beautiful woman
    and interracial romance is my dream……so I joined —blackwhiteplanet.C0M——it’s
    where to connect with beautiful and excellent people!I bragged about it and told him how he was gonna let a girl beat him in
    an x box game, he got so frustrated with me that he threw the x box
    controller at me!! I was in shocked! He became very insecure even asked
    me to stop playing video games with him!!

  • ijs

    Well me and my bf were bffs before we got together, so the game thing we always saw eye to eye on, he loves it when i play the game with him but i dnt play often maybe thats the key. Guys night is sometimes at our house so thats inevitable, i wish he would introduce me to his ex i dnt play dat ish…and we always shared tons of s.e.x stories when we were friends so it doesnt bother us now to tlk abt it we still laugh

  • JAYLUV1

    with all the advice that’s been given on here, what to do and what not to do. all that is left is, know you are in a relationship, don’t expect much. keep your single life as is, except he/she is now the only partner, treat each other with respect-so others follow in toe, don’t dish all the goodies about your past until you know the foundation that both of you are building is strong enough to withhold any load, be protective of each other, be supportive, dont become lazy or comfortable (if you have no job and living together) keep the home clean, brush your teeth and take at least two showers per day.

    • PrimaFaciaTruth

      Yeah, if you’re an OCD clean freak maybe.

  • mac

    Going to the strip club. I think some women try too hard to be the “cool, secure girlfriend” when they tag along there w/ their guy.

    • ijs

      it depends on the woman lol the couple really some couples love it. but i think that maybe a marriage thing (if they have that kind of marriage)

      • mac

        maybe so. But if absolutely nothing bothers a woman about their guy ogling naked strangers or one of said naked strangers dancing all over him, then they definitely have an “interesting” relationship. I’ll put it that way. Call it insecurity, call it whatever you want.
        Jealousy is a natural part of love (just not to an extreme extent of course).

        • OracleAtDelphi

          Posting the identical tripe twice didn’t make it any more true the second time either. Jealousy is only a part of love if that love is territorial. Figure it out.

      • mac

        maybe so. But if absolutely nothing bothers a woman about their guy ogling naked strangers or one of said naked strangers dancing all over him, then they definitely have an “interesting” relationship. I’ll put it that way. Call it insecurity, call it whatever you want.
        Jealousy is a natural part of love (just not to an extreme extent of course).

        • nuskinny

          I use to think that too, but I’ve been told jealousy is a sign of insecurity.

        • tjleeland

          Jealousy is a sign of insecurity, not a part of love. If you know you have a strong marriage, your partner looking at someone won’t bother you. We ALL look at other people — both naked and clothed. Just not always in person.

        • morph2020

          Jealousy is a natural part of personal insecurity — not love.

  • Team nymphis

    Don’t do anything once…unless you’re willing to keep doing it.

  • busty

    #3 was soooo me and my ex!! We literally became competitive and would argue all the time!! I remember playing a video game with him and I won and I repeatedly kept on winning! I bragged about it and told him how he was gonna let a girl beat him in an x box game, he got so frustrated with me that he threw the x box controller at me!! I was in shocked! He became very insecure even asked me to stop playing video games with him!! I was hurt!! we stayed together for another 3 months but things were different!!!

    • ijs

      omg! seriously thats crazy lol now thats what you call a sore loser lmao

      • PrimaFaciaTruth

        That’s what you call a lil bish with a fragile male ego…

    • Spica

      That means your bf had anger issues. had nothing to do with gaming.

      • Spica

        Also, you seemed to have communication problems..?