I won’t pretend to know Eva Marcille’s whole life in this post but from what I do know of her relationship trajectory in the past few years, it appears the girl is running from something—something being a committed relationship. I know, sounds odd considering she was in fact in a committed, five-year relationship with Lance Gross — sans cheating. But from her recent interview with The Breakfast Club and the pattern her dating life has taken since then, the “top model” might be looking for love instead of looking inside to figure out what it is that’s keeping her from it.
Everyone was surprised when Eva and Lance unexpectedly split in 2010, so naturally Power 105 hosts had her dig right into that breakup this morning. When asked what really went down she said:
We were together for 5 years. When I started dating Lance, I was young and we were definitely in love but I don’t think either one of us were really ready to get married. I know that we were both committed to each other and he didn’t want to be with anyone else. I didn’t want to be with anyone else. So, naturally you feel like the next step is, ‘Let me propose’. So when he proposed, I definitely wanted to be with him, but I wanted to have a long engagement. And then, a year and a half [later], the wedding is coming up and we just wasn’t ready. He didn’t do anything wrong, he never cheated on me, I never cheated on him. He’s still a great guy. Whoever ends up dating him is gonna be very lucky. It just wasn’t my moment.
My first question after hearing Eva’s explanation was whose timeline were they judging their relationship by? Often, in a long relationship, you’ll hear one partner lament that they were ready to take things to the next level and the other partner wasn’t but it appears Lance and Eva were actually fine with how things were until they started adjusting their relationship according to what they thought they should be doing instead of what felt right for them. It’s not hard to see why that didn’t work out, but since then Eva has taken her love life in a completely different direction.
After Lance, Eva had a very public, and somewhat quick, relationship with rapper Flo Rida. Taking the conversation a very different route, Eva remarked that there was no way he left her for Melissa Ford because “[Melissa] realized that he had money after I dated him and decided that she wanted him. A lot of times women don’t give guys the credit necessary until they understand their bank account. And so, seeing that obviously I dated him, to other women that tells them that he must have money, or that he must be more successful than you thought. So now he’s eligible.” I saw a little gold digger red flag raise while reading that, but what’s even more interesting is what she attributes the breakdown of the relationship to:
“I didn’t want anything too serious. Flo is a great guy [....] but I had just come out of a very serious relationship and he got really holy on me and wanted to go to church all of the time and I was just trying to kick it. So, then he wanted to take me to church. Then the preacher was like, ‘You guys are gonna get married,’ and when I heard the marriage line I was just like whoaaaa.”
Again, just because the preacher said the two were going to get married didn’t mean it was etched in the tablet of life — or that it had to happen the next day. I’m confused what it is she was running from, and if rather than having her heart broken, as she told Sister 2 Sister magazine earlier this month, she’s been breaking her own heart by being scared to commit. Publisher Jamie Foster Brown asked Eva about a tattoo she has of a gun with four bullets which symbolizes each of the men who broke her heart and she said:
“I have a .38 Special on my left hip, and it’s modeled, actually, after my own revolver, and it’s a symbol of me now protecting myself and guarding myself. It’s a symbol that I’m going to take my heart and my relationships more seriously and I’m gonna have more control over them. Because I literally have been broken so bad that I felt it was like a gunshot.”
I think that’s an amazing idea, and though I have to openly admit I’m being a bit judgmental when I say this, I’m not sure the latest man is proof of Eva taking her heart more seriously. The now-reality TV star told The Breakfast Club of her current flavor of the year:
“I’m dating this guy, He is from Jamaica. He lives in LA. Very regular guy. Super regular. Gold teeth, tattoos. [He is] a music producer. He is just grinding out. He is on the come up.”
Now gold teeth and tattoos don’t automatically cancel a man out, but when the reason Eva decided to give him a chance is just because he had the cojones to send her bottles at the bar while she was in the company of other men and “can get them for free” — oh and he shut down a Steakhouse and “got a little respect in the city” — I have to wonder where her head, and heart, really are. She seems to have gone from a man she considered a “great guy” who was stable and making a commitment to her, to playing around with a guy whose money she appeared more interested in than his commitment to God, to now chilling with a guy who’s putting on for the city. Not to mention a guy who, in an upcoming clip for her new reality show “Girlfriend Confidential LA,” left her in a fit of tears when he couldn’t be there for her when she needed him.
All I’m saying is this doesn’t sound like a woman guarding her heart, especially when she’s taking a chance on her relationship failing under the all too real reality TV curse. It sounds like a woman on the way to adding another bullet to her tattoo because she isn’t comfortable being with men who really value her and want to make the commitment to her that she’s too scared to give back. What do you think?
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