“Girl, You’ve Got a Big ‘Ol Juicy Booty!” 7 Ways Men Hurt Their Chances With Women

September 17th, 2012 - By Valerie J Charles

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Asking Too Many Damn Questions

“What do you like to do?”

“Why do you wear glasses?”

“How do you get your hair like that?”

Who. What. When. Where. Why. How. Fellas, yes women love attention. There is nothing more exciting than getting attention from someone you’re feeling. But — there is such a thing as overkill. We want to reveal ourselves to you; to talk about the things that matter to us allowing you to learn our ins and outs. But, forcing such an interaction can come off highly annoying and inorganic.

I once was getting to know a man who felt it necessary to treat me like a person on a witness stand in a court room. He fired off so many questions during all of our conversations, barely allowing me the chance to enjoy his company and get the opportunity to get to know him. It felt as if he were judging how much of a fit I would be as a future possible wife and mother to his kids from answers about my near-sighted eyes and choice to work in my community. Needless to say, we never got to take things to the next level.

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  • Candacey Doris

    Than you! Needy is definitely a turn off. They don’t like it in us, why can’t the see it in themselves? 10 texts in 3 minutes is not hot.

  • bigdawgman

    WHO IS TURNED ON BY THAT???? If a dude pulled it out on a date, wouldn’t that be some kind of sexual harassment? Why is it ok on a phone? Dang, I guess I missed that meeting….

  • bigdawgman

    GUYS DO THAT???? Oh hell to the naw! The thirst is real out there! Do dudes know that’s the same as whipping it out on a date? smdh

  • Hello_Kitty81

    I was on a date with my fiance the other day and we went to my place to spend time together and when I was unlocking my door, 3 brothas hanging out and one of them yelled at us saying “Yo I bet that white boy can’t please that round a** like a brotha can!” Him and I looked at them and was like SMH, *Kanye Shrug* and went in. He even asked my why black men are too interested in our backsides and I was like “ask my guy friends and let me know when you find out”.

  • Veratta Pegram-Floyd

    I personally prefer to hear men talk about their exes. I do not play innocent about the fact that I have not always dated the best people. It is important for me to know how a man talks about his ex(es) for me to know 1. Whether or not he is over her 2. Glimpses of the “real” truth about what went down in the previous relationship 3. What he learned about himself and his dating expectations from that relationship and how he will be different for the next one.

  • E McArthur

    i usually just send one back….i woke up at 6 am to a pic like that and was so bad I googled for one on my laptop real quick, took a pic, sent it, and went to bed…he never called me again

    • Kay

      Lmfaooo Dead

    • Candacey Doris

      I’m going to do that.. Thanks.

  • gmarie

    idk I didnt see anything wrong with the questions in the “asking too many questions” section. It’s all about getting to know each other right? lol how will we get to know each other if questions arent asked?

    • Reese

      It’s about the kind of questions being asked. There is a such thing as getting to know one and another and then there’s a such thing as just being plain invasive and annoying. I like getting to know someone through conversation not question asking.

    • Veratta Pegram-Floyd

      I would also agree with Reese and add that it depends on the forum of question asking as well. For example, many people are online dating or are on social websites that have a dating component. If I have put in the effort to make a personal profile with the information already on it, I don’t think that I should have to answer the same questions basic question that I have already outlined on my profile/page.

    • bigdawgman

      Depends on how they’re asked probably. If you keep firing them out there like a police interrogation, I’m sure that’s a turn off. And if you’re only asking information and not giving any, that’s too one-sided. #my2cents

  • Nope

    I should write the men’s version of this. It would be short and sweet: Your opinion about what I should do with my car/house/wardrobe/career/recipes………. no one asked you!

  • Phatfetish

    Would love to be able to read your posts. HOWEVER, I’m attacked constantly by popups. Bad business. I know you need to make your money but 4 – 5 pop-ups and I’ve only gotten to point 1 of 5..with 4 more pages to turn to? I’m already too irritated to continue.

    • 305MovesLikeDagger

      haha I am glad I am not the only person who skip reading articles because I have to go 4 to 5 pages. The autoplaying videos are just as annoying.

    • Nope

      ……… even though it’s 2012 I guess I’m the only one that uses a popup blocker and has the speakers on mute by default…………….

      • jas

        i do too. I guess many people don’t know about either one. If you have Google Chrome download an Ad Blocker it works miracles.

        • Nope

          Yup, and autopager is another good one that shows multiple pages on one page, without having to click through.

          • Marco

            Really, i didn’t realize autopager would work on a blog

      • Kayo

        Pop-up blockers don’t stop every pop-up.

      • sabrina

        Also in our defense, sometimes I like to listen to music while perusing through articles. Therefore, the overlapping sound of ads/videos I did not want to hear nor see messes up everything.

    • thatonegirl

      PREACH!!!!!! I love this site but those ads are killing me.

  • L-Boogie

    Stay single. So much easier.

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