Booty Call? Just A Friend? What His Texts Say About How He Feels

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September 13, 2012 ‐ By Julia Austin

Texting is the most utilized form of communication between couples, friends and friends with benefits today. It’s efficient. It can be flirty with all those emoticons. It allows for communication at any time, like in a meeting or on the toilet, but it also allows you to avoid real conversation. So, it can be hard to read how a guy feels about you, beyond those little letters on the screen.

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  • Donut

    Ms. Julia,

    Not to be rude but on what authority do you create this list? Do you have male advisors or have you conducted a comprehensive study into the psychology behind male texting? Not to say your points have no merit, but without knowing how you arrive at your conclusions, this article is more ambition that substance considering you have never been a male and sent a text message.

    Not bitter. Just curious.

  • sabrina

    If I’m actually interested in a guy, I don’t mind phone calls. If I’m not into a guy, I’d prefer that he texts me lol

  • saywhowhatnow

    can someone please post all the stuff on one page. i ain’t reading through all those pages. i haven’t lost my mind yet. and yes, emotional immature men like texting. A real mature man will have no problem having a direct phone or in-person conversation. My new rule, all the men i date i lie that i don’t have the texting option on my phone.

  • http://www.facebook.com/robert.valentine1 Rob Valentine

    I disagree i think texting can work, it depends on the dynamic of the relationship. If you are a busy person like myself then its easier to text during the day rather than to have a phone call. Its easier to carry on a conversation throughout the day like that. Phone calls later is is fine but i fele a text also lets that person know you have them in mind as well. Only if the communication is solely text, then i consider it an issue.

    • brownkutie

      texting is appropiate if you’re having a busy day, or even don’t feel like doing a lot of talking. but it can be an issue if txting is your ONLY means of communication. it’s something about talking in person or audibly that you really get to know someone. i’m worth more than a random text!

  • Chrissy

    Just wish it was the old days when talking on the phone actually having a conversation for hours now ppl just hide behinds text messages!

  • windycitymami

    I didn’t read the article because I refuse to scroll through multiple pages when the entire article could’ve been posted on 1 page. I may be in the minority but actually prefer text. I’ve stopped dating guys who phoned me too much and have actually has one guy complain about the fact that he’d phone me, leave a message and I’d return his call with a text. I guess it’s easier to get my point across and go on about my business via text. Not into all of the conversation.

  • Jess

    I thought I was the only one that felt like a guy texting u after meeting you is so blah. If a man wants to get to know u. A great phone conversation is the best way to get to know each other besides going out. Men these days don’t understand that and it’s frustrating to me.

    • Brownkutie

      Very frustrating!

  • mslilbit51

    I can not believe that I have to flip through all these pages. This could have been done on one page. ugh!!!

  • mslilbit51

    I can not believe that I have to flip through all these pages. This could have been done on one page. ugh!!!

  • Cam

    I agree with rzakia. Several of these pages have weak points or just very little to say, and could have been consolidated, making it easier for the reader.

  • rzakia

    This is frustrating to read. Why couldn’t it have been on a few pages instead of 17 where I have to click and deal with all the ads and foolishness???

    • Natural83

      YESSS! OMG, I hate that! I love coming on here to read articles but I absolutely despise clicking through all those pages. I want to read the whole thing, but I got frustrated and stopped at page 5. SMH!

  • JaneDoe

    Textin is beyond over rated to me when it comes to meeting, getting to know, and even relationships. Its okay for that, baby I am busy right now msgs but not for full blown conversations. Especially when the relationship is fresh. I always know off the rip what the relationship is going to be about is a guy texts me before he calls me after just meeting me.

    • Kimster

      I completely agree with you! I had a guy ask for my number, tell me he’d call later so we could talk and plan a date and then he hit me with a simple, lame “Hey” text. I’m like, who is this? Nobody has time for that. Continous texting convos in new, romantic relationships is for the birds.

      • Lexi

        Really, it says more than ppl think.. Maybe I am just a deep thinker but texting a person off the rip says you are an emotionally unattached person or emotionally unstable.. lol

        • sammi_lu

          I agree, as of lately this has become so aggravating. It is so lame to try and get to know someone you just met via long text convos..I have better ways to waste my time.

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