When Are You Going To Lose That Baby Weight? & Other Things You Shouldn’t Say To Your Mommy Friends
Well, [insert name of a seemingly perfect supermom] can do it, why can’t you?
Able to rock baby to sleep while vacuuming? She can do it. Able to train for a marathon and cook a nutritious meal that her children are going to eat and enjoy? She can do it. Take a “Mommy and Me” dance class and also have time to teach the class how to pop lock and spin on their heads? (“Who has the cardboard? Jimmy?“) Oh yes, she can do it? We’ve all heard about these types of moms, but the important thing is: If she can do it, why can’t you?
“Why can’t I? If you don’t get out of my face…” Now, I’m not knocking the Supermom, I think that they are amazing to be able to do all that they can, but for the moms who haven’t been bitten by that radioactive spider, or bombarded with gamma radiation, they might have to struggle to get the hang of mothering; and comparing them to someone who is doing all these things while simultaneously curing cancer and fixing the holes in the ozone layer isn’t helping.
No matter if you feel like a person should be able to reach that perfect category in motherhood, it’s impossible because perfection can’t be attained. Parenting is a hard enough job as it is, and making a person feel inferior by comparing them to someone else is uncalled for. As long as your friend is perfect for her particular child, that is the only thing that matters.
Kendra Koger is a mother and a twitter account holder. Tweet her at @kkoger.
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