When DCFS Needs To Be On Speed Dial: 11 Examples Of Lazy Parenting

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September 11, 2012 ‐ By Toya Sharee

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2.  Assuming that your child is “grown” just because they can walk, talk and have their own key to the house.

It hurts my heart when I see parents letting their young children run the streets at all hours of the night because they mistakenly believe that once they know their address and can operate a microwave that they’re “grown.”  The truth is that a parent’s job is never done and even in their teen years as they pass the driver’s test and begin to work a part-time job after-school, that’s often when they need you the most, just in a different way.  As much as we want to encourage our children’s independence, that doesn’t entitle you to an extended vacation from being a mom or dad.  And you better believe there are peers and predators alike who are savoring the opportunity to take advantage of your child while you’re taking some time off.

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  • gabby101

    I think the saddest examples I see repeated are an unwillingness to get involved in a child’s education and not following through on discipline and/or failing to use discipline that reinforces appropriate behavior.

    My sister and husband discipline their children only by yelling, which is less and less effective as they grow older. I’ve shared techniques that have worked well for me (loss of a privilege, eg), but yelling is much easier! A couple of minutes and you’re done!

    They also take no interest in their kids’ education other than reviewing their report cards. They can tell you anything you need to know about their sports programs and are very active in that aspect, but they do nothing to ensure that their children are staying academically competitive.

  • She Speaks

    “It doesn’t necessarily mean you need to YouTube yourself shooting your child’s laptop”
    LOL!! Too funny.
    Also, about the Sunny Delight suggestion…doesn’t that contain high fructose corn syrup? How about not being so lazy and making fresh juice for your kids?

  • BBBEE25TEE

    LMAO@ 2 chicken wings and ketchup….

  • http://www.facebook.com/junecstraight June C. Straight Crosby

    For my daughter’s birthday, I invited three sisters and their mother who lived next door to go to an outdoor Halloween festival with us. Instead of joining us, the mother told the girls they could go and left them at home with her boyfriend. When it came time to leave, they did not have a booster seat for the youngest, who was 3, they had no money and there mom was still AWOL. The boyfriend gave them $20 and told them to bring back change! (admission was $8 per person). Finally, they got their stuff together and we left. I offered to pay so they’d have money for food, but I felt super suspect driving around with someone else’s kid without even having talked to the mother. She didn’t even know my name and she let me ride off with her babies. When I dropped the kids off, the door was open and the lights were on, but the mom didn’t even come out to meet me. I’m not even sure she was home! When I asked, the girls said she was in the back, but after all I had witnessed that night I couldn’t be sure.

    • realadulttalk

      That’s crazy!!!! And I know you took them b/c you didn’t want to hurt the kids–how do you send your child somewhere with someone you never met??? That’s not lazy–that’s just not giving a darn. But if something had happened…you’d have been all kinda crazy things.

  • Trisha_B

    I LOVE # 7. Nothing irks me more than people blaming celebs for there kids problems. The reason your child is copying everything a celeb do & calling them their role model is b/c you, as a parent, isn’t doing something right in the household. You should be your child’s role model. I grew up listening to some bad songs (tupac, Biggie, Bone thugs n harmony, etc) due to my young uncles but my mother dared me to act out like they do in the songs. my uncles let it be known that it’s per entertainment & i better become a woman & not some fast tail girl that they describe in their songs
    As for the leash thing, i really don’t understand the point of them. if your child is running around the store & you can’t keep up w/ them, you put them in the shopping cart/buggy. That should work for a kid up until about 5, by then a kid should have enough sense & home training to know better than to act up in public. I was at the grocery store & i saw a lady w/ triplets. each one was on a leash. Well one kid couldn’t keep up w/ her fast walking & basically get dragged. I see it at the zoo often w/ kids on leashes. Yes, i understand the purpose. But i believe if your kid has enough home training, you won’t have to deal w/ your kid roaming off. i feel it dehumanizes them. leashes are for animals. But i know in certain cases, there are kids who have special needs where a leash will come in handy

  • http://twitter.com/MsRedboneBrite Tee Elyse

    I never understood why parents thought it was cute when their kids use bad language and can quote all of Gucci Mane, Waka Flocka, etc., but don’t know their ABC’s, can’t count past ten, or quote a bible verse or sing one line from any simple gospel song.

    • Gigi

      LOL!! I tell my daughter that all the time. “(insert friend’s name here) ain’t my child. I don’t care what she gets to do!”

  • allie1234

    A “child leash” is not lazy parenting. I take of care of my niece and when she was younger she had to wear one because, several times she would run away in the store and hide. It nothing like losing her for almost an hour and having the store almost shut down. I rather be looked at crazy than go through that again.

    • MLS2698

      Some years back, in my town, a two-year-old died at Wal-Mart after an entertainment center fell on her ( may have climbed on it). I always felt if her parents had a tether, she would still be alive. Another time, I was at Wally World ( Wal-Mart), this lady was looking at shampoo very intently, when her small child started to climb the stocking ladder someone had left in the isle. The child was on the second step before mom removed him ( way too late) . Parents need to leave the kids home, or take better care while shopping. A tether is a good thing.

    • marie

      I agree! I commented that a leash was a life-saver when I was at the airport with my 2yr old.

  • sabrina

    I’ll keep this article in mind when I start having kids…another 8 years from now.

  • TatumPascal

    Most people who pratice attachement parenting are not lazy, cloth diapers,co-sleeping, and breastfeeding at any age are not “lazy” alternatives. However, I do agree with all the things in the article. It is a different world than when we were growing up and education, nutrition, and instilling a healthy sense of self and responsibility are important.

  • Hello_Kitty81

    Plus my daughter’s school is on strike too, thank god I took out 20 books from the library, schools might be closed, but my child is still gonna get her education on, f*ck a strike!

  • Hello_Kitty81

    Last week I was at the laundromat and this girl, as young as 10 was with her 3 younger siblings walked in the laundromat at 7PM and the guy who worked there asked her where were her parents, she said her mom is with her boyfriend at home, he made her and her sibs go home and have their mom with them, then the mom showed up and cursed the man out saying he needed to mind his business. Now, if my daughter were 10 years old, 1) I would never let run the streets at 7PM for anything, that’s how kids get kidnapped. I also agree with the parents who only show up at the school for report card pick up and getting calls to the schools, at least I get to know the principal, teachers, school counselors, etc at my child’s school.

    • http://www.facebook.com/people/Que-Stevenson/1204180733 Que Stevenson

      That man should have told her he was minding his business. She pretty much left minors in his care, and left him responsible. If something had happened to them, she would have partially blamed him. I would have asked her if her or her boy friend was gonna pay me…sorry behind, had the nerve to cuss somebody out looking out for the safety of her children!

  • marie

    while this was a good article and i agree with your opinion, i was thrown off at the beginning because you mentioned co-sleeping, clothe diapers, and attachment parenting. how do those even relate to lazy parenting?? why did were they even mentioned?

    • RJA

      i wondered the same thing about the cloth diapers and attachment parenting…

    • Toya Sharee

      Apologies for the confusion. I learned about a practice called “attachment parenting” that seems to be a trend in Hollywood. Behaviors include co-sleeping, elongated breastfeeding and buying cloth diapers. Some people relate this to “lazy parenting” because it’s seen as a way to be cheap or cut down on the work that comes with parenting. For example, alot of people look at cloth diapers as a cheap, dirty alternative. Or take elongated breastfeeding for example as a way to co-sleep with your child so you don’t have to run back and forth all night with feeding. The only reason I mentioned that is because I didn’t want folks to confuse the type of “lazy parenting” I was referring to with those practices. Hope that helps! Thanks for reading.

      • marie

        thanks for replying! I’m still wondering how anyone can interpret co-sleeping, extended breastfeeding and buying cloth diapers as lazy! I co-slept with my first son because I felt more secure knowing my baby was next to me safe and sound. Cloth diapers are definitely not the easy way out because they need to be washed frequently, as opposed to disposable diapers. And diapers are super expensive so one can’t knock a parent for trying to save money.
        Also, I just noticed the picture with the kid with the leash. How is that related to “lazy parenting” too?? I can’t speak on the woman with the pic or other mothers, but that leash was a life-saver walking through the airport dragging 2 pieces of luggage and a 2-yr old who would dart off the second he gets the chance! Please don’t take this the wrong way, but are you a mother?

      • Wow

        Breast feeding lazy??? It is the best source of nutrition for a baby and many mothers cried out of frustration due to how hard it can be to get the hang of it. I have no idea why any woman would want to do it beyond a age when the child wouldn’t need it. Lazy? Hardly my child wouldnt latch so I took the time to pump every two to four hours to keep my supply in order to give him those nutrients, and a sista still had to work. Lazy would have been running to the grocery store to buy milk and call it a day.

        Black folks have been co-sleeping for years not because it’s trendy but because we didn’t have extra space for a nursery, so guess what? Baby slept with mama. It was nothing odd or trendy about it, just making do.

        I’ve always rocked my kids to sleep and in many countries in Africa, “baby wearing” is normal and strollers are unheard of. Baby stays wrapped up with mama while she cleans, cooks, and tend to older children. New age hippy parents call it attachment parenting, we just call it taking care of our kids.

      • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1604244 Raimi Nicte

        Im sorry but anyone who understands what attachment parenting actually is would not consider it lazy parenting. Its about formulating an intense bond with the child throughout their earliest years. While I’ve heard criticisms of things such as extended breast feeding because it goes against societal norms, Ive never heard anyone equate it with lazy parenting. I am remiss to believe you were given correct information in regards to this topic. The rest of the article seemed rather on point though! I am a mental health professional and I call ADHD the lazy parenting disease all the time. Though it is a very real disease and all, I see a lot of parents quick to label their children based off a little hyperactivity when they dont take into account the fact that children arent getting as many energy outlets such as gym, art, music as back in the day. Give the kids an outlet and that “hyperactivity” just goes away naturally.

      • realadulttalk

        Clothe diapers are lazy?? I’d say while they are kinda gross…that’s a lot of work.

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