It’s Not Right, But I Understand: Man Murders Girlfriend After She Tells Him She’s HIV Positive

September 10th, 2012 - By Veronica Wells

Source: kens5.com

Picture this: You’ve recently started dating someone new. You both are ready to take the step toward intimacy…sex, to be specific. After you’ve done the deed, your new lover rolls over and explains that he/she has a confession to make. In all seriousness, your partner tells you that they’re HIV positive. You’ve just had sex…without protection.

How do you react?

36 year old, Larry Dunn Jr., of Dallas, TX, was faced with this question when his girlfriend, Cicely Bolden, told him she was HIV positive, shortly after the two had sex, last Thursday. Unfortunately, Dunn didn’t make the right decision. Allegedly, after the 28-year-old Bolden shared her HIV status, she told him it was “not that bad.”  Apparently, Dunn didn’t agree. He went to the kitchen, grabbed a knife and stabbed Bolden to death.

In what is probably the worst part of the story, Bolden’s two children found their mother’s body in her bedroom, once they came home from school. They ran screaming outside and a neighbor, Latoya Arnett, called the police. Arnett told the local Fox affiliate that “She didn’t deserve it and her kids didn’t deserve to see her like that. She was a good mom. Loved her kids to death. I can’t imagine my kids seeing me like that. I know it hurt them.”

When officers arrested Dunn for Bolden’s murder, he confessed: “She killed me. So I killed her.”  Dunn cooperated with police and in a recorded interview, told them that he burned his clothes and threw the knife in the garbage at a waffle house after he killed Bolden. Police later found the weapon. The father of Bolden’s son, who is now taking care of both her son and daughter, said that Bolden contracted HIV within the past two years.

This is a terrible story, all the way around. Both Bolden and Dunn had a hand in this unnecessary tragedy. While I’m in no way rationalizing or condoning Dunn’s actions, I can understand how Bolden’s deception and subsequent, “it’s not that bad,” would have produced such a violent reaction. Personally, I can’t say, with a hundred percent certainty, that I wouldn’t try to stab (at least once) someone who knowingly had sex with me, despite his positive HIV status. Dunn’s actions were evil, but so were Bolden’s. Dunn’s spontaneous actions might have been inspired by intense rage; but Bolden’s was calculated and heinous. She’d known her status for some years now, she should have told Dunn about her health issues long before the two of them were in the throes of passion, when rationale gave way to ravaging.

It’ll be interesting to see what happens to Dunn, who is now being held on a $50,000 bond. Perhaps his attorneys will plead temporary insanity. Maybe tests will find, he didn’t contract the disease at all.  Maybe the jurors will empathize with his situation. Or maybe they’ll think about Bolden’s two sons, finding their mother dead at home, and throw the book at him.

What do you think about this story? How would you respond in this situation? What should happen to Dunn?

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  • nicolette

    Bet she had that same smirk when she told him, job is a death sentence more like being on death row waiting a year maybe five , but knowing no matter how many times you duck the chair or gas chamber you will die and. Cant prevent the inevitable. She had no right to do that to him i cant be mad at him.

  • alizoom

    This is the most irresponsible headline I’ve ever seen. MN editors should be ashamed of themselves. There is NEVER an “understanding” for murder. How about promoting safe-sex, protection, instead?

  • MommaInAK

    She was wrong for not disclosing her status, but they were both wrong for having unprotected sex in the age of HIV/Herpes & other STD’s. He doesn’t even know his status, yet he took her her life. “She Killed me so I killed her.” How do you know that she killed him, HE DIDN’T know his status. What if he finds that he didn’t contract anything? This is sad all across the board. I’m not condoning or condemning, but he actually took her life & left her CHILDREN to find her.

    • MommaInAK

      I do feel bad for all parties involved. There is BLAME on oth people, her for not disclosing & his for not being responsible for where he was putting his unprotected wood.

  • BABYOFMYFAMILY

    I’m sorry but I just can’t feel sorry for her, she knowingly had sex with this man and been knowing for two years she has HIV. I’m not saying he isn’t wrong for killing her. But condoms aren’t 100% and she had a right to inform sex partners. I feel sorry for her kids, but not her, what she did is evil and that is why she is dead. And then for her to be cocky about it, is even more evil. Saying your not the first and want be the last to leave me because of it, is saying she did it before and will do it again. She is wrong, and that’s why she is dead. Again not justifying his actions at all.

  • Nikee

    Also, if we all were allowed to murder each person who has done us wrong, there would be a lot of dead people, and the world would be chaotic. If we all behave like Dunn, what is the purpose of the justice system?

  • Nikee

    This story is sad on so many levels. Dunn, as a married man shouldn’t have been meeting anyone off the chat line and over there having sex in the first place, especially unprotected. I feel sorry that he was selfish enough to risk bringing anything home to his wife. Bolden seemed like a lonely soul. I don’t think she was intending to be evil or a “monster”, but she definitely should have informed him prior to sex and refused to allow anyone to sleep with her unprotected. However, Dunn did not have the right to slaughter her like an animal. He should have filed charges as it is considered attempted murder. I feel very sad for the poor children who will likely never forget those images of their mom bloody and naked from the waste down. I believe he should serve some time, especially if it is true that he knew of her status prior to coming back to hit one last time (as her family is stating on fb).

  • http://www.facebook.com/lashton Leah Ashton

    there are precautions they both should have taken wheither he knew her status or not. I don’t feel she was a monster for having HIV. We don’t know how she got it. I don’t feel she deserved to die like that. regardless if he contracts it or not, he still murdered her. He needs to go to jail.
    I don’t understand why he wouldn’t put on a condom anyway. Shoot she could have even worn a condom; they do make female ones now.

  • nik7969

    No one once commented on his wife and kids I sympathize with them. The husband running around having unprotected sex and coming home to his wife and kids.. Exposing them. Yeah I sympathize with her kids not having a mother but If she was really such a good mother she would have shared her status long before hand or either dated someone who has the same condition she does. She probably felt somebody gave it to me so now I’m pass the gift that keep giving. The world we live in now ppl just don’t care yeah I love but I love me more.

    • http://www.facebook.com/lashton Leah Ashton

      he’s not married. the man they spoke to was the woman’s ex husband

      • Angela

        Check out other news reports, he admitted to police that he is married and was living with his wife and children, that was not mentioned in this article but this woman with hiv was his mistress not girlfriend.

  • http://www.facebook.com/toni.clark.1217 Clark Toni

    Wow, she was wrong for every action there is a reaction. She knew she was infected she minus as well pulled out a gun and shoot hime!!!

  • Suzie Sunshine

    More facts have come to life about this murder. Friends and Family have stated She was out and Open to all about her HIV status. Since he was married with children and she had two kids of her own She wanted to end the affair. QUOTE: She kicked me to the curb. This is a crime of REVENGE and PASSION. Only his LIES to save his butt are available. He even states he has NO REMORSE for her or her children. I would love to HEAR what his wife says, it may shed more light on this SICKO KILLER!!!!

  • Dee

    Vengeance is mine says Jehovah…..when you take things in your own hands you are in Fact stealing from God!!!!

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