A Ring Don’t Mean A Thing: Celebrities That Had Kids But Never Married

September 1st, 2012 - By Julia Austin
"Kate Moss and her daughter Lila"

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From DUI’s to adoption, celebrities are always turning life-changing events into trends. The new one seems to be having kids out of wedlock. These couples either got pregnant and split up, or simply haven’t gotten around to getting married. One thing’s for certain of their offspring: they won’t be living on a “single parent budget.”

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  • http://www.facebook.com/angela.rugerio Angela Rugerio

    I read through your responses, well I believe marriage is a good way to screw over the government. Money wise. Other than that I don’t see why anyone would make a big deal of those not being married. Do any of you watch the show storage wars? Brandi and jarrod….3 kids, together 11 years….not married. Own a business together, file separate taxes I’m sure….living happily ever after. America put too many lgal obligations on marriage where I’m sure God just wanted it to be married, raise kids, grow old, be happy. In a marriage that’s not what it is anymore. You are going to have comments and opinions on both sides of the spectrum here, but what bis most important to remember is that 2 people must love eachother to have kids, then be strong enough to raise that child together, its more about having family than paperwork and the technial structure of how we think its supposed to be. Married. Not married. Ring. No ring. We do what we have to do to survive the good and bad. Its all up to the 2 people who end up together, the rest we need to just depend on love and God’s love. That is all. Thank you.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_JAI4SRENU2A5WKRTELXXYJPDSI Kayla

    Suppose you love someone with all your heart.. what difference does it make the day after the wedding? You can’t love them any more then you already do. You are already going to be together for the rest of your lives. Marriage doesn’t stop a man or woman getting up and leaving or cheating on you. IMO as long as a child has two loving parents that’s all that matters. You have for example gay couples who been together for 30+ years who can’t get married, and raise kids. Does there love not count anymore because they don’t have a piece of paper? The only reason people fight for it so hard is because society expects you to, and it’s been a tradition for quite some time now. Also remember marriage wasn’t always about falling head over heels and falling in love. It was about paying a debt.

    • MLS2698

      Marriage is sanctioned by God, and this country was initially a Christian based society until people became greedy, and ruthless. Your money still has ” In God we trust” on it to prove the point. But soon that will be gone, too.

      • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_JAI4SRENU2A5WKRTELXXYJPDSI Kayla

        This country was founded to recognize different religions or none at all, and to uphold separation of church and state. So it doesn’t matter what religion the founding fathers believed in, it has no place in the government. In order to be married all you have to do is go down to city hall, we don’t ask your church or religion for permission, because marriage isn’t something Christians own. You don’t dictate what qualifies as a marriage or who should get married.

        • redfingerpaint

          True, but look at the discrimination you get if you’re not a Christian in this country. They say separation of church and state but it isn’t practiced.

          • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_JAI4SRENU2A5WKRTELXXYJPDSI Kayla

            it’s funny as long as it’s their religion being enforced it’s ok. But then they have the nerve to throw shade at the muslim countries that do the same. The hypocrisy kills me

            • redfingerpaint

              Yep, it’s really pathetic. The country has so many issues, I don’t even know where to begin. People just can’t seem to realize that not all people fit the stereotypes.

    • redfingerpaint

      I’ve never been married but I do think you can love someone more after you get married. You’re learning more and more about them each day. Your spouse is the only person that knows you better than yourself. You go through life’s struggles together. My parents met when they were 18, got married when they were 27, and had me at 30. They are getting ready to turn 50, and still fight. I want to experience the passion and love they have for each other.I’ve seen their ups and downs. I want someone to push me to accomplish whatever I want, to wipe my tears, and love me through thick and thin.

      • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_JAI4SRENU2A5WKRTELXXYJPDSI Kayla

        I am not stopping you from getting married. If that what’s makes you happy, then by all means go ahead. But married couples don’t have the monopoly on going through life struggles, couples go through struggles all the time.

  • pfft

    My mom and my step dad have been together since I was 11 and they have never married. They even took over custody of my younger brother from a family friend who was strung out on drugs. He was 3 mos old at the time. My brother didn’t grow up dysfunctional and neither did I. My mom doesn’t want to.I am married and expecting my second child. MY brother has a long term GF that he has been with for 4 yrs and is currently serving our country over seas. Oh and and my bro has no kid out of wed lock. IMHO… and from my life experience it’s not whether the parents are married rather how dedicated they are to raising the best kids. My parents were dedicated without paper for 24yrs to one another and us, and we’re just fine. Marriage is not for everyone.

    • MLS2698

      That’s not your step-dad, but a live in boyfriend. Why do people use legal terms to describe their lifestyle of living together? You know, cohabitation is illegal in some states?

      • true

        Co-sign!!

  • Nehemiah53

    It is very unwise to copy celebrities they are actors, they play roles note the key word play and most of them life is a mess.

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  • Nehemiah53

    Sisters article is childlish and gas, celebrities are not to be copied most of them and their children are a mess for that very same reason.

  • Miss D

    Personally, I wouldn’t have a child with someone who had no intention of marrying me. If you don’t want me as your wife, why would you trust me to mother your children?

    • Nehemiah53

      See you are smart and wise! I can’t say that about some that have post unwise and stupid comment on this article

  • Kayo

    Of course a ring doesn’t mean a thing, because it is just a ring.

    • redfingerpaint

      Uhh, I thought that rings were a symbol of commitment. Maybe I’m wrong…

      • Kayo

        Traditionally they are, but wearing a wedding ring doesn’t mean one is committed. The meaning of things are lessened when people use cutesy names like, ‘put a ring on it’, ‘wifey’, and ‘wife her up’.

  • Ms_Sunshine9898

    No thank you, why would you want that for yourself? That leaves an easy window for any man to run out when he’s good and ready. All of my children will be born in wedlock. I think it’s time we stop making excuses and really get to know the men we procreate with before we do it instead of using the marriage isn’t for everyone/it’s a broken institution lines repeatedly. . .

    • Nehemiah53

      You are very wise, keep on thinking like you are thinking.

    • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_JAI4SRENU2A5WKRTELXXYJPDSI Kayla

      what makes you think that once he’s married he won’t run out..

      • MLS2698

        You are more protected legally as a married person. He can run, but he won’t hide from child support or alimony. Let’s see what Nehemiah53 has to say about that………….

        • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_JAI4SRENU2A5WKRTELXXYJPDSI Kayla

          oh so that’s what it’s about. Money, what ever happened to being with the love of your life, and being together forever… Now it’s about money…. hmm interesting

          • MLS2698

            No. I swear people just don’t get it. The courts feel more for people who were married, but get agitated with baby mamas.

            • Ms_Sunshine9898

              @3dcd74c90d5e7b6616bdd03146b4fd5f:disqus It funny how it’s said that marriage is about money yet, you have more cases of from the 65% of single unmarried black mothers trying to get alimony type benefits and child support than you have black couples divorcing and petitioning the courts for after marital benefits. . .

            • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_JAI4SRENU2A5WKRTELXXYJPDSI Kayla

              why should there be any difference between the woman who is going through a divorce and tries to take her husband to the cleaners and take everything he has(basically try to screw him over) then the baby momma who does the same? Is it because she signed some papers and put on a nice dress to walk down the aisle. It seems either way the man’s getting screwed over. lol

          • redfingerpaint

            God forbid you die, who will get your money? Your spouse. God forbid you’re unable to make medical decisions for yourself. Your spouse has hospital and prison visitation rights. You get immigration and residency benefits, too. Yes, many financial benefits. Take a look at the economy, if you don’t have money then…

      • Ms_Sunshine9898

        Why would you not want a man who’s ready to make a public, life long, legal commitment to you versus a man who says he’s your boo for life. A married man can run out on you too, but you’ll have the law on your side when things go wrong plus the satisfaction of knowing even without a divorce that your husband says he knows for a fact you are the last and final stop in women for the rest of his life provided a divorce doesn’t happen vs a man who can say that but is unwilling to take it to the next step and actually make that commitment for life and make official. Attitudes like yours are the reason why 82% of all black children born are born to single, unmarried mothers. . . .

        • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_JAI4SRENU2A5WKRTELXXYJPDSI Kayla

          If he’s that type of person that treats you bad and/or may run out on you. Then you shouldn’t be with that person in the first place. Marriage has nothing to do with it. If you reach the stage in your relationship where you both love each other 100% and are fully dedicated to each other, why do I need the government to prove my love? How can a piece of paper from city hall fully encompass and fully describe one’s commitment to another person? A piece of paper can’t describe how much you love someone just like a high school diploma cant confirm how smart a person is. If a man is going to commit to you fully, then he is going to commit with his heart.
          Marriage isn’t the absolute commitment, because that commitment is broken all the time, as the divorce rate will tell you. You have for example some gay couples who been together who years but can’t get married. Does there love not count? It’s not my fault black woman are willing to open their legs to men who won’t give them the time of day.These men just wanted to hit it and quit it. That has nothing to do with marriage, it just consists of woman being stupid. I believe a child needs two loving parents in the home. I just don’t feel like it’s an absolute must to get married. Not saying they shouldn’t get married, if that’s what you desire then go ahead by all means.

          And it’s interesting to note that when a man does wrong, you stated you have the law on your side, to make him pay. Marriage is nothing but a business deal, so when he messes up on that deal you make him pay, aka, it’s about money..

          • Ms_Sunshine9898

            girl if you don’t wanna a man to marry you because you’re worried about the what ifs of life that’s YOU. as i suggested before, marriage is a serious lifelong commitment that should be handle with consideration. if some people choose to marry any and everybody for the h3ll of it without any thought to it, then that’s their own fault. again if a man really loves you, he’ll want to make it official. it’s not about the piece of paper, money, or the government. it’s about a spiritual and formal commitment to one another made official, publicly acknowledging that youf significant other is your one and only for life. if you rather be a baby mama and a wifey for life because getting “a piece of paper” and wedding ringing is a bit too much for you that’s fine too. it’s funny how women claim they don’t need a piece of paper to show their commitment to the fathers of their children and yet are the first to run to the courts to file child support papers and ask for money to keep up the lifestyle they had when they were booed up. clearly you don’t have role models in your life to show you what long term love and happiness looks like in a marriage situation, and I can’t fault you for that, but you and other women who seem to despise marriage need to know and understand a lifelong marriage is possible and quit expecting all men to be so readily to sh!t on you if you do get married, i.e. your desire to to never go through the process and justify why not getting married should be ok. . . I’m done we can go at this all day but clearly you have some trust and insecurity issue with men and long term formal commitments. . .

            • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_JAI4SRENU2A5WKRTELXXYJPDSI Kayla

              When you say “make it official”, it sounds like until he actually marries me, his commitment and love for me doesn’t count. For example there are countless number of gay couples who have been together for decades but can’t get married, does there commitment for each other don’t count? Who are you to say how he should prove his love to me? In reality that’s the way YOU want him to prove his love for you, because you and countless of other woman bought into the idea of what a “real man” is supposed to do, and you just been simply regurgitating those same facts. It’s sad you can’t possibly wrap your mind around two people loving each other and being fully committed to each other without being married, because to you anything less then that and she is nothing.

  • Windy

    SO GLAD THEY ARE SHOWING WHITE PEOPLE AND NOT JUST BLACK PEOPLE.

    • Mytisque

      Amen!

  • MLS2698

    Don’t want to click.

  • lalatarea

    After the fifth slide I rarely had any idea who these “celebrities” are,lol

    • http://www.facebook.com/kjonston Kaycee Jonston

      IKR….the majority of these people, i have no clue who they are.

  • lovey09

    Padma and Adam stayed in the courts a long time. That was a crazy court case.

  • lovey09

    i think Heath and Michelle would get back together one day. He was never right after brokeback mountain.

    • Shebe

      Huh?!?! How will that happen?

    • love

      He’s DEAD

    • Native Noir

      o_O

  • lovey09

    Kourtney has commitment issues, so why would he marry her. They are both using each other and have issues

  • G Star

    These celebrities are just keeping their options open so they can easily switch partners as they tend to do….without much difficulty. I don’t think this makes them special at all.

  • yep

    Marriage isn’t for everyone. I don’t have the desire to get married, but would like to have a child. Couples can be in committed and monogamous relationships with kids for 20 years and when they get married everything falls apart. Marriage doesn’t prove love or that you are better prepared to care for a child.

    • bits

      wow! this is so true. a committed relationship in my opinion is better than “marriage” any day. less paper work.

      • Nehemiah53

        Hiding from something, cowards please do not have children because you and your kind are not mentally prepared to have children and will leave your children unprotected financially. Let me give you a hint marriage is not all about love or
        lust.

    • victoria

      It would be nice if this was the case (parents remaining in committed relationships). But unfortunately, for TOO MANY of the 70% out of wedlock children born in our community dads are AWOL leaving our children at a financial, an emotional and a security disadvantage. For the sack of black kids (and for other reasons) I am PRO MARIAGE.
      I dont think people have a problem with whether or not couples sign papers, but with the issues surrounding many kids from single mother households. That’s the problem…too many single mothers are not in committed relationship or in many cases the fathers are not a part of their children’s lives.

      • divorcedmom

        With a divorce rate of 50%, why do women still think they MUST be married? After my divorce is final I will never get married again. Whether I have more kids or not. I can get child support without being married, for those that are so concerned about that. Easy to get married. Hard to get divorced.

        • redfingerpaint

          There are actual benefits to getting married. No one (I hope) intends to ever get divorced. But don’t you think your kids should have a father figure? The only way you can get child support is if you have primary custody; and the way you’re talking it doesn’t seem like you are going to let them see or bond with him often enough. Daughters learn to love a man from their fathers; sons learn what a man is and what it is to be a man.

    • Pivyque

      I just don’t understand HOW people are together for long periods of time and then get married and get divorced after a few months. I don’t understand. What changed? I understand that not everyone wants to be married, but I do believe that if someone wants to have a child with someone, why not get married? If you plan on spending your life with this person and procreating, what is the harm? That has always been the question that no one seems to have the answer to. I am all for healthy relationships, married or not, I just don’t see why some people are so against marriage.

    • Nehemiah53

      Do us a favor with your mind set please do not have children!

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Brianna/33402529 Brianna

    well people have been single mothers for years so hollywood is finally showing how it is in the real world and not a fantasy world. There is nothing wrong with being a single parent esp. if the other option is to be in a horrible marriage. Better to get out and marry someone who will love you and your baby the way you both deserve.

    • Ki

      That’s why you should get pregnant by your husband (the man worthy) and not the boyfriend you barely know…duh

      • angel

        However, you MUST know your partner before marriage unless you want to be on husband number 2 or 3. I know many women who marry a man just to have a husband and regret it because they didn’t date longer or form a committed relationship first.