By Crystal Hollenbeck
Most women would probably admit that at some point in their lives, they have been attracted to someone who is already married. But, they would never think of trying to do anything to lure the man away from his wife. However, for some women, they only seek out married and committed men to have a relationship with.
Mate poaching is a term coined by David Buss in his book entitled Evolution of Desire. It describes the behavior of men and women who purposely seek out people in committed relationships. A study published in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology found that of the single women in the study who were told their “match” was currently in a romantic relationship, 90 percent said they would pursue the man knowing he was not single.
Dionne Mahoffey wrote a book on the subject entitled, Girl, Leave Her Man Alone. Websites, such as ashleymadison.com, actually promote married people having affairs.
So, why do women mate poach? There are several perceived benefits including the excitement of an affair, the feeling of being “chosen” over someone else, being lavished with expensive gifts and the feelings of power and control because there is no commitment on the part of the “poacher.”
Although some of these women say they don’t need a man, most desire a committed relationship. There are three reasons that may contribute to a woman engaging in mate poaching.
Check out the three reasons on YourTango.com.
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