No You Didn’t: 8 Things You Shouldn’t Say To A Married Woman

August 30th, 2012 - By Kariba Lang Williams

Whether they eloped in Vegas or had a grand ceremony and reception in New York City, your friend and her boo decided that marriage was the next step in their relationship. Most people hate to admit it, but things really do change after marriage, and hey, they need to. The status bar is raised a bit higher and expectations may change, all in an attempt to solidify the dream of those 2.5 children and that white picket fence.

Things may have been all good before marriage, but your girl’s opinion about certain topics may have changed. Therefore, certain things aren’t cool to joke about and some things have to be off limits. Indeed, there are just some things you shouldn’t say to a married woman, and here are a few of them that won’t get the best reaction.

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  • http://www.facebook.com/rob.billeaud Rob Billeaud

    Wow, I just kind of chanced upon this article but it is enlightening. I never knew there were such significant cultural differences between white women and black women. For example, I don’t think it is common amongst white women to refer to other recently married white women as “baby momma” or “girlfriend”. Also, I don’t find a lot of pressuring amongst white women for their friends to leave their husbands.

  • RHeart

    I stopped getting into any type of details of my friends relationships, it just gets messy no matter how necessary it seems to be i say just smile & nod when she tell you something about her relationship and change the subject. I had a friend ( former friend now) get married to a guy she only knew for 6 months. The first 4 months of the relationship she didn’t even like him, always talked about her ex still, then they start talking marriage and all of sudden she was in love. Of course when any of us asked her to think about what she doing and maybe to wait on the wedding ( they had a rush wedding, married within 3 months of being engaged) ( & keep in mind we didnt say break up we just said maybe you guys should wait a year before actually getting married) she had a totally temper tantrum and called everyone jealous & bla bla, needless to say it ruined our friendship ( we were bestfriends for YEARS) and a few other friendships she had. I say just STAY out your girls relationships- its just smarter in the end. A woman in love is one crazy hybrid of something neither male or female nor human lol dont upset it!

  • chanela

    serious? do people really brag about dating married men like that? SMH

  • Leo the Yardie Chick

    Just one thing missing: “So, when are you gonna have kids?”. The ink wasn’t even dry on my friend’s marriage certificate before both sides of the family started harping for babies. Dear Lord. >_<

  • Single and Happy

    Eh…sensitive maybe? *shrugs*

  • cutily

    My sister and my cousins who are married don’t have this kind of taboos or else. None of them insist on being called “the wife” and you can talk about anything with them. Even after their kids they stayed the same.

  • Yokessm

    I lost all my “girls” after I got married, I just couldn’t deal with the stress of having to apologize for having a man at home, being accused of always being “boo’ed up” , some went as far as trying to seduce him to prove to me that “he’s no good”, I was losing my mind and I had to eliminate the drama. As of right now , I have a few acquaintances but I’m terrified of starting anew… Oh well. Nice articles.

    • cheekee baby

      It helps when you have friends who are where you are at in life. This goes double for men. If your man hangs around with nothing but playa, single men chances are he will either revert to their behavior or start distancing himself from them. Find other like minded married women to hang out with and you won’t have these problems.

    • Miss Anonymous

      *sends hugs* I wish I had a friend like you. My ex best friend got married and dropped me like a bad habit. She kept up with the friends who had a man or was married and only calls or text when it involves going out of town (to help pay half if I go and at the last minute) or to watch her kids that she had by her exs. She tries to “come around” now that I was a boyfriend but I dont need any fair weather/bad weather friends in my life right now. My other friend on the other hand nothing changed with her at all when she got married. We are just as close as we were before and I would never want her man and vice versa.

      Your “girls” were merely that: girls. You shouldnt be too terrified of meeting new ones because eventually their true colors will show. There are women out here that respect our friends being married/single/boo’ed up or whatever the case might be.

      Ps I do want to bop your friends in the head for that mess they did.

      • Yokessm

        Sending hugs right back, friend number one is using and abusing you, you should drop her. Friend number two is a keeper she loves you and nobody can change that. I want that :(

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