Are You A Nice Girl…Or A Pushover?
6. Strike a Balance
Once you’ve built up some confidence and are determined to not be a weakling, you have to be careful that you don’t become one of those selfish bullies who were pushing you around. Asserting yourself can feel powerful, but it can also bring about reckless behavior if you don’t balance it with compromise. Not being a pushover means developing good self-care skills, not being selfish. It means you take other’s needs into consideration, but make the decision that works best for all involved. You may find that others genuinely need your help or that their needs come first, and there’s nothing wrong with that. However, if there is a conflict, find a reasonable compromise where all parties are comfortable and satisfied with the outcome and all needs are met – a win-win!
