Are You A Nice Girl…Or A Pushover?

August 25th, 2012 - By Brooke Dean

Since I was a child, I was always taught to be a good girl. While I always prided myself on being “nice” or “the peacemaker” who was easy to get along with, there were times I felt that my kindness was mistaken for weakness. Most people don’t want to be seen as a jerk or a bad person, so saying “no” could be perceived as being mean. But if you’re not careful, others could walk all over you, and you could start to feel resentful if you feel you’re being taken advantage of. So are you simply a sweetheart, or are you passive? If you feel that being a nice girl is coming at the expense of your self-confidence, your health, or your personal relationships, here are some tips to adjust your behavior so that others will no longer view you as a pushover.

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  • ThomK

    I can’t read these multiple page articles. By the time the next page loads, I’ve already lost interest.

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  • A.J.

    I like that this article shows that a balance is possible, but that you have to stand your ground. I think it’a a shame that people often confuse niceness/meekness for weakness, because it’s not. Unfortunately, we live in a world that looks down on kindness. “No” has always been one of my favorite words, but admittedly, it can be hard to put it in action. I’d rather have people think that I’m too stern than to have them take advantage of me.

  • Jolene

    I’m nice….depends on how other people treat me

  • Machelle Kwan

    I”m pretty sure i’m perceived as mean and I really don’t care. I”m not being the pawn in anyone’s game. I”ve had my kindness challenged by fools. Needless to say, they learned valuable lessons after dealing with me. You have to look out for yourself.

  • WhoMe

    Thanks for this one. Ive always been the nice girl but when I confront someone in a nice way the person says Im mean.

  • http://twitter.com/MisguidedM Micki

    This article is a God send! Thank you, I needed this. People take my kindness for weakness all the time and this article will hopefully help me to change that and then some.

  • jsmith12

    Thank you for this article. This is truly the story of my life. I have always been that type of person who has always said yes or went out of my way for others to find out that they could not do the same for me. I am now in the process of saying no or standing my ground because people really do judge how much they can take from you without you saying anything. I have also been that type of person who always wanted to be likeable but I soon realized that people still talk about you regardless of how nice you have been to them.

  • MsVictoria

    I am a nice girl with a mentality of a crazy person. I would be nice to certain people and also I would cuss people out with out saying their sorry

  • Ai

    I needed to read this.

    • WHOISBSQUARED?

      ME 2………..I DEAL WITH ALL THESE TOPICS ON THE REGULAR….