Being mean in bed
A select few men are into the dominant/submissive game. But, usually, if a guy likes you, he doesn’t want to hurt you! He doesn’t want to call you a “dirty wh*re” or whack you with a paddleboard or choke you. So if you decide one night that to spice it up you’ll start yelling orders in bed about all the grotesque things you want him to say and do to you, he’ll probably just be terrified and lose his—you know.