Can’t Decide Whether to Stay or Go? Ask Yourself These 7 Questions

August 23rd, 2012 - By Julia Austin
"Woman thinking"

blackloveandmarriage.com

When you bring two people together, each with their own separate stresses, needs, wants and expectations, you’re bound to experience bouts of feeling unsatisfied in your relationship. You can’t possibly anticipate somebody else’s needs all of the time, and your partner cannot possibly always anticipate yours. That’s why the saying goes that relationships are complicated. It’s really not as simple as, “If I feel happy I’ll stay, and if I feel unhappy I’ll break up with him.” If it were, you wouldn’t have opened this article now would you?

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  • Burned twice

    You need to check your statistics …..women are more likely to cheat on their husbands than the other way around…..the past 30+ years women have been portrayed as the defenseless spouse ……..women’s right’s have changed all that…..women are in the workforce, they use their attributes when they wish, they play the work issue to travel and let the husbands take care of the home and kids….when the women get let down, they run back to their husbands until they heal, and then they will move on to the next victim… because of the conditions prior to the late 1960′s women have the upper advantage of men in the courts. The court’s and the legislators are still milking the men, mainly because it is so much easier to pass judgement of a man than that pretty, sweet, little vixen that can put on an act as good as any tv actor……wake up people, smell the roses….. forget the old days

  • sheena

    J. Austin I have a real dilemma: what about the relationship that just does not fulfill you? he is not cheating, beating or stealing my money however i am not fulfilled. Am i wrong for wanting to just be friends? I have been in an abusive relationship before so I have a hard time ending anytype of relationship that is not outwardly destructive.

  • MsV

    If a man is not good to you then he is not good for you. The question I would ask is, “When you think of him does he make you smile?” If he does not then say good bye.

  • http://twitter.com/thirtythoughts 30thoughts

    These are great questions!

  • Yvette

    I have been re-evaluating my 23 year marriage and this article is exactly what I needed to read. Jaustin you hit the nail on the head especially with the last question of “Does he make your life easier or harder”?

  • Na Na

    Bam! I love your articles jaustin they are always very well thought out and articulated!