1. Is There a Committment?
If you’re casually dating or just “kickin’ it”, then you may not feel the need to introduce your man friend to your children at all. But if you’re looking for something long-term and feel that he may be a keeper, then make sure you’re in a committed relationship before considering him meeting your kids. Sometimes the topic of commitment is avoided, or a committment is assumed – which is a big mistake couples make in matters of the heart. If you haven’t discussed an exclusive relationship, have the talk now before considering anything further. Some children get attached very quickly, so it would be unfair for you to involve someone in their lives when you’re not even sure if he’s 100% committed to YOU. Some men may not want to make the committment official until he meets your children to see if he can handle it, but he should be dating you…and only you…before he meets your kids. Be honest and CLEAR about your relationship status, and make sure you’re comfortable with his level of commitment before introducing him to your child.