True Life: He Proposed…But I Said No

August 16th, 2012 - By madamenoire

Some women spend their whole lives waiting for a man, any man to pop the question. Other women are smart enough to know that if the situation is not right, or if he’s not right, it’s best to decline. We talked to those women today on our Facebook and Twitter pages and got their stories. See what they had to say.
Christina: I was asked to be married by my Muslim friend from Egypt. I turned it down because he was asking everyone, just to stay in America:)

Karen: I used to be called the real runaway bride. Yes I did several times because I was simply afraid. I felt pressured to have a family and of course we broke up, hard feelings at first but it was best

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  • ResHeart

    I’ve been proposed to twice. First guy just wan’t the one for me. He was 5 years older then me but i felt like the older one. I felt like i was his mother and he was my child. Til this day he still sends me facebook, twitter ect request and i deny them. He was such an emotional man and could never really handle being friends with me. I had to cut him out of my life entirely. I tried being friends with him but it always ended withing 3 days b/c he would break down into an emotional mess of ” i love you so much why wont you marry me” . I just could not be with a man child.

    The second guy proposed to me to have sex with me. Yes… apparently it was that serious. He had been chasing me for about 1 & 1/2 year and when we finally start dating i informed him i was celibate, he said he was coo with it and then proposed to me a month later -____- . My exact words , ” You can’t marry me because you want to have sex with me..” , And yes i was laughing while saying this. We are still good friends though.

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  • http://twitter.com/MsRedboneBrite Tee Elyse

    I loved Savon & Shontai’s responses… LMAOOOOO @ Deidra’s (The “Whackness!”)… & WOW @ Diane’s!! Scary!!

  • Hello_Kitty81

    SMH at the women who has kids with their baby fathers and the fathers proposed to them, I understand if they’re abusive, but why be a baby mama than a wife, wives get more respect (at the woman who say wives don’t get respect these days).

    • paula

      I see both sides of this…if he’s not the right one then they shouldn’t get married…it’s going to fail and cause a lot of stress which will effect the child…but being the baby mama isn’t cute either

  • RobbD

    A male perspective on you women. Before my daughter was conceived, I asked her mother to marry me. Me: single father,$50 a month in child support from my sons mother, working for the state, part-time college student, couldn’t afford that ring, but my credit was (is) good, I made it happen. before she was one we where in court getting child support set, mind you I was there from day 1until even now. i get a vasectomy, she comes back, want s to have another child, no way. Ten yrs goes by, I wanted to get married, she kept promising me she would marry me. I go to her suggest we end the relationship while we were on good terms and she promises again, I wait one more year, and again, like a mature adult man, suggest we end the relationship, I wanted to be married, She promised, I mean reallly promised that it was gonna happen. Couple weeks later she wants to go get a marriage license, Hmmmm, I think its really gonna happen, before we get married, she leaves me for a married man that has a lot of money, breaks up with me Wednesday moves him in on Thursday. When she was breaking up with me she said it was my fault I beleived her, told me how she wanted us to be friends, the next week I went to see my daughter I find out the truth, men are always in the wrong, right? Wrong. Don’t even start dating if you have the slightest inclanations you would not marry that man, I wanted to do bodily harm to her, I was too much of a man, but I was deffinately a very hurt man. I ahd a hard time beleiving anything any woman said to me for a long time and still do, but I am working on it and I have not given up on the Black women I love so much.

    • http://twitter.com/MsRedboneBrite Tee Elyse

      WOW!! I’m sorry to hear that!! That sucks because it’s women like that that make it hard for the rest of the good women out here in the world who actually want a man who takes marriage and commitment seriously. Hopefully, you’ll find/ have found another woman who doesn’t take you for granted!

      • SMH

        There are very few good women out there… sad to say it.

    • Lady85

      you gave her too many chances.her foolishness has nothing to do with her being a black woman. I’m sure you can meet a sista (or some other woman) that will bend over backwards for your love, just make sure you’re open to that and not lumping her up with the last chick. but I agree with you that sometimes people waste time KNOWING they won’t ever want to marry that man/woman and that’s not right.

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100003767944005 Cherie Amore

      I was with you until that last sentence. If you feel another race will treat you better than this ONE black woman did, feel free to leave. It baffles me when black men think they can solve their relationship problems by dating another race.

      • Lady_tanae92

        Maybe you should read that sentence again…

      • Big Mike

        Uh, where did he say he was looking for a woman of another race?

    • Is It 5:00 Yet?

      I am sorry that you had to experience that. Yes…as a black woman I can admit that some of us are very triflin too. But don’t let that taint your view of the whole group. Keep hope alive.

  • http://www.facebook.com/shanifiu Shani Bernard

    Glad your alive Diane

  • Darcampb

    I’m confused about the woman who states that she turned a marriage proposal from her childs father simply because ‘wives don’t get respect these days’. But being a baby mama is preferable and more respectful?? Blank stare

    • Resheart

      I was thinking the same thing. Smh

    • http://twitter.com/MizzJazzyPeach J Mc

      me too I had to make sure I read that right cause I don’t recall ever hearing that being a wife is disrespectful. And folks kill me with the marriage is just a piece of paper excuse for not getting married, well try telling that to the hospital when your loved one is going through a life threatening situation and you have no say because you don’t have that “piece of paper”

      • JoettaM

        Girl, thank you! My thoughts exactly!

    • mscharming88

      I’m thinking that she meant that some married women put up w/the same bullsh*t that non-married women put up with; just because a couple gets married doesn’t mean that whatever problems they had beforehand will magically be solved after the wedding. If a couple isn’t on the same page about where they see themselves in the future, there is little that getting married will do to fix that issue.

  • Kayla

    Lol at the way Diane said “the police killed him”!!!

  • DinaLineth

    Did we really need 9 pages? Couldn’t y’all just put it in 1 page and we just scroll down?

    • Hello_Kitty81

      THANK YOU!

    • http://twitter.com/MsRedboneBrite Tee Elyse

      LOL… they getting that ad money!!

  • http://twitter.com/joy2MiKASworld Mika ✌❤ ☺

    I do, but then I don’t a free with Krista… You two have been together for all that time with three kids, why not just legalize it? And it’s not just “a piece if paper”. …

    • http://www.facebook.com/people/Ashley-Sykes/1065177536 Ashley Sykes

      right! people are so stupid. marriage is NOT just a piece of paper. it’s so much more than that but of course ignorant people don’t know that. SMH have fun being called baby mama instead of WIFE.

      • paula

        let’s not refer to each other as ignorant, I agree w ur comment, but we have to address each other w sisterly love in order to help each other

  • Is It 5:00 Yet?

    Hindsight is 20/20 for some of these women.

  • Umm

    Wait….what did Diane wrote? Police killed him? O_o

    • Is It 5:00 Yet?

      Yes..she just wrote that nonchalantly.