“He Needed Help:” Rihanna Cries Telling Oprah About Chris Brown

August 16th, 2012 - By Alissa Henry
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Source: rap-up.com

In the three years since the fight with Chris Brown that landed her in the hospital, Rihanna has talked about it in only one interview. She’s given tons of interviews since the one with Diane Sawyer, but it seems the 2009 incident is off limits as is her love life in general. Just this past April, she stormed out of an interview in Australia after the reporter asked her about her love life. That likely sent the memo to the press, “don’t go there”.

But Oprah is not just part of the press. She’s the Queen of Talk and nothing seems to be off-limits for her. In an interview slated to air on OWN’s “Next Chapter” this Sunday, Oprah got Rihanna to open up about the 2009 incident and where she is at with Chris Brown.  Talking about the aftermath of the fight brought Rihanna to tears as she told Oprah:

I lost my best friend, like everything I knew switched in a night. I couldn’t control that and I had to deal with that so it wasn’t easy for me to understand or interpret. And it’s not easy to interpret on camera with the world watching. So it’s hard for me to pay attention to my mind and figuring things out because now it became a circus and I felt protective. I felt like the only person that they hate right now is him and it was a weird confusing space to be in. Cause’ as angry as I was, as hurt and betrayed, I felt that he made that mistake because he needed help. Who’s going to help him? Nobody is going to say, “he needs help”. Everyone is going to say he’s a monster without looking at the source. I was more concerned about him.

Personally, for Rihanna to call him her best friend after he busted her face up like that is perplexing. It’s just further evidence that the concepts of love and friendship in our community are all sorts of warped. Does smashing a girl’s face in negate all the good a relationship had been or could have been? In a word, yes. Nobody’s “best friend” sends them to the emergency room.

As far as the interview itself, Oprah probably would have not even brought up the fight if rumors of a reconciliation between Rihanna and Chris Brown hadn’t been heating up over the past several months. For everyone wishing people would stop bringing up the “incident”, the fact is, these two will probably never be together again in peace because the public will never forget that fight. The only way for the public to get over it is for them to get over each other and stop trying to pretend like nothing happened. Whether they like it or not, Rihanna/Chris Brown is still practically synonymous with “violent dating relationship”. It actually would have been odd if Oprah wouldnot have  brought it up, thus clearly ignoring the elephant in the room.

I’m interested to hear what she has to say about where they’re at now.

For Chris Brown’s part, as NecoleBitchie reported, The Hollywood Life says a friend told them that Chris saw the preview:

Chris saw the video clip. Of course he saw it, how do you think he feels? He feels horrible he did that. Watching [Rihanna's interview with Oprah] made him realize he made a big mistake and he’s been paying for it ever since. He’s working hard, in the studio, dancing, doing everything he can to rebuild his name and career and I think he has been successful in doing all that. Y’all should be talking about his road to recovery and how he’s been a man and made s–t right. He and Rih are cool, more cool than anyone will know. She forgave the [boy] the minute that s–t went down, so what that say about their relationship?”

It says these two would be better off going their separate ways for good because as long as they continue to toy with the media hinting at a reconciliation, nobody is going to stop talking about what he did.

What do you think about this interview? Will you watch it?

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  • gracie

    Let’s not forget how young they were when this happened.

  • Toni Toni Toni

    All our lives we are taught to fogive but never forget… Do to others as you would have them do to you… She odviously forgave and has not forgot and for that she is a better person and possibly sleeps better at night….She should not have to expose her feelings for the world to see because she is a celebrity SHE IS A WOMAN just like half of everyone commenting on this and we should all know what it feels like to have our heartbroken by someone we though cared. She is just going through the motions and does not want it to be made public, on display like everything else in her life and for that I respect her…Give her some space and time.

  • Ay

    To the people still hoping for “Chrianna”, please kill yourselves.

  • Nycki

    How could you not unnderstand what she is saying. That was her bestfriend and then this fight happens between them and over night she has to process all that is going on in her life while a camera is in her face. You’re with someone everyday and then they are no longer there. It’s a lot to process for a grown women yet along a young women.

  • ijs

    It’s easy to say “if I was her, I would ___” or “she should just ___” when you’re on the outside looking in and are not emotionally invested in the situation.
    What Chris did was inexcusable, but to expect her to just move on like flicking a light switch is absolutely ridiculous. I’m in no way suggesting she should go back to him, but when someone hurts you, even in such a brutal way as that, that doesn’t make all the time you spend together null & void.

    I myself was pissed when I heard she was already back spending time w him shortly after the incident, but looking back I was wrong. I can’t imagine the flurry of emotions she must’ve been going through. Love, or whatever you wanna call it is crazy…it lacks logic. With no emotional investment in a situation, it’s easy to look at it with 100% logic, which is why it was so easy for us to formulate opinions about what she should do. It was crazy to expect her to act on logic after an experience like that.

    Now on a separate note, I don’t think the media was slow to forgive CB bc of the incident itself, but because he completely antagonized himself. Dude showed no remorse, and acted like he was entitled to forgiveness. Complaining about stores not carrying his music, storming out of interviews, tantrums, generic apology, stupid tweets etc. He brought a lot of the aftermath on himself.

  • Milo

    It isn’t anybody responsibility to tell a couple or friends that they should stop hanging or messing with each other because that is “what’s best”. Not your life, problem, or business.

  • WhoMe

    She said she LOST her best friend. Past tense; she recalling what happened. But if God forgives us, why cant we forgive others. We need to move on with our lives. I wish the best for Rih and Chris

  • Zoe Skkye

    She didn’t call him her best friend. She said she lost her best friend due to the incident. She’s mourning the lost of that relationship and it’s difficult to do that in the spotlight with the world and everyone’s elses judgement and opinions. She has every right to her emotions and how she feels. She’s young and the whole situation was probably scary and embarassing for her to handle especially in the spotlight.

  • lalatarea

    Its hard for people to forgive chris because every time e turn around he’s doing something stupid out of anger. I feel like if he had come back sincere and humble and just focused on his music he wouldn’t have half the problems he has now. Of course not EVERYONE is going to forgive him and his career will always have that smudge on it but he can do a better job of helping himself.

    As far a Rihanna is concerned she has forgiven him and whether they’re a couple or not that’s her choice and ONLY she would have to suffer the possible consequences from that’s so LET’S MOVE ON!

  • Love_Sexy

    Yes I will be watching the interview because I am a RiRi fan…I really do think the public took it harder than Chris and RiRi (understandable)…..Its time to move on and respect their privacy with how they want to handle the situation…..If he apologized and she forgave and moved on then let it be.

  • Shrbarnett

    She needs to move on with her life & let go of him emotionally. She can love again but she needs to let up with the self-destructive behavior. The whole “thug” act is tired. May sound harsh but that’s the way it is.

    • Shondra

      “The whole “thug” act is tired.”

      THIS EXACTLY. I’m getting sick n tired of these hoodrat rappers like Chris Brown and Wiz Khalifa and Jay-Z trying to act all tough dissing everybody including women of their own race. Ever really listen to their lyrics? It’s pure trash and all about hating women especially black women. Ironic, since usually the only people who raised them were their mommas or grandmommas. Daddy is nowhere to be found.

      CB needs to grow the F up and become a man. He’s a little too old to be playing gangster wannabe.

      He’s going to end up looking ridiculous like SNOOP DOG – the scrawny old man who looks like a rat with dreadlocks, thinks he’s a bad azz thug, and still dresses like teenage boy. LOL

  • Britt

    Rihanna and Chris should not be synonymous with “violent dating relationship.” They did not invent domestic violence and should not be the poster children. There is obviously more to this story than what we know and I believe it was a two-way fight, based on how Rihanna’s done songs with him and still has love for him. I think she’s doing that because it eases some of the guilt she may feel. If she can move on from the situation, why can’t everybody else? Also, reconciling doesn’t always have to mean getting back together, it can mean letting the past be the past and moving on and being on good terms with each other. People just like to use their unfortunate situation to put themselves on a high horse when we’ve all made mistakes in the past.

  • Na Na

    Sounds to me like Rhianna had a bit more of a hand in the situation than most people think. The fact that she says that people are only blaming him seems as if she might have put her hands on him too, that maybe they were under the influence or something, but it doesn’t sound as if it was a cut and dry domestic abuse case…..to me that is. We all have our opinions.

    • MLS2698

      Was Chris’ face jacked up like hers? If so, I could understand. If this were an ” Ike and Tina” moment/scene in the limo, then I could say it was equal. I think he beat her like she stole something, and she could not even hit back. Now, fair skin shows bruises easier, but Chris is fair skinned too.

      • Britt

        Rihanna’s photos after the fight were LEAKED to TMZ by two female LAPD police officers. When Chris turned himself in to the police, he shielded his face under a blanket in the backseat of a car. No one in the public knows how he looked after the fight.

      • Britt

        Rihanna’s photos after the fight were LEAKED to TMZ by two female LAPD officers. No one knows how Chris looked after the incident because when he turned himself in to the police, he was under a blanket in the backseat of a car.

      • bkabbgej

        So if we can’t see the bruises and he doesn’t complain or show what she possibly did to him that makes it a total attack. Rihanna doesn’t appear to be submissive and passive. I think she gave him a run for his money and to save face for her charges were never pressed against her. But hey..what my opinion got to do with it!

        • MLS2698

          He dosn’t seem like the ” saving face ” type, but more like the punching face type.

    • Pivyque

      She did mention that she hit him I think. It’s been so long that I can’t remember, but I think it’s safe to say that she knew his triggers. Maybe that is why she said that the public would just call him a monster without knowing the source.

  • http://www.facebook.com/nikia.dshiznit Nikia D-Shiznit

    He had a right to defend himself. She is getting a free pass for hitting him first, but for some reason he is suppose to use restraint. Maybe he went too far, but she learned a lesson as well

    • lady

      You can hit a man and he can push or defend himself but did you not see those pictures the horns she had on her, idk if she really hit him or not but no one no man or women should abuse a person like that especially someone you supposedly loved. The way he beat her was like he was taking his aggression out on Riri. Also apparently he still hasn’t change from what I heard happen in a NY club he needs serious help and Rihanna needs to see that he is a monster but also human thank god he didn’t kill her and if he wish too he can change and find love with someone else.

  • Anon

    I HATE when folks try to take a situation thats really complex and simplify it. Nobody knows the feelings and love and relationship they had but them. Nobody. Its easy to have an opinion when you’re not the one involved. I don’t condone domestic violence but sometimes it does happen and it can be an isolated incident. It happened once with my own parents before they were married and it never happened again. So to say someone is a woman beater because they lost their temper once, at a very young age?…. That’s crazy. What he did was wrong and cannot be excused but it shouldn’t define him either. We don’t personally know him but she does and it obviously upsets her that people think he’s a monster when she knows otherwise. Also, I know me and my best friend physically fought and I sent her to the emergency room…. We’re still best friends to this day, we just both lost our temper, she put her hands on me first but I won the fight. Does that mean I’m a violent person? The point is things happen and you have to take each case and each person involved into consideration and if you don’t know the person I believe you can’t make an informed opinion like proclaiming someone a woman beater based on knowing details of the altercation and knowing nothing about the persons involved. It was an isolated incident involving two people in love, young and unable to express their emotions in a mature way. Was he wrong? Yes. Is it excusable? NO! But should it define him? Absolutely not.

  • baddvixentype

    he apologized. they’ve talked among themselves. they shouldnt have to keep talking about it to get us, the public, to understand. honestly its none of our buisness. we dont buy their cd because we know them on a personal note, we buy them because we love the music they produce and their voices. im disappointed that this has yet again been reported. I. Dont. Care.

    • Love_Sexy

      I agree with you.

  • bkabbagej

    There are times in everyone’s life where a decision made in the heat of the moment causes a lifetime of regrets (good (a baby) or bad (a jail term) but no one is exempt. For every judgemental person out there who can remember being in their 20′s an deciding to love someone everyone else said would pull you down or was no good for the life you said you wanted, be patient with these two. I truly believe that they both made grave mistakes in this relationship and both have a responsibility to themselves to own up to what happened and like everyone else grow and learn. No one is more guilty than the other, to hit a person is a major fux pas between two people (women mame, injure and even kill men too!), when you strike a person one should be ready for retaliation. With that said, the same way Oprah tells the story about the ridiculous behavior she displayed as a young woman in relationships she thought was love, so have these two. Please be careful of sharing what someone should or shouldn’t do after a situation no knows the true details to except the parties involved. Also, Rihanna must know something regarding the incident that we don’t have privy, to to feel “bad for him”, and I think her missing “her best friend” was an honest answer. Overnight the person you cared for and shared your time with will no longer be in your life and she’s suppose to just “move on”. Right…

    • MLS2698

      Listen, I was married for 17 years, and overnight, my ex-husband/supposed friend, was involved with another woman and began disrespecting me and our household ( includes our son) I won’t go into details, but NO PERSON, no matter how close you WERE to them, should expect abuse to be a part of the relationship. So, “move on” is right. Rihanna was not married, and had no children with Chris. I don’t hardly miss my ex, and I ain’t no woman from Detroit, as Judge Mathis would say, but I dare a man to put his hands on me…….

      • Tanisha

        I agree with MLS2698!! Nobody is perfect but that doesn’t mean you should ever expect abuse to happen in your relationship.

        Maybe down the road your man will be disrespectful or rude or disappoint you in some way (ladies, you will be guilty of this as well). BUT DON’T EVER THINK THAT ABUSE IS NORMAL.

        Abuse is dysfunctional. Abusers need help and the abused victims need to get as far away from them as possible.

    • Love_Sexy

      Very good point you made.

    • http://www.facebook.com/cutieonduty19150 Nicole Yvette Phillips

      I agree 10000% ! VERY well said!

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_JAI4SRENU2A5WKRTELXXYJPDSI Kayla

    Typical battered woman behavior. Displaying Stockholm syndrome… She needs therapy.. But at least she is willing to have an open and honest discussion about it. Chris on the other hand makes an apology and wants to move on. While people keep bringing up the likes of Charlie Sheen doesn’t take away the fact that he is not sorry for what he’s done. He only went to Anger Management to avoid jail time, and it’s obvious he hasn’t learned anything from it, hence his twitter outbursts and chair throwing. He has anger issues that need to be addressed. So bringing up white hollywood stars doesn’t make anything better, although those are valid points.

    • lady

      perfectly said….

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