Is It OK To Assume All Men Are Pedophiles?

August 15th, 2012 - By Brande Victorian

Mothers have so many things to look out for when it comes to protecting their children. They try to keep them from germs, falling and hurting themselves, electric sockets, hot stoves, strangers, and unfortunately any male who isn’t their father—and even that is tricky sometimes.

In the world of parenting , there’s sort of an unspoken assumption that all men have the potential to be sexually inappropriate with a young child. It’s the reason mothers tell their daughters not to sit on Uncle John’s lap, or why their kids can’t have a play date at neighbor so and so’s house if their mother isn’t home, and why male babysitters and daycare providers are virtually non-existent. It’s a precaution many feel is necessary given the alternative of not being overly zealous in protecting your child. And surprisingly, some airlines have gotten on board with the idea.

In an article on TheAge.com, a reporter details the story of a male nurse aboard Australian airline Quantas who was seated beside a female passenger he estimated to be about 10 years in age. After the safety demonstration, a flight attendant asked the man to move to another seat and when he asked why, he was told it was the policy of Qantas (and many other airlines) not to have men sit next to unaccompanied children. A woman then took the man’s old seat, and according to the passenger’s account when they deboarded the plane, she was thanked for moving to his old spot, while his being forced to take a new seat wasn’t acknowledged at all. To make matters worse, he said passengers stared at him throughout the entire flight wondering why the flight attendant asked him to move to begin with. In a nutshell, the entire experience was humiliating, and the policy itself clearly discriminatory, unfair, and bias, but the question is, is it justifiable?

As Jezebel points out in their analysis of the situation, airlines who take on this type of stance are likely doing so less from a save the children perspective and more as a liability deterrent.  Quoting Ashley Harrell of SF Weekly, the site notes “Although an airplane full of potential witnesses may seem an unlikely place for a child to be molested, criminal and civil lawyers who have handled these cases say that the controlled and confined yet anonymous environment is well suited for a child predator.” Furthermore, in all the reported plane molestation cases that have occurred over the past decade, adult males were involved. That makes this precaution start to look more like a necessary one than a witch hunt.

Of the 41,000 people who have taken The Age’s poll asking where they stand on Quantas’ policy of moving men who are next to unaccompanied children, 81% disagree with it. I’m willing to bet most of those respondents aren’t mothers, because we all know most of them would stop at virtually nothing to protect their child from even the hint of a perceived threat. But there is still an issue of needing to find a better way to prevent potential in-flight molestation from happening without embarrassing innocent men in the process and essentially labeling them as child molesters or “kiddie fiddlers” as the male nurse described — even if it is a label that only sticks with them for the duration of the flight.

Unless we’re talking about airlines like Southwest where your chosen seat is sort of first come, first served, I imagine there’s something airlines can do on the back-end with all of the information they compile on passengers when they purchase seats. Since airlines now have the age and gender of their passengers, they should leave the seating up to them and not place men next to unaccompanied children at that point. Of course that could cut back on opportunities for passengers to upgrade their seats, which I’m sure would expose just how much these airlines value child safety over a few extra bucks. But I think there is a way to still insert precautions to avoid in-flight molestation while also not being so blatantly discriminatory against men, not to mention naïve to the fact that women can be pedophiles as well.

What do you think about airline policies that don’t allow men to sit next to unaccompanied children?

Brande Victorian is the news and operations editor for madamenoire.com. Follow her on twitter @Be_Vic.

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  • a human youl never be

    ..you should be hung from a skyscraper.
    and by the abomination ‘you’, meaning the author of this article that should be taped all over you as your body is burnt while It swings from the building.
    spits in your face

  • Jason

    How about making the f@cking kid move. I don’t want to sit next to some kid anyways, but WTF should I be kicked out of MY seat. Send the f@cking down the row, sit them next to the shitter. unless they are moving me to first class, then I am cool with it.

  • http://www.facebook.com/missy.s.renee Missy Sapphire Renee

    I used to work for a major airline and our policy when unaccompanied children traveled with us was to never sit them next to a man. If the flight was full, we would check to make sure that the person next to them was a female passenger or crew member and they would be checked on regularly throughout the flight. If the flight wasn’t full, the extra seats would be blocked off from public view at check-in so no one would sit in them. Was it wrong? No. Do I believe every man is a pedo? No, but it would be foolish to assume that everything would be OK based on physical appearance. Pedos come in all forms shapes and sizes and it’s not worth the risk.

  • http://www.facebook.com/stephen.souter Stephen Souter

    It’s discrimination, pure and simple. What such policies are doing is using the gender equivalent of racial profiling as a justification for their existence. They are even using the same kind of statistical arguments racial profiling’s defenders use. If racial profiling and the discrimination it leads to is wrong how can gender profiling and the discrimination IT leads to be right?

  • Guest

    As someone who was was the victim of not just one, but two dudes who tried to play with my junk when I was a kid (it happened when I was 6 and 10), all I can say is: Better safe than sorry.

  • chanela

    um.. YES! haven’t you noticed how it’s acceptable for men to be turned on by school uniforms and high school cheerleaders? is that not pedophilia?

  • Yah

    i agree with the airline policy. sorry, not male bashing but all the evidence points to men having much higher sexual assault and crime stats againt females AND males, adult or child.

  • Jess

    Policy is very justified, I don’t want to sit next to a man i don’t know !

    This is REAL, there are way more rapists and sexual harassment that are male than female.
    And ask the children themselves, they’d probably rather a female than a male.

  • taz

    I have no problem with the policy. Yes, ppl can say woman are predators too but men sexually molest,rape ECT. More than woman.its just facts.its not even just little girls you have to be careful around with men,little boys too.its not fair but it’s the world we live in. Dang,come to think of it sometimes you can’t even trust males family members with your kids like that.better safe than sorry.

  • FromUR2UB

    You shouldn’t trust men who aren’t the children’s father, and women who are not immediate family members. I allowed my daughters to attend just one slumber party, when they were about twelve, only because I knew there would be a lot of girls there and felt there was safety in numbers. Otherwise, I didn’t allow them to sleep over at other kids’ homes, or even hang out there. They had to come straight home after school, and no one was allowed in my home when I wasn’t there. My daughters began flying alone since they were six, when they visited my parents during summers. A flight attendant was always assigned to them during the flight and to accompany them when turning them over to my parents. That always gave me peace of mind. I always asked them how attentive the flight attendants were during their flights, and they said she checked on them often. The airlines had good policies regarding children traveling alone, and I was always grateful that they took that level of care with them.

  • QuestionsBeforeActions

    I’ve been flying alone my whole life, and I have never once felt uncomfortable sitting next to a man I don’t know. Not on a PUBLIC plane. Why would you be worried about something happening there? There’s a difference between being left alone in a room with a strange man and being seated on a train, bus or plane. I can imagine the fury at someone doing to my father, the kindest man alive, on a plane. It’s absolutely discriminatory.

  • SuZQ

    I don’t agree. This is wrong. This man did nothing wrong. Yes, men commit crimes- but they usually get reported. I heard far too many stories from male friends about their mother’s friends making sexual advances and being taken advantage of. Even when women do get caught they don’t go to jail like men. So, why even bother to report your rapist when they won’t be punished and the crime will be overlooked? People commit sexual crimes against children, its just more noticeable when a man does it and we don’t really know if its more men commiting crimes than women. Women are rarely reported.

  • Trisha_B

    There are some sick women out there. I understand the policy & it’s good they are protecting the kids. But you have to be careful w/ your kids around men & women. Too many stories out there of women raping young children. Why? B/c women are seen as protection, the safe one. & some women take advantage on that & will prey on the kids knowing they would be trusted. So just like some of yall are saying you don’t trust men around your daughters, you can’t trust some women around your sons. Seems people always forget about the sons in situations like these, & focus on the little girls

    • chanela

      there are sick women, but most people see nothing wrong with it. ask any man and they’ll tell you “that little boy is lucky!” or ” why didn’t they have female teachers molesting me?!?!” nobody sees anything wrong with little boys having sex with grown women. they think that’s a great accomplishment and that the boy deserves a medal or something.

      just look at the first 10 minutes of the movie “that’s my boy” and you’ll see how most people’s attitudes are towards female child molesters. ESPECIALLY if it’s an attractive white woman.. then the boy deserves a nobel peace prize. *eye roll*

  • Guest360

    In this case? Yes I do think it’s discrimination for the simple fact that evil people come in both genders. The woman was no more familiar to her than the man was but because she has a va-jay-jay and not a yankee doodle makes her less threatening? That doesn’t compute for me. You’ve got women on the news poisoning people with eye drops to get attention. Who’s to say something other than molestation wouldn’t have happened to that girl? Evil is everywhere. Instead of being suspicious of one gender, be suspicious of everyone. Since this was a young girl, she needed to have a flight attendant observing her at all times regardless of who she was sitting next to. I definitely see the hesitation when letting your children around strange men but where I grew up, I was taught strangers period could be dangerous. Not just the male ones. Especially today where more than a few people of both genders seem to have a couple of screws loose.

    • Erin

      And all the cases of women helping to lure children for their boyfriends and husbands, even participating in the molestation, rape, or unfortunately even murder. Women are just as suspect in my book the same thing with other children.

  • RealTalk

    Precisely, err on the side of caution against women, men and other CHILDREN who molest children. Everyone thinks its majority men but believe me its as many women and as many other kids because they were abuse themselves. I don’t send my daughter into the ladies room alone even for me to stand outside. I wouldn’t put my son in that situation either. I dont trust kids either. They play where I can see them. My aunt has told me too many horror stories in her line of work with kids. She removed elementary schools kids from households because they were molesting the babies while the parent was asleep or in the th bathroom, etc. Real talk.

    • http://www.facebook.com/nikki.page.37 Nikki Cartell

      i know of a similar situation where it was a 13 boy molesting a 9 yr old boy. they say that if it is a child it was done to them 1st either way you have to protect your kids from everyone these days.

  • La-Di-Da

    I don’t agree with the way the airline handled it. They could have been a lot more discreet! But I do think it’s a necessary precaution to take.
    Some 20 years ago my family stopped by the mall with (an adult male) friend of the family. He was going to stay in the car while everyone else went in to pick something up, and my sister told my dad she was going to stay in the car too. Well my dad put the kibosh on that right away! Once we were in the mall she asked why he wouldn’t let her stay with Mr. So & So, and his response was, “He’s my friend, but I don’t want either of my daughters to get in the habit of being alone with an adult male. I won’t allow that.” I have to say there’s wisdom in that and I’m happy my dad wasn’t scared to enforce that rule. I know it’s something I will also follow with my own children when I’m blessed to have them.

    • MLS2698

      Perfect! Extend that knowledge to you children.

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