You Gotta Shake It Off: 7 Signs That You’re Too Conservative And Need To Loosen Up!

October 28, 2012  |  
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Time flies! Before you know it, you’re waiting for retirement and looking forward to bingo night at the church. That’s expected…but not at your age. Your high morals and pristine standards set you apart from the rest. It’s possible that your friends make fun of you and constantly ell you to “lighten up”.

If you fall into these categories, it is absolutely time to let your hair down. Life is too short…live a little (and no you don’t have to do everything listed but by the end, you’ll have gotten the point).



Loud Music

Everybody has their jam and so do you. The difference is that you’re not turning your tunes up and anyone near you needs to follow suit. A concert?  HA, it’s never going to happen. There is no way you’re paying that kind of money to see someone who doesn’t even know you’re there.

Social Drinkers

You may sip a little here and there but no way would you ever dance on a table or let a man grind up on you like that. Your morals are impeccable. When you see those other “sad” women doing those things, you can’t imagine how low their self esteem must be. You’re the very definition of a lady and wouldn’t dare be caught smashed. Truthfully, you’re just afraid to let loose. Nobody asked for you to get your “Coyote Ugly” on but let everyone else enjoy themselves…with no judgement.

Tattoos and Piercings

Tattoos and Piercings will never be art. It’s just an excuse for someone to engage in self deprecating behavior. You respect your body and would NEVER do something as lame as smearing ink under your skin. Your self love is indisputable.



Drugs are bad and you stayed away from them with ease, as a teenager. So when you and your girls go to Vegas and they suggest that you guys do some spontaneous “different”, you’re completely turned off. As a matter of fact, it’s time to question your friendship. She knows that you’ve never so much as touched a cigarette and now she’s waving Mary Jane in your face? You’ve officially outgrown her! [Note: Come on now, we know there is no reason for anyone to engage in certain activities – especially something like this – if they don’t want to. The point is just to let others do THEIR thing without acting like the end is near.]


Everything is Bothersome

One woman has on too much makeup. Your man’s cologne is too strong. Everybody in a hoodie is a thug. A child stared at you too long in the department store. Everything in your path causes annoyance for you. You’re just all around miserable and it’s everyone else’s fault…or so you believe.


Control Issues

It’s either your way or the highway. People need to learn that your way is the best way and anything else that is going on is straight foolish. You wouldn’t be the success you are today without a rigid schedule and hardcore routine.


Joking is a No-no

You take yourself so seriously, there could never be a joke at your expense. If someone even tries to make fun of you, they get hit with the straight face and you annihilate their character immediately. You will not be the butt of anyone’s jokes. You are too serious for “lame” comedy and jokes.

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  • mac

    lol now, now. In the author’s defense, i know someone exactly like this.

    always pointing out how low other girls’ self esteem “must” be, nitpicking, turning her nose up at people, essentially complaining that everyone’s not like her. If you let her tell it, she’s the epitome of class. *rolls eyes*
    People like this are usually overcompensating for something else.

    Now, about the article.

    It sounded like the author was projecting a little. Sounded like she writing about a friend she recently had a falling out with. Especially the part about going to Vegas and drugs lol.
    I’m sorry if a friend offers me drugs, then yes. Yes I’m going to reevaluate the friendship. lol
    I’m mindful of the company I keep, that doesn’t mean I’m judging what you do, it just means I can’t afford to get your mess on me.

  • L-Boogie

    Interesting…(lost for words).

  • dbatt001

    ughh how dare you tell me that I’m too conservative and to change my morals and values?
    Fck U!…Is that loose enough for you btch?

    • dbatt001

      this was a little out of my character but this article struck a damn nerve.

    • Lrocka

      I have been Crying laughin at this comment for about 5mins. LOL

      But I feel you though. I am about 3/4s of the “too conservative” traits mentioned in the piece(can’t call it an article because it was trash water. BUT IDC i’ll be that! I am conservative, because IM GROWN! If one of my friends randomly offers me some weed after i’ve already spent 25yrs of my life drug free and this friend would know this my EXACT thought would be: “i’ve outgrown them” time to cut them loose. AND I’M UNAPOLOGETIC about. Now, I don’t pass judgement, you do you, you take your tats and drugs and enjoy your trip to court and/jail and i’ll continue to let my morals take me all the way to the bank.

      • dbatt001

        right, when ppl get ratchet at the club or get too drunk or smoke weed, that’s them doing them and I dont judge but I aint bout that life and Im not ashamed to say that. This is not the Bad Girls Club. I try to do the right thing. Key word “try”

  • Jaina

    LOL, this author must have an education level of an third grader. Please don’t write articles like this anymore. I’m dying on the floor laughing.

  • Kee

    WTF @ this article. Some people have no humanity for others these days and I find these people ANNOYING.

  • mochaaa

    wow what? im offended. because we don’t want to engage in dangerous behaviors like Drugs we’re tooo uptight yea ok.

  • FAMURattler85

    I’m conservative and proud.

  • Kayo Halana Malie

    My sentiments are the same as others here. Telling people to ‘loosen up’ to accept what you would accept is ridiculous.

  • NicPal

    Yuppers I agree with everyone this one is a trip…..

  • t_99

    This “article” is just wrong. Loosen up, and get tore down drunk and do drugs?!* That’s just ridiculous.

  • Meyaka

    I went to a party yesterday,it was supposed to be a grown classy affair. There was a stripper pole in the middle of the dance floor,people smoking weed,females shaking their bum all over the guys smoking weed,I mean I am a grown woman with my own business and stellar education what the hell I look like in that kind of setting?????? Needless to say I left as soon as everyone was engrossed in the latest anthem:”bands make her dance”. So hell to the no I’m not “letting my hair down”.

  • Just saying!!

    Hmmm according to this article I’m conversation (except I dont find everyone bothersome and I laugh/joke about almost anything). But it’s wrong in my opinion to say we are afraid to get loose and blah blah. Truth be told, I just am not attracted to tattoos and piercings and would not put something permanent on my body and I dont dance wild in public with guys because I don’t have the urge to.

    • Just saying!!

      And I don’t drink/do drugs because 1) I am a singer and 2) whats the point!? I have better ways to deal with my problems. So with that being sad, if I am conservative (which I def am according to this article) then good and oh well! 🙂

    • Just saying!!

      Sorry that should say I’m “conservative” not “conversation” lol damn autocorrect!

  • CaliforniaDiva77

    I must be the epitome of “Females that need to loosen up.” Outside of the body art and tattoos, I’m pretty much a square. But, to my credit, I’ve excelled in academics during my university years and in my career. Sometimes, being hemmed up is not so bad after all.

  • Machelle Kwan

    So loosening up and having fun is being passed out somewhere from being drunk, marking up my body with graffitti and smoking weed? Are you people serious. None of these things are who I am and getting drunk and possessing marijuana can actually get you locked up. Partying, drinking, and doing drugs is NOT living it up. Experiencing culture is living it up to me.

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  • Machelle Kwan

    I probably could loosen up a bit, but I am who I am. I don’t like drama and chaos. I like peace and order and structure in my life. I’m not gonna deal with anyone that doesn’t want the same. Drama kings and queens can keep it moving.

  • ANTMilf

    This “article” doesn’t look like it’s written by an adult female, more like a high schooler wrote this. There’s nothing wrong with being a little conservative, just because everybody likes and wants to do certain things like go clubbing and drinking doesn’t mean it’s okay for everybody. And as for the loud music, it’s annoying that people play their music (no matter the genre of music) from their cell phones in public places and people blasting music at night, especially when people have children who have to be in school in the morning and adults who have to be at work/school in the morning, that’s disturbing the peace!

  • LadyBB

    I don’t usually leave comments, but this article is just begging for one. This article was incredibly poor. Poor idea with poor execution. I have to agree who wrote this a kid? This isn’t even practical advice, it’s just ridiculous dribble. SMH

  • lalatarea

    BAD… just bad!

  • bluekissess

    Clicking through pages? Not happening

  • KG

    Who wrote this article? a 13 yo girl. This article is 1 of the most immature and stupid articles I’ve read on MN.

  • xxdiscoxxheaven

    ?? Smh at this article. The same conservative (judging) attitude you are preaching against is the one you are giving off. People are who they are and have the right to be who they wanna be. What you find fun could be completely different from someone else. Some people like XBOX. Are you gonna preach about them too. I guess American society just lives a conformist who likes to feel a hardon behind her as she passed on out the dance floor.

    • xxdiscoxxheaven