Do You Suffer From I Just Want To Prove He’ll Put a Ring On It Disease?

August 14th, 2012 - By Brande Victorian

That’s Evelyn Lozada’s hand right there with Chad’s, rocking a blinged-out wedding ring that she unfortunately wore for less time than her engagement ring given the news that she just filed for divorce from her husband Chad Johnson.

Most people are looking at this situation as the most calculated marriage scheme since Kim Kardashian and Kris Humphries, which sadly didn’t happen all that long ago. That Evelyn knew exactly what she was doing when she met Chad, got him to propose, married him, got into an altercation, put out a statement on domestic abuse, and finally filed for divorce. That it was all part of her master plan to increase the brand that is Evelyn Lozada and become the reality TV victim rather than the bully she’s come to be known as.

That’s one theory on this situation and then there’s the one I have about what’s going on. I do believe Evelyn knew exactly what she was doing when she married Chad, but I don’t think it was about –or all about—a paycheck, endorsements, and changing her image. I think she was trying to prove to naysayers that someone would wife her — I wouldn’t exactly call this a marriage—and that she and Chad would make it down the aisle, even if they would be in divorce court six weeks later as they are now.

I’m honestly not convinced that Evelyn is a lot different from most women, bullying aside. The reason no one is surprised that these two are divorcing is because we were all waiting for one of them to get the memo on the train wreck that was their relationship. Most of us didn’t understand how they couldn’t see what we did every time they were on camera together, or a part for that matter, and actually I’m pretty sure they did see it, they just ignored it, to their own demise as many couples do. Evelyn is no saint and the numerous ways in which Chad has screwed himself by this colossal mistake of hooking up with Ev requires an entirely separate post. But when it comes to Ochocinco, head butt aside, there isn’t a single person out here who is thinking, “hmmm, I wonder why Chad changed so quickly after the wedding?” That’s because he didn’t. He’s been the same person from day one. We knew it, Evelyn knows it, and Evelyn even expected it.

We all remember the infamous conversation during this past season of “Basketball Wives” when Evelyn explicitly told Chad:

“I want you to be 100 with me. I’d rather know. Tell me1 I wanna know. Go to the pharmacy and get condoms. I’mma be sick like a motherf–ker but what can I do but respect you and know that you’re telling me the truth rather than hide it. Because at the end of the day you don’t have to tell me nothing. I don’t want to have to babysit you but I’d rather you be real with me because Lord knows what could happen.”

Ol’ boy when to the pharmacy and got the condoms, why you mad Ev? Most people are thinking Evelyn probably didn’t expect Chad to cheat so soon, but I’d like to know if there was ever a time their relationship when they were exclusive? The sheer fact that she had to have that conversation speaks volumes. It wasn’t the typical pre-marital discussion a couple would have laying down expectations should they find themselves feeling sexually attracted to someone else down the line or possibly thinking they may cheat. This was please don’t bring me any diseases and let me know if I need to get tested. We were all as sick as Evelyn said she would be finding out Chad cheated when we watched her have this conversation with him, and it’s actually somewhat surreal that the behavior she outlined back in March is exactly what happened this past weekend.

So why would a woman even take the risk of walking down the aisle with a man like this? To try to prove someone would marry her. To attempt to save the face that is now cracked on the floor from critics who never thought they had a chance. To avoid admitting everyone else was right, including the best friend she lost over this man. Some women would rather be able to say they were a Mrs. for however many days, hours, or weeks it lasts simply to say, someone put a ring on it.

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  • JHsays

    A guy I’m dating said the following regarding the Chad/Evelyn situatuion: “The fact that she gave him a pass to sleep with other women should’ve clued him in to the type of woman he was dealing with, no respectable person allows shyt like that, unless in the rare case it’s a Christopher Reeves type situation.” I absolutely agree. You gave that man a free pass to disrespect you, you can’t possibly respect yourself. He jokingly said, “would you give me a hall pass like that?” I didn’t need to say a word, he already knew the answer to that one.

  • sweet_yams

    After she criticized Gloria for “not walking down the aisle” she must be embarrassed that her marriage only lasted a few weeks…Next time she should not be so judgmental

    • MLS2698

      It took her umpteen years to trick somebody into marrying, and she purchased a dress that she had to fashion into a heaux skirt! I guess she was trying to clown on Gloria because she and Matt have kids and still were not married. Tsk, Tsk.

  • Ann

    Yes, I think it was a scheme for Evelyn to get money. Since VH1 is stupid enough to pay these clowns $300,000. I don’t understand why these companies endorse these people that has a foul mouth that cuss and fight and willing to act a fool all the time. I don’t care if they are popular among viewers. Business must be bad for them to even stoop this low for these people to give them endorsement deals. I know we don’t have all the facts of what happened it is her story against Chad’s. I believe Evelyn cussed him out, jump on him, fought him, and he headbutted her. Evelyn has a tendency of wanting to cuss and fight. Chad knew from the start with Evelyn was ignorant and had a foul mouth. And Evelyn knew this guy was about nothing. They should have not gotten married in the first place. When I used to watch Basketball Wife that’s all Evelyn did was wanting to cuss and fight. Now since this has happened, as the author mention, Evelyn is going to ride on the abuse train for a while on this. I am against any person man or woman being victim of domestic violence, but in her case I believe she fought him. I don’t see how in the world any athlete want to be with her. They are just as crazy as her if they choose to get with her just because they think she is pretty. Never mind looking a the fact that she has no talent, has a foul mouth and always ready to brawl. It is really ashame that you do have women who is all about getting a ring just because it a 10, 12, 14 carat. It is not about learning to be a wife after the marriage. I don’t like Evelyn Lorzado nor will I be supporting any thing that she is involved due to her having a foul mouth and always cussing. Not only her, I will not be support anyone who has a foul mouth that curse and fight as well as acting a fool on tv. Kim Kardashian I don’t support any of her endeavors or her family.

  • Is It 5:00 Yet?

    This is an embarrassing situation for Evelyn, but I would be lying if I didn’t say it was predictable.

  • disqus_WfmNqv9gsC

    what an excellent article, i was thinking this from the jump

  • Korey

    I simply feel for Evelyn because in a matter of four days she lost a marriage, a man, a source of income and a lot of pride and dignity. But I do think her insecurity and naive nature played into this. You KNOW Chad has a voracious sex drive and you even discussed it. Why you are surprised is beyond me. But I understand her hurt. She’s been getting played for a long time she gave up all hope and settled for what was right right then. I hope she finds peace and learn that she made it far alone and just focus on finding love and not a ring. She experienced the ring, the ceremony and the party… She needs to now focus on LOVE and TRUST and SECURITY.

    • Na Na

      not too mention her brother-in-law passed away from cancer too.

  • Miss_Understood

    I sooo agree with this article. I believe a lot of women are so desperate to be someone’s Mrs that they’ll put up with almost anything-and that’s with no fame or financial reward attached.

    Evelyn has proved herself to be very calculating so I wouldn’t be surprised if this was all in her plans. She was obviously bothered by everyone calling her a loose sideline chick but thinking that getting this baby mama making, fame mongering ego maniac would clean up her image was definitely a miscalculation…

  • Guest360

    I’m going to give Ev the benefit of the doubt here and try to empathize with her. I know way too many women who are just like the women described in this article. Desperate for anyone, even low down dirty dogs, to choose and marry them. Even at the expense of the naysayers, the friends, the family. It’s all about proving others expectations wrong. But the signs were all there. She knew he was full of himself and she liked it. She knew he had a wondering eye but told the man she would go to pick up his condoms so long as she knew he wanted to screw someone else. “Imma be sick but I’ll respect you”? HUH?!! Evelyn is the perfect case of a woman with low self-esteem whether it’s because she’s jealous of other women, insecure, or willing to accept anything from a man just to say she’s got a ring on her finger. It’s sad to be honest with you. She needs a good therapist and needs to seriously think about getting her life in order. No one deserves to be beaten by their husbands but she had all the signs well before now and called this exact situation literally months ago!

  • Hello_Kitty81

    Celebs these days don’t take marriage seriously, and so do regular folks.

    • Kayo

      That should say, “…and NEITHER do regular folks.”

  • FromUR2UB

    I knew this article had to be about this couple. I’ve heard their names together for some time, but really never knew much about either of them. But when a man gives his woman a head-butt like he’s in a bar fight, I can’t believe this is the first time that kind of craziness showed up. For some women, anything is tolerable until they walk down the aisle. It’s as though they only want to be able to say they’ve BEEN married, then once they can, they finally reach their threshhold.

  • Mila

    This whole train wreck speaks volume to the real relationship they had compared to what they portrayed and thought in their minds. Evelyn sat the bar in her relationship low from the start. It goes to show how much she thinks she deserves.

  • Gimmeabreak78

    Okay. I can appreciate the author suggesting that Evelyn might have low self-esteem for marrying Chad. This is probably true, and she wouldn’t be the first woman to have married a totally inappropriate man. However, the other side of it requires examination too. Ev didn’t force Chad to marry her. He asked her, and she agreed. So why wouldn’t Chad Johnson suffer from self-esteem issues as well? After all, he was an aging football player with diminishing talent (not to mention diminishing pop culture relevance) when all of a sudden a flash-in-the pan reality star with the reality star paycheck comes along and starts paying him a little attention. I believe in his younger, wealthier days, Evelyn would have simply been a woman Chad slept with during an away game and never thought about again. However, something about this foul-mouthed, violent, promiscuous, notoriously gold-digging woman seemed like wife material to him. Sure, Evelyn might have fallen prey to everything we warn our sisters and daughters about in men, but I think it’s fair to say that Chad also fell prey to everything we warn our brothers and sons about concerning women. It’s just sad to know that neither one of them thought they deserved better.

    • MLS2698

      I don’t think either of them feel anything is wrong about their character. Everyone is a hater to them.

    • JHsays

      Very well said!

  • guest

    Reminds me of Star Jones rushing to marry a gay dude.

    But on the topic, yeah they only got married for spin off show purposes.

  • MLS2698

    A need to feel wanted…….yes, this is a death sentence because all types of men propose marriage, but it doesn’t make them marriage material. And the flip side of that, is a woman who jumps in a man’s face suggesting, or proposing marriage in some type of ” woman’s lib ” movement.

  • Kayo

    Probably a master plan for her to become more famous.