Madame On The Street: Should You Live Together Before Marriage?

August 14th, 2012 - By MN Editor

Shacking up, living in sin, cohabiting, getting to know someone before you make it official–if you ever make it official, are all terms that could be applied to living with someone before you get married. While some are vehemently against the idea for personal or even spiritual reasons, others feel it’s a great way to see what you’re getting yourself into. We took to the streets of New York to see what a couple of pedestrians thought about the subject. See what they had to say.

What do you think, should couples live together first?

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  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000928349046 Debby Ai Orton

    i don’t think its a good idea. aside from the temptation there, there might be a habit either parties involved might not stand and that might lead to splitting up. whereas when you living together after getting married, and issues like that arise, you learn to compromise, rather than give up and quit all together…

  • Latasha

    Reasons why a woman or man should not cohabitate with a romantic partner outside of marriage.
    1. May fornicate and have kids and then break up and kids do not grow up with two loving parents in the same house
    2. Cheating may occur ( ya’ll are not married so maybe that is because ya’ll aren’t completely devoted to the other person)
    3. May end up breaking up and everything ya’ll shared has to be divided which may lead to court situation.
    I am aware that these situations may occur after a divorce, but i think when two people who are not married live together, there is more of a chance that they will split because there is not a commitment.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_JAI4SRENU2A5WKRTELXXYJPDSI Kayla

    It all depends on the couple… it works for some and for others it doesn’t

  • Erika

    I say no. Even statistics show that thats not a good idea.

  • DinVilla

    The bible has the answer….NO

  • Tiffany

    It depends on the people and the relationship. I met my husband in college and in less than a year we got an apartment together and lived together for several years and still got married. 7 years and 2 kids later, we are fine. On the other hand, I know a couple who did the whole not living together before marriage thing and wound up in divorce less than a year later and they had been together 4 years prior to getting married.

  • CarlaKah

    When you’ve picked a wedding date and have had the engagement party (+ring of course). why not. You can always back out if the person isn’t for you.

  • http://www.facebook.com/greenapplehair Tiffany Rodkell

    It depends on your love story. I say go with the flow of things. Everyone’s life is different, I don’t believe there’s a set answer for this…

  • live-in mate

    coming from a person who actually lives with their mate now..I’m conflicted in this answer.
    yes – it gives you a chance to fully know the person you want to someday call your husband/wife. Then you can see if you can deal with their flaws/habits
    no – there is a level of complacency that comes with the territory. Therefore, I would recommend that standards and goals for the relationship is set.
    No way to I plan on living with a person and not gaining anything….something’s got to give or its a wrap!!

    • MLS2698

      Will you leave if he starts to stall, and what was originally thought to be a year of living together, turns into five years? I’ve heard of women agreeing to move in, then become angry when the man won’t propose, or seems unsure about commitment.

      • ms lady

        As a woman in the same situation I put it out there what my expectations were and gave him a time limit. It will hurt like hell if the time draws near and he doesn’t proposeI am leaving. This will be a lesson learned but hopefully I wont have to experience that.

  • Smacks_hoes

    Yay my question!! Lol

  • Adrina

    To answer the question…No! And didn’t you guys just write an article on this. #ohwell

  • diggy p.

    I personally don’t think it is a good idea to “shack up”. Too many black women cohabitate with a man and he gets way too used to it. Most of the time he is shacking up with her! He is getting food, comfort, and sexual healing from a women he will most likely never call his wife. Why should he though?! You’re giving it away without him putting forth the effort of having to put a ring on your finger.

    • Iluvm

      Right!!!

    • Jess

      I agree !! :D

    • Adriane

      Why pay for the cow when you’re getting the milk for free is the saying that came to mind when I read this comment and I agree completely, if he wants it he should have to work for it.